need help...PLEASE

ok....well im a noob...and am learning as i go...now this is of course my first and only plant....and i know its a hermie.....it has more female characteristics thatn male.....but my question surronds the calyxes and pistils

1)i've notices that the pistils have changed color...i'd say about 10% of the plant, but i don't see any swollen calyxes anywhere.
(would anyone have a closeup picture of what i'm soppused to look, i may have just missed it.)

2) i've also been picking what would be considered the balls (they split open and 5 things hang from them) but for the past couple days i have noticed that i missed quite a few, and the pods do not open completely to the point that the things hang down, but does open enough to see that there is those pollen things (?) and they have changed color at the tips.

please anyone help....open to all advice.....greatly appreciated

Are you 100% sure it's a hermie. here is a chart of plant characteristics..

there are pistils evertwhere........and everything that i've read says that only the felmales produse these...is that correct

2)It's looks like little bananas, keep picking them as you see them.
Yes, if you let'em open, it will flower your plant. In fact you might end up with a handful of worthless seeds and next to no bud by the time you harvest.

1)Have to buy a microscope, that's the only way to tell. Don't worrie about the pistils. temps/fan can cause pistils to change color early.

Sorry your first grow went bad....If you don't know, it did.
Light leak somewhere? where did you get the seed?
what kind of stress has this plant been though?

thanks...it was just a bag seed...didn't think at the time it was going to grow....(kinda always thought i had a black thimb) but it's here...so it's my baby for now.....just trying to learn as i grow...it actually stayed outside for most of the process (potted plant) but i still place outside for the nautural sunlight, then place in closet for the dark period....i have enclosed myself in the closet i place it in...and there are no light leaks....that i have noticed....one thing though...it used to fall asleep at night when it was outside but for the last week....i would retrieve in the morning from out the closet and the plant is still awake....any thoughts.....