HotNSexyMILF
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Is this her push present you're talking about?
Pregnancy gift - somebody help me. females take alook!
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HotNSexyMILF
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Well. I know you're not online currently, but just a thought on the workout stuff- it'll be a waste for bout the first month- with all the bleeding she'll have, the pain from the episiotomy, and everything else the last thing she'll be doing is working out, seriously. When she is ready to work out though you might want to look into the mother/baby yoga classes or dvds- they're a light way to get the body back into a routine of working out without too much stress and it's a great bonding experience between the mother and the baby.
Check with your local spas about post birth massages and wraps- some spas have special wraps that will help tighten up the loose skin after childbirth. If your woman is self conscious she will probably have a hard time adjusting to her post pregnancy body as it takes a few months for the body to readjust and tighten the skin back up.
Even if she isn't deciding to breastfeed make sure you have the boppy pillow.. it's perfect to use to sit on while the episiotomy is healing- so there's no pressure there.. I had an all natural childbirth with no medication, and honestly.. the healing from the episiotomy was worse than the childbirth itself from my perspective.
The merriemaids idea or the meals is a good one though I could see how expensive that could be. My mother actually rounded up the cooks in my family to make a bunch of dinners and froze them all- a stock of home cooked frozen dinners for a new mommy is a godsend, seriously.
Honestly though, it may seem cheesey or stupid but sending her to go shopping, the spa, and maybe to get her hair done is all most new mothers want.. I've known a lot of women who feel neglected right after the baby, they just went through hell and all anyone cares about is the baby. Make her feel special and appreciated, and give her a lot of help- she will be exhausted and in pain for weeks after the birth.. it doesn't matter if she spends money on 'crap'- as long as the 'crap' makes her feel good at the moment and let's her remember she's still a women separate from a mother the gift is doing it's job..
Oh well, I think I said enough for now, if my opinion can help further with anything let me know... congrats and good luck with the little one!
Check with your local spas about post birth massages and wraps- some spas have special wraps that will help tighten up the loose skin after childbirth. If your woman is self conscious she will probably have a hard time adjusting to her post pregnancy body as it takes a few months for the body to readjust and tighten the skin back up.
Even if she isn't deciding to breastfeed make sure you have the boppy pillow.. it's perfect to use to sit on while the episiotomy is healing- so there's no pressure there.. I had an all natural childbirth with no medication, and honestly.. the healing from the episiotomy was worse than the childbirth itself from my perspective.
The merriemaids idea or the meals is a good one though I could see how expensive that could be. My mother actually rounded up the cooks in my family to make a bunch of dinners and froze them all- a stock of home cooked frozen dinners for a new mommy is a godsend, seriously.
Honestly though, it may seem cheesey or stupid but sending her to go shopping, the spa, and maybe to get her hair done is all most new mothers want.. I've known a lot of women who feel neglected right after the baby, they just went through hell and all anyone cares about is the baby. Make her feel special and appreciated, and give her a lot of help- she will be exhausted and in pain for weeks after the birth.. it doesn't matter if she spends money on 'crap'- as long as the 'crap' makes her feel good at the moment and let's her remember she's still a women separate from a mother the gift is doing it's job..
Oh well, I think I said enough for now, if my opinion can help further with anything let me know... congrats and good luck with the little one!
drobro23
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this right here is experience talkingIf you want to go for brownie points, something thoughtful will always go down well. After the baby she'll be very very busy and will get very tired (probably won't get a lot of down time though). If you're aware of her needs and try to take some of the pressure off her I guarantee she will appreciate it. A cute idea is to make her up a book of 'vouchers'... things that she will like. Erm... I don't know what she's into, but for example...
'This voucher entitles the bearer to one free foot massage'. (These are much sought-after in my experience)
'This voucher entitles the bearer to one child-free afternoon with the girls'. (You baby-sit so that she can go out with her sister, mother, friends etc)
'This voucher entitles the bearer to one full night's sleep'. (Your turn to get up to the baby ALL night long)
'This voucher entitles the bearer to (her favourite dessert) served in bed'. (Well, that's up to you)
Tell her that she can redeem them at any time, and be prepared to do whatever the voucher mentions for her whenever she thinks that she needs. I find that this kind of thoughtful gift is often more appreciated... and can often turn into a whole lot of fun and lovin'.
But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't spend some decent kind of money on her too. After all, the woman is giving you the greatest gift that you will ever recieve... make sure you show her that you understand that. Buy flowers for the hospital, her favourite food (because hospital food sucks), and something pretty (maybe earrings or a necklace... shoes or clothes... what's she like?). Then when you take them home, make sure the house is clean and she doesn't have to do anything. Again... buy flowers... women love them.
And just generally be receptive to her needs for the next two or three years. If she looks tired give her a shoulder massage. If she's getting stressed, make her a cup of coffee and make her sit down for a while, talk to each other and get her mind off how hard her new job is. That sort of thing.
But beware, that all sounds a lot easier than it actually is. You will have a baby in the house....
Good luck, smokeh.
hmm, well we was supposed to have the baby today but long story short, they sent us home so i have abit longer too look for a gift.
we had a little talk and i was gonna buy a digital camera so that we can take pictures of the baby and then email or print and give to family.
not sure yet though, ive been too busy too look at other things. im just about to start looking at prices for stuff.
cheers for every1s input
we had a little talk and i was gonna buy a digital camera so that we can take pictures of the baby and then email or print and give to family.
not sure yet though, ive been too busy too look at other things. im just about to start looking at prices for stuff.
cheers for every1s input
HotNSexyMILF
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Funny you mentioned the camera.. lol.. I got a digital cam with the docking printer for my push present..
i bet u used it alot to take pictures of the new addition to the family. were only a young couple and have only just purchased a house. we dont have alot of things at the moment. well......... the nice things. i only have a 5mega pixel phone and it isnt that good.
my girl has only just bought a new photo printer, so she has been printing pics off of us and putting them in frames. im sure she will be snapping loads of photo's of the baby.
my girl has only just bought a new photo printer, so she has been printing pics off of us and putting them in frames. im sure she will be snapping loads of photo's of the baby.
Florida Girl
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While the camera is a great idea... it's really something you would both be using so not really a gift for her.
I think a gift to her should be something special just for her. I think something like a bracelet... or better yet a locket necklace that you can put a picture of the baby in after it's born. It will be extra special if you have it engraved with something from your heart. Here's kinda what I'm thinking http://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TRproduct_10001_9951_999586281__3615_3616_1895___?occasionId=10200_1_Her|~|~|~|~|~
Of course you have to consider her taste in jewelry ... and select a piece that suits her style. Any jeweler should be able to help you. As you can see by the link I put up... it doesn't have to cost a fortune either.
Just remember, this gift isn't about a high dollar item.... it's about the intimacy you two share.... and you acknowledging the special bond you have..... at least from the woman's point of view that's what it is about
Best of luck.... and congratulations!!!!
well she doesnt really wear jewelry. i bought her a watch and a braclet and an engagement ring.
her watch (an expensive one!) is left on the bedside table and she doesnt wear the braclet any more (again, expensive!), i think she does for special occasions though. and the only ring she has left on her finger is the engagement ring bcoz all her others had to come off as they were getting stuck as she got 'more pregnant'
so it'd probably be a good gift, but for about a month then i wouldnt see it on her again.
although the engraving thing isnt too bad. at least i know she will keep it safe and not leave it somewhere around the house.
too many things to choose now! lol
her watch (an expensive one!) is left on the bedside table and she doesnt wear the braclet any more (again, expensive!), i think she does for special occasions though. and the only ring she has left on her finger is the engagement ring bcoz all her others had to come off as they were getting stuck as she got 'more pregnant'
so it'd probably be a good gift, but for about a month then i wouldnt see it on her again.
although the engraving thing isnt too bad. at least i know she will keep it safe and not leave it somewhere around the house.
too many things to choose now! lol
HotNSexyMILF
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TONS of pictures is an understatement. Make sure to get lots of pictures in the hospital too.. those first moments are so precious..
If you do go the camera route don't forget the separate memory stick- a big one. LOL.
splif face killah
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Get a fuck ton of percocet she'll want it more than anything, speaking from experience!
