i think i might be quitting

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curious2garden

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No. You put those precise words into her e-mouth. Now you are backpedaling, trying to hide in vagary. It never was about general or consensus; it was you executing a finely-weighed and specific attack on one selected person. The term to cover your behavior is "dishonest". The smooth game of implication by which you don't REALLY say who is "fighting with an intention of hurting someone's feelings" is more plausible deniability to wrap around the sneaky way you've set up this post to be divisive.

You've been on this board under another name. I wonder why you chose to return with a blank-slate persona.
Yup I know this fist. He had a dog in the hunt and I knew about it and he wouldn't disclose. I would never breach someone's confidentiality so I couldn't say it in an argument and he refused to disclose so I hounded him, remember?

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I believe I asked why you (or any member) were able to make fun of a personal issue with someone and not feel badly about it. I am unable to do that.
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I had to care for the mother of an 18 month old who got hit by a train while momma was on the nod from heroin. I did not want to treat her. I felt badly about treating her. But I did my duty. I am not the judge or jury except when you dance on my toes. Do my feelings really matter? I often act in direct opposition because reason trumps feelings in my moral heirarchy.

I often feel like a Snickers but then my ass would be visible from low earth orbit. I've found my poorest decisions were made in service of my feelings.
 
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Xiu

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The art of effective communication is tested by how well those two things match. If I do not know what you are trying to say, is it more likely to be a problem in Perception ... or expression?

The capitalization is a slick little move. I'll have to remember it when I want to subtly convey contempt of my convo partner's fail.
Again a difference. I would ask and give the benifit of the doubt to the poster in question about their intention. I'm not trying to tell another person what they said. I'm telling them how I perceived it, and that is all I'm able to do with this given information.

I perceived bumping a thread with life difficulties a Tactic to make a member look foolish in an argument. That member explained their struggles and that was dissmissed and the quips continued.

Reading it, from my point of view, I saw the glib dismissal and continued poking at a member taking pleasure in their unhappiness. Only my perception.
 

curious2garden

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Again a difference. I would ask and give the benifit of the doubt to the poster in question about their intention. I'm not trying to tell another person what they said. I'm telling them how I perceived it, and that is all I'm able to do with this given information.

I perceived bumping a thread with life difficulties a Tactic to make a member look foolish in an argument. That member explained their struggles and that was dissmissed and the quips continued.

Reading it, from my point of view, I saw the glib dismissal and continued poking at a member taking pleasure in their unhappiness. Only my perception.
Still skating rings around your not bothering to read the initial thread LOL because well you are simply morally superior. I'm really good with that. As my momma used to say if you aren't smart you better either be beautiful or nice.
 

whitebb2727

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I must have been unclear, I was speaking to the general board consensus about taking anything seriously. Have seen both “shut up” and “pussy”, not necessarily from C2G but when dealing with the expression of feelings.



It’s an unproductive argument to have. I don’t agree with fighting with the intention of hurting feelings, so I don’t do it. Some of you think all is fair on the internet and skin should be thicker. Is there a right and a wrong? That would entirely depend who you ask. Agree to disagree. I’m sure you’re a fine person and you don’t actually take pleasure in the misfortune of others.

Someone was supposed to be here last night with chocolates and lube…still waiting.
It's the nature of toke and talk. Don't enter if you got thin skin.

If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. If you can't run with the big dogs, stay on the porch.

The op was the first to introduce feelings in a scientific debate.

Why is that? Possibly a tie to an agency doing research.

This is not a place for people that get their feelings hurt easy. Sharks come to blood in the water.
 

cannabineer

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Again a difference. I would ask and give the benifit of the doubt to the poster in question about their intention. I'm not trying to tell another person what they said. I'm telling them how I perceived it, and that is all I'm able to do with this given information.

I perceived bumping a thread with life difficulties a Tactic to make a member look foolish in an argument. That member explained their struggles and that was dissmissed and the quips continued.

Reading it, from my point of view, I saw the glib dismissal and continued poking at a member taking pleasure in their unhappiness. Only my perception.
The bolded looks to me like selective data recognition. You would also see that OP got precisely what he requested. Glib dismissals did not occur until several iterations of attempted reasoning gained zero traction. You make no mention of that inconvenient fact.

You would know these things if you felt the Duty to read the whole thread(s) in question.
 

Xiu

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You were a lot cooler your first week here...
You can't even see my hypercolour shirt though

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I have zero ability to change anyone's behaviour. this is not going to change anything. I asked why.
 
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Xiu

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The bolded looks to me like selective data recognition. You would also see that OP got precisely what he requested. Glib dismissals did not occur until several iterations of attempted reasoning gained zero traction. You make no mention of that inconvenient fact.

You would know these things if you felt the Duty to read the whole thread(s) in question.
I read. You 3 were on point and the kid asked if you were still in your undergrad. Reaching and funny I thought. They were out of their league. If you think the nature of the assault was in any way equal please elaborate. I must have missed your personal lives being drawn into it and I apologize for my ignorance.
 

cannabineer

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I read. You 3 were on point and the kid asked if you were still in your undergrad. Reaching and funny I thought. They were out of their league. If you think the nature of the assault was in any way equal please elaborate. I must have missed your personal lives being drawn into it and I apologize for my ignorance.
It was equal as long as it stayed on the matter of facts. Facts are utterly egalitarian. Once he took it ad hominem, he signaled weapons free. Still we scrupulously adhered to the general rules of engagement.

Facts must be tested without compunction or remorse. Only the ones that survive are worth keeping. A false regard for feelings sabotages this necessary scrutiny.
 

Xiu

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It was equal as long as it stayed on the matter of facts. Facts are utterly egalitarian. Once he took it ad hominem, he signaled weapons free. Still we scrupulously adhered to the general rules of engagement.

Facts must be tested without compunction or remorse. Only the ones that survive are worth keeping. A false regard for feelings sabotages this necessary scrutiny.
you do not have to care about another members feelings about their personal history. That is your prerogative, and obvious. Stating that it has anything to do with the persuit of resistant factual evidence in an argument is self-fulfilling.
 
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