Can a couple make a marriage work in order to keep the kids in a proper enviorment.

[tharoomman]

I used to think I knew the answer to that. However.....now, I don't fucking know.

Course if I stopped doing a lot of things, it might make things better.....


I mean, there are arraigned marriages that happen all the time and people make it work..



So chime in RIU. Sarcasm, flaming, wisdom in any denominations, are welcome.

 

[slowbus]

oh yeah,women are the most reasonable creatures out there

 

[SSHZ]

It's often better in the long run for the kids to separate so the children aren't continually exposed to an unhealthy marriage.

 

[CC Dobbs]

Forcing a relationship to continue is an example to children on how to force a relationship to continue.

 

[OddBall1st]

You`ll find no gratitude in children. Bringing them up in a phoney relationship and false sense of love wont get it from them either.

 

[gioua]

what your doing is what most addicts do... loose their family.. gonna be blunt with you man.. you know your answer to what YOU need to do..

a little bit of fun is not worth going thru what you will go thru alone..

you dont see many successful drug addicts but you see many successful people become addicts..

 

[tharoomman]

what your doing is what most addicts do... loose their family.. gonna be blunt with you man.. you know your answer to what YOU need to do..

a little bit of fun is not worth going thru what you will go thru alone..

you dont see many successful drug addicts but you see many successful people become addicts..

So to go a little further into my predicament. She was a girl with no place to call home and a 2 year old. I let them into my home and asked for nothing in return. Sex was just something that happened...and happened...ect....then she got pregnant.OFCOURSE. We both agreed that because of the baby we were gonna make it work. Me and her both have 1 child with a parent whom we are no longer in a relationship with and neither of us wanted to add a number to that tally. Surly not my ass. TWO "baby mommas" BTW I hate that saying. She is def not someone I would go after. We are different in all the wrong ways and sooooooo much alike in all the WRONG WAYS.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAh.lkasjdflkasdjlfkjasdlkfjsadlkf Anyone wanna buy a kidney? maybe I can throw some money at this and it will all be better.

 

[curious2garden]

I used to think I knew the answer to that. However.....now, I don't fucking know.

Course if I stopped doing a lot of things, it might make things better.....


I mean, there are arraigned marriages that happen all the time and people make it work..



So chime in RIU. Sarcasm, flaming, wisdom in any denominations, are welcome.

Please listen to gioua and I am very sorry. The kid(s) would be best off in the long run with you both there. The only way you can both be there is sober ;(

oh yeah,women are the most reasonable creatures out there

You think I'm unreasonable?

So to go a little further into my predicament. She was a girl with no place to call home and a 2 year old. I let them into my home and asked for nothing in return. Sex was just something that happened...and happened...ect....then she got pregnant.OFCOURSE. We both agreed that because of the baby we were gonna make it work. Me and her both have 1 child with a parent whom we are no longer in a relationship with and neither of us wanted to add a number to that tally. Surly not my ass. TWO "baby mommas" BTW I hate that saying. She is def not someone I would go after. We are different in all the wrong ways and sooooooo much alike in all the WRONG WAYS.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAh.lkasjdflkasdjlfkjasdlkfjsadlkf Anyone wanna buy a kidney? maybe I can throw some money at this and it will all be better.

Clean up, get a job and become a dad. All you have to do is be nice, relatively polite and pretend you like her for a few years. That seems fairly reasonable, rational and logical, Slowbus what you think?

 

[Fenian Brotherhood]

I think that No child deserves to be separated. You get certain Traits and knowledge from both sides.. If a child only gets One.. They won't proceed properly in life.

If you can't do it. No one blames you. Give the child up and have a Happy couple whos willing to give the child the best of both worlds

 

[Granny weed]

So to go a little further into my predicament. She was a girl with no place to call home and a 2 year old. I let them into my home and asked for nothing in return. Sex was just something that happened...and happened...ect....then she got pregnant.OFCOURSE. We both agreed that because of the baby we were gonna make it work. Me and her both have 1 child with a parent whom we are no longer in a relationship with and neither of us wanted to add a number to that tally. Surly not my ass. TWO "baby mommas" BTW I hate that saying. She is def not someone I would go after. We are different in all the wrong ways and sooooooo much alike in all the WRONG WAYS.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAh.lkasjdflkasdjlfkjasdlkfjsadlkf Anyone wanna buy a kidney? maybe I can throw some money at this and it will all be better.

You know you could have prevented this child being conceived, in this day and age it has never been so easy to prevent a pregnancy, you were both totally irresponsible to create another child. As for staying together to make it work for the children that's not always a good idea, I speak from experience you think you will hurt your children if you separate from their father/mother what ever and then when they grow up and become adults themselves they tell you that you should have left! Relationships are not easy without children but with children its a whole new ball game, I think you need to face up to your responsibilities and stop being an asshole.

 

[tharoomman]

You know you could have prevented this child being conceived, in this day and age it has never been so easy to prevent a pregnancy, you were both totally irresponsible to create another child. As for staying together to make it work for the children that's not always a good idea, I speak from experience you think you will hurt your children if you separate from their father/mother what ever and then when they grow up and become adults themselves they tell you that you should have left! Relationships are not easy without children but with children its a whole new ball game, I think you need to face up to your responsibilities and stop being an asshole.

I don't think abortion was ever in the picture for either of us. And now that I can put my eyes on what could possibly be the best baby on this entire planet, I wouldn't have been able to do it. Its not there fault we fucked up.

I know I can be an asshole. But I can also be such a good person. I've always thought over the years that I was Bipolar or MPD or something like that. Now that I've got a Family Doctor and insurance, I might see what they say about.


Who knows ,RIU.

 

[Fenian Brotherhood]

Just Cross your Fingers it's not a Ginger...

Hey, what do you get when you cross a Ginger with a jamaican?

A Ginger-Bred-Mon!

HAHAHAHAHAH!!

 

[hempyninja309]

It's often better in the long run for the kids to separate so the children aren't continually exposed to an unhealthy marriage.

I agree. My parents tried to stay together for me and my sisters and it did more harm than good to everyone in the family.

 

[mr sunshine]

Leave that hoe football seasons about to start!

 

[Skuxx]

When I was a wee one and my parents were talking about divorce... I was kind of excited about probably getting more presents... and having to different places to fuck around at. But that's just selfish old me. I never understood how a divorce could hurt a child that much... It's definitely worse to stay together and the kid hear "shut the fuck up you dirty little whore! All you do is sit around and drink all day!"... and so on.

and it gets really awkward when you hear you mom say something to your dad about him not being able to get hard.

 

[slowbus]

Please listen to gioua and I am very sorry. The kid(s) would be best off in the long run with you both there. The only way you can both be there is sober ;(



You think I'm unreasonable?



Clean up, get a job and become a dad. All you have to do is be nice, relatively polite and pretend you like her for a few years. That seems fairly reasonable, rational and logical, Slowbus what you think?

The last part is the words every guy hates to hear ^^^^its not the first time you made me it my words.IMO,you are def an exception

 

[tharoomman]

Clean up, get a job and become a dad. All you have to do is be nice, relatively polite and pretend you like her for a few years. That seems fairly reasonable, rational and logical, Slowbus what you think?

Respect. True words spoken.

 

[curious2garden]

The last part is the words every guy hates to hear ^^^^its not the first time you made me it my words.IMO,you are def an exception

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to slowbus again.
You are such a sweetie! You are so funny too! Thank you.

Respect. True words spoken.

Oh you know it too but thank you that was a very kind compliment. I wish I had actually followed my own advice. I went to work and school and abandoned my family. You can't get back those years. So I really hope you can pull this together.

 

[see4]

Forcing a relationship to continue is an example to children on how to force a relationship to continue.

which might not be a terrible thing. family is good. it might teach the child to make sure they choose the right partner when they get older.. or it might teach them to be a fucking adult and do the right thing by your child and stick together until they are old enough to be on there own... 50% divorce rate says something about social maturity, poorly.

 

[stoned cockatoo]

So to go a little further into my predicament. She was a girl with no place to call home and a 2 year old. I let them into my home and asked for nothing in return. Sex was just something that happened...and happened...ect....then she got pregnant.OFCOURSE. We both agreed that because of the baby we were gonna make it work. Me and her both have 1 child with a parent whom we are no longer in a relationship with and neither of us wanted to add a number to that tally. Surly not my ass. TWO "baby mommas" BTW I hate that saying. She is def not someone I would go after. We are different in all the wrong ways and sooooooo much alike in all the WRONG WAYS.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAh.lkasjdflkas djlfkjasdlkfjsadlkf Anyone wanna buy a kidney? maybe I can throw some money at this and it will all be better.

uh oh sounds like a keep-a-nigga baby

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