Social Question about Sharing and Friends

curious2garden

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Majikoopa said:
As long as you have clean shoes, I wouldn’t care lol. I get cold feet too, so I wear slippers at home. No shoes “rule” here... unless you have feces on your shoes! Thanks everyone for the advice. I decided to address it directly today, no beating around the bush, but very politely.
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Let us know how it ends up working out.
 
shawn75can

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Majikoopa said:
Wasn't sure where to put this, so I thought "lets talk to the well- adjusted crew on Rollitup". Surely chill guys and gals who toke it up have a good handle on how to deal with wierdos.

I have a friend, genuinely a good guy. He has this girlfriend who is a sweet girl but truly kind of an anti-social freak. She has wierd habits- won't eat the majority of foods, had hang ups on most things. Does shit like writes grocery lists or plays games on an ipad when we are all put socializing. Comes into my house in shit caked boots, doesnt Wipe them on the doormat, but takes them off in my living room and gets horse shit everywhere... doesnt clean it up or offer to... a wierdo, but a nice enough girl.

Now her weirdness is rubbing off on him. It came out recently that, on his weekends when we used to hang sometimes, he goes to her job and works with her because she is too lazy to take care of the horses herself. She doesnt help with bills and is generally selfish.

Now they come over weekly for a game night and of course the weirdness continues. Of course shes on her iPad ignoring everybody, but Im sorta used to that. They consistently show up awkwardly early- like 45 minutes early... I have to pretend I am in the shower to het them to go away until I am ready... usually cooking or cleaning because I am a good host and cooking a meal.

Here's the rub: with our group, everybody brings something. Maybe a main course, a side, some booze etc. They DO usually bring something nominal, cookies or chips or whatever. BUT more and more they will bring something small to share and food and drinks "just for them" to specifically not share... they bring nice shit and keep it to themselves, giving the group bargain bin markdown food.

SO two of my best friends are becoming anti social. They show up 45 minutes early, don't interact while they are in my house (super awkward), and then when dinner rolls around they have private food they dont share... I love them but I put a lot of effort into hosting this game night at THEIR request and I feel kinda put out.

Im thinking of just being open about this rub, saying something like "please dont show up early or bring food to a potluck that you won't share". "Also no shit on my clean rug and please put the ipad away". I feel a bit justified but also I know it may sound petty and controlling... but I feel like these peoples parents fucked up on teaching them manners. What do you think I should do?
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That's a tough 1 but if it's bothering you speak your mind. Hey man you have every right to tell/ask guests how to behave in your home. Although it's common courtesy not to do those things. Your friend should know better but does he ??When your Buddies hillbilly redneck old lady pulls her shit again. I'd politely ask that she not do whatever she may. be doing. Remind her of all those things she's done & ask " Do you do this in your home?" THEY will get the point & hopefully act proper & treat your place proper. If that doesn't work tell them to GTFO my trailer.
 
InigoMontoya

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tyler.durden said:
So true...


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Damn it you beat me to it. Soon as I saw the baseball bat post I was like 'Negan time'. Op - that's the worst kind of annoying. But ultimately it's your house, your rules. It can be pretty awkward going about actually talking about it but ultimately once you put your foot down if they can't understand and change their behavior they don't deserve game night :neutral:
 
The Outdoorsman

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Majikoopa said:
Wasn't sure where to put this, so I thought "lets talk to the well- adjusted crew on Rollitup". Surely chill guys and gals who toke it up have a good handle on how to deal with wierdos.

I have a friend, genuinely a good guy. He has this girlfriend who is a sweet girl but truly kind of an anti-social freak. She has wierd habits- won't eat the majority of foods, had hang ups on most things. Does shit like writes grocery lists or plays games on an ipad when we are all put socializing. Comes into my house in shit caked boots, doesnt Wipe them on the doormat, but takes them off in my living room and gets horse shit everywhere... doesnt clean it up or offer to... a wierdo, but a nice enough girl.

Now her weirdness is rubbing off on him. It came out recently that, on his weekends when we used to hang sometimes, he goes to her job and works with her because she is too lazy to take care of the horses herself. She doesnt help with bills and is generally selfish.

Now they come over weekly for a game night and of course the weirdness continues. Of course shes on her iPad ignoring everybody, but Im sorta used to that. They consistently show up awkwardly early- like 45 minutes early... I have to pretend I am in the shower to het them to go away until I am ready... usually cooking or cleaning because I am a good host and cooking a meal.

Here's the rub: with our group, everybody brings something. Maybe a main course, a side, some booze etc. They DO usually bring something nominal, cookies or chips or whatever. BUT more and more they will bring something small to share and food and drinks "just for them" to specifically not share... they bring nice shit and keep it to themselves, giving the group bargain bin markdown food.

SO two of my best friends are becoming anti social. They show up 45 minutes early, don't interact while they are in my house (super awkward), and then when dinner rolls around they have private food they dont share... I love them but I put a lot of effort into hosting this game night at THEIR request and I feel kinda put out.

Im thinking of just being open about this rub, saying something like "please dont show up early or bring food to a potluck that you won't share". "Also no shit on my clean rug and please put the ipad away". I feel a bit justified but also I know it may sound petty and controlling... but I feel like these peoples parents fucked up on teaching them manners. What do you think I should do?
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Before reading all of this.
What's wrong with being a weirdo? In the good kind of way of course...
 
WeedFreak78

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Next time you go to thier place, stand right in front of them, pull your pants down, squat and drop a deuce on thier carpet, then mash it in with your foot. Ask them how they like it. Bet you won't have to deal with them again.
 
mr sunshine

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Majikoopa said:
Wasn't sure where to put this, so I thought "lets talk to the well- adjusted crew on Rollitup". Surely chill guys and gals who toke it up have a good handle on how to deal with wierdos.

I have a friend, genuinely a good guy. He has this girlfriend who is a sweet girl but truly kind of an anti-social freak. She has wierd habits- won't eat the majority of foods, had hang ups on most things. Does shit like writes grocery lists or plays games on an ipad when we are all put socializing. Comes into my house in shit caked boots, doesnt Wipe them on the doormat, but takes them off in my living room and gets horse shit everywhere... doesnt clean it up or offer to... a wierdo, but a nice enough girl.

Now her weirdness is rubbing off on him. It came out recently that, on his weekends when we used to hang sometimes, he goes to her job and works with her because she is too lazy to take care of the horses herself. She doesnt help with bills and is generally selfish.

Now they come over weekly for a game night and of course the weirdness continues. Of course shes on her iPad ignoring everybody, but Im sorta used to that. They consistently show up awkwardly early- like 45 minutes early... I have to pretend I am in the shower to het them to go away until I am ready... usually cooking or cleaning because I am a good host and cooking a meal.

Here's the rub: with our group, everybody brings something. Maybe a main course, a side, some booze etc. They DO usually bring something nominal, cookies or chips or whatever. BUT more and more they will bring something small to share and food and drinks "just for them" to specifically not share... they bring nice shit and keep it to themselves, giving the group bargain bin markdown food.

SO two of my best friends are becoming anti social. They show up 45 minutes early, don't interact while they are in my house (super awkward), and then when dinner rolls around they have private food they dont share... I love them but I put a lot of effort into hosting this game night at THEIR request and I feel kinda put out.

Im thinking of just being open about this rub, saying something like "please dont show up early or bring food to a potluck that you won't share". "Also no shit on my clean rug and please put the ipad away". I feel a bit justified but also I know it may sound petty and controlling... but I feel like these peoples parents fucked up on teaching them manners. What do you think I should do?
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Ask them if they're interested in a same room swap.
 
Majikoopa

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Well fellas it worked out fine. I think it was mostly his old lady's doing... was a bit awkward but I described how my home needs to be treated and why everybody needs to share at a potluck and he thoroughly apologized, even agreeing that it was bizarre behavior. Again, people should just know this stuff. Apparently he's so used to being aroubd a freak that he let her convince him these behaviors are normal.

Anyway, game night was a joy this week and they were on their best behavior.

Also, Tyler Durden, I couldn't get him to fool around but you can totally go down on me since you seem so hot to trot :hump:
 
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