Leilani Garden
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Pirate, I do acknowledge that you have made some relevant points; however, I don't think you've read both of my posts on this thread. With my teen living with me, NO WAY will I do it. And I have made that decision not only because of legal ramifications, but because of the emotional damage that could be done to him were he "in on it" and basically be forced to become my accomplice. In other words, although I have no ethical problems with marijuana (for responsible ADULT use) and I find nothing ethically wrong with growing, either for personal or commercial use, a teenager in the mix, even if one thinks that kid does not know, is huge blunder--in every damned way: ethically, legally, emotionally. I feel a tremendous amount of ethical responsibility because I am a parent.
ALso, I need to retract something. I found out I was wrong about my state's laws regarding schools, daycares, etc. It's much less than 1000 feet, so even if I do undertake this, that's not a concern of mine. I'd advise anyone else to check that for their own state. And according to Dan on this thread, in some states, even bus stops are included in this. Churches too.
Regarding the friend who grows, she had me a house guest (which is a yearly thing), and there really was no way to hide it from me. And there was no reason for her to fear me knowing. I don't care. I applaud her for it. She thought, or somehow inferred, that I had mentioned it to another very close friend and got really upset. I had not let that info slip, but even if I had, this other friend is not a threat at all. Just not. These are women I've known for over twenty years, one a nurse, the other a social worker. I know, I know, I know . . . no one who does not have to know should not know, but in this case, the second friend is no threat at all. Disclaimer: By making that statement, I am not saying that it's fine to blab to anyone you think is a friend. I just trust both of these women implicitly and know that the second one was no threat to the other. BUT I DO GET IT: Don't tell if they don't need to know. Yes. And one more time, I did not let the info slip. I wasn't even thinking: "Don't let R know about A's grow! Just be cool." It never occurred to me. One grows. One doesn't. And I happen to know them both. Was not a big deal to me at all, IOW, I was not waiting with impatience to tell B, Oh, wow, you gotta hear this! Nah, we had other things to chat about.
More troubling, in my opinion, are those who think it's just peachy to let teens in on the grow. I'll come right out here and be judgmental: those are not good parenting actions. I don't care how much you trust your children, how "cool" you think you or your children are, people who do that are NOT cool. Just because one enjoys imbibing in marijuana does not make one cool. Cool is demonstrated by other things. Being a cool parent means being the best parent one can be, whether one smokes or not. And involving children in this "hobby" is NOT like involving them in growing tomatoes, for the simple reason that it is still illegal. It makes no difference for this argument WHY it is illegal or whether or not one agrees with it. The fact is, it is illegal; involving kids in it is decidedly UNCOOL.
About the twenty-one-year-old who found the grow room: why was there no lock on the office/ guest room? If you don't want guests in your home to know, put a lock on the door, and take the other precautions (odor control, etc). That was an easily avoided blunder. Bummer, though.
ALso, I need to retract something. I found out I was wrong about my state's laws regarding schools, daycares, etc. It's much less than 1000 feet, so even if I do undertake this, that's not a concern of mine. I'd advise anyone else to check that for their own state. And according to Dan on this thread, in some states, even bus stops are included in this. Churches too.
Regarding the friend who grows, she had me a house guest (which is a yearly thing), and there really was no way to hide it from me. And there was no reason for her to fear me knowing. I don't care. I applaud her for it. She thought, or somehow inferred, that I had mentioned it to another very close friend and got really upset. I had not let that info slip, but even if I had, this other friend is not a threat at all. Just not. These are women I've known for over twenty years, one a nurse, the other a social worker. I know, I know, I know . . . no one who does not have to know should not know, but in this case, the second friend is no threat at all. Disclaimer: By making that statement, I am not saying that it's fine to blab to anyone you think is a friend. I just trust both of these women implicitly and know that the second one was no threat to the other. BUT I DO GET IT: Don't tell if they don't need to know. Yes. And one more time, I did not let the info slip. I wasn't even thinking: "Don't let R know about A's grow! Just be cool." It never occurred to me. One grows. One doesn't. And I happen to know them both. Was not a big deal to me at all, IOW, I was not waiting with impatience to tell B, Oh, wow, you gotta hear this! Nah, we had other things to chat about.
More troubling, in my opinion, are those who think it's just peachy to let teens in on the grow. I'll come right out here and be judgmental: those are not good parenting actions. I don't care how much you trust your children, how "cool" you think you or your children are, people who do that are NOT cool. Just because one enjoys imbibing in marijuana does not make one cool. Cool is demonstrated by other things. Being a cool parent means being the best parent one can be, whether one smokes or not. And involving children in this "hobby" is NOT like involving them in growing tomatoes, for the simple reason that it is still illegal. It makes no difference for this argument WHY it is illegal or whether or not one agrees with it. The fact is, it is illegal; involving kids in it is decidedly UNCOOL.
About the twenty-one-year-old who found the grow room: why was there no lock on the office/ guest room? If you don't want guests in your home to know, put a lock on the door, and take the other precautions (odor control, etc). That was an easily avoided blunder. Bummer, though.