It is the "but" in your sentence that I think hints at the problem. There is nothing wrong with upholding and advocating for ALL the values that are important to you. We all should do that. Just pretty please don't use the government to legislate your values!
Man, there are so many children in need of a loving home. It seems like you would rather them be raised in a transitional and in some cases broken foster care system where they have NO mother or father. It seems like you sorta make up these gay parenting disadvantages in your head and then present them as fact.
Here's why I believe what I believe, backed by sources...
1. According to the
American Psychological Association Policy Statement on Sexual Orientation, Parents, & Children, "there is no reliable evidence that homosexual orientation per se impairs psychological functioning. Second, beliefs that lesbian and gay adults are not fit parents have no empirical foundation.
2. The
American Psychological Association also states "Research suggests that sexual identities (including gender identity, gender-role behavior, and sexual orientation) develop in much the same ways among children of lesbian mothers as they do among children of heterosexual parents".
3. There is no conclusive evidence that homosexuality is linked to one's environment. In other words, growing up in a gay couple household will not "make" a child gay. Read
Nature vs. Nurture: Born or Made Gay.
All of the research to date has reached the same unequivocal conclusion about gay parenting: the children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as successfully as the children of heterosexual parents. In fact, not a single study has found the children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged because of their parents' sexual orientation.
See Bailey, J.M., Bobrow, D., Wolfe, M. & Mikach, S. (1995), Sexual orientation of adult sons of gay fathers,
Developmental Psychology, 31, 124-129; Bozett, F.W. (1987).
Children of gay fathers, F.W. Bozett (Ed.),
Gay and Lesbian Parents (pp. 39-57), New York: Praeger; Gottman, J.S. (1991), Children of gay and lesbian parents, F.W. Bozett & M.B. Sussman, (Eds.),
Homosexuality and Family Relations (pp. 177-196), New York: Harrington Park Press; Golombok, S., Spencer, A., & Rutter, M. (1983), Children in lesbian and single-parent households: psychosexual and psychiatric appraisal,
Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 24, 551-572; Green, R. (197
, Sexual identity of 37 children raised by homosexual or transsexual parents,
American Journal of Psychiatry, 135, 692-697; Huggins, S.L.