This sounds very much like emotional detachment or "intellectualizing" - knowming you (get it) i seriously doubt you are advocating that but wanted to point out the dangerous similarity. I say dangerous since being emotionally detached, analytical and intellectual about life can remove a lot of sorrow, frustration and anger yes, but also robs us of euphoric pleasures and emotional involvement. Like most things, extremes are to be avoided and meeting somewhere in the middle - having a passion for life but knowing how and when and where to be passionate is the key i think.
your examples where personal, touching, and illuminating.
Definitely not advocating emotional detachment.. thank you for clarifying..
it is actually "sitting" with emotion rather than acting on emotion.. or more accurately stated "reacting" or telling oneself a story...
It is removing the story that comes with emotion....
THIS is so great.. this sucks so bad..... i am so smart.. I am so stupid....etc..
and then finally going THROUGH or shall I say beyond emotion.. to ONE's TRUE SELF of COMPLETE CONTENTMENT
BUT the hurdles are many -
IT requires an "I" to have emotion...
I am so pissed at her
It requires an ego to have emotion..
I am so wonderful
It requires arguing with reality
That should have never happened to me
It requires self centeredness to have an emotion...
I am right and he is wrong!
It requires entitlement to have emotion
Those people were mean to me!
It requires defensiveness to have emotion
Well if having no emotion is having no business then I will have BUSINESS.. !!! life would be dull without emotion!!
THESE are all made up stories to preserve the EGO... to preserve the trauma and roller coaster that comes with BEING emotional.. letting emotion take ONE away from THEIR true self
I am distinguishing between "having" and "experiencing"...
I experience anger... this is totally normal...
I am angry .... this is loosing oneself in cheap emotion
Through practice, one can get through HAVING... and into EXPERIENCING.. and then finally move to dwelling in total euphoria.... pure consciousness....
NO story.. no excuses.. NO "buts", no blaming, no business
just living life like a rock star in love