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Don't Bogart

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Here we go......wait, I need popcorn
Speaking of popcorn. I'm on vacation and last night I decided to pop a bag. Only finding out the micro here is a tad stronger than mine at home.
Ended up setting off the fire alarm. Fortunately just the battery one. Opened doors and windows. No one from the front office showed up. I'll try again later.
Jim and I being such best friends, popcorn all around.

I'm glad I'm able to give you a rise Jimmy boy. You apparently are missing some excitement in your life.
 

Jimdamick

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those entenmann crumb cakes are friggin awesome!!!!

these are even better: and pretty close to you too i imagine
Yup, Entenmann's Crumb Cake is frigging awesomen, no doubt about it.
Combined with smoking herb for a couple of hours (all day long is better :) ), you will be treated to gastronomical excellence far beyond your average cake.
Paired with a cold glass of milk, what more can be done to attain Nirvana?
I have to say though, there is one more item that MUST be tried from Entennman's that is in contention with the Crumb Cake
Do you like Chocolate cakes?
Try this

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It's Entenmann's Blackout Cake
Totally a Desert Island addition in my mind (if I was stuck on an Island & had only room for ten items in my boat, this would be one).
If you can find it (hard to do) get it.
It is fucking Awesome.

This is another item (along with a player) that I would have to bring :)
Oh, thanks @rkymtnman for the turn on, I'm getting one :)
 
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DIY-HP-LED

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It’s hard to be a moral person. Technology is making it harder.
Digital distractions such as social media and smartphones wreak havoc on our attention spans. Could they also be making us less ethical?

It was on the day I read a Facebook post by my sick friend that I started to really question my relationship with technology.

An old friend had posted a status update saying he needed to rush to the hospital because he was having a health crisis. I half-choked on my tea and stared at my laptop. I recognized the post as a plea for support. I felt fear for him, and then … I did nothing about it, because I saw in another tab that I’d just gotten a new email and went to check that instead.

After a few minutes scrolling my Gmail, I realized something was messed up. The new email was obviously not as urgent as the sick friend, and yet I’d acted as if they had equal claims on my attention. What was wrong with me? Was I a terrible person? I dashed off a message to my friend, but continued to feel disturbed.

Gradually, though, I came to think this was less an indication that I was an immoral individual and more a reflection of a bigger societal problem. I began to notice that digital technology often seems to make it harder for us to respond in the right way when someone is suffering and needs our help.

Think of all the times a friend has called you to talk through something sad or stressful, and you could barely stop your twitchy fingers from checking your email or scrolling through Instagram as they talked. Think of all the times you’ve seen an article in your Facebook News Feed about anguished people desperate for help — starving children in Yemen, dying Covid-19 patients in India — only to get distracted by a funny meme that appears right above it.

Think of the countless stories of camera phones short-circuiting human decency. Many a bystander has witnessed a car accident or a fist-fight and taken out their phone to film the drama rather than rushing over to see if the victim needs help. One Canadian government-commissioned report found that when our experience of the world is mediated by smartphones, we often fixate on capturing a “spectacle” because we want the “rush” we’ll get from the instant reaction to our videos on social media.

Multiple studies have suggested that digital technology is shortening our attention spans and making us more distracted. What if it’s also making us less empathetic, less prone to ethical action? What if it’s degrading our capacity for moral attention — the capacity to notice the morally salient features of a given situation so that we can respond appropriately?

There is a lot of evidence to indicate that our devices really are having this negative effect. Tech companies continue to bake in design elements that amplify the effect — elements that make it harder for us to sustain uninterrupted attention to the things that really matter, or even to notice them in the first place. And they do this even though it’s becoming increasingly clear that this is bad not only for our individual interpersonal relationships, but also for our politics. There’s a reason why former President Barack Obama now says that the internet and social media have created “the single biggest threat to our democracy.”

The idea of moral attention goes back at least as far as ancient Greece, where the Stoics wrote about the practice of attention (prosoché) as the cornerstone of a good spiritual life. In modern Western thought, though, ethicists didn’t focus too much on attention until a band of female philosophers came along, starting with Simone Weil.

Weil, an early 20th-century French philosopher and Christian mystic, wrote that “attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” She believed that to be able to properly pay attention to someone else — to become fully receptive to their situation in all its complexity — you need to first get your own self out of the way. She called this process “decreation,” and explained: “Attention consists of suspending our thought, leaving it detached, empty ... ready to receive in its naked truth the object that is to penetrate it.”

Weil argued that plain old attention — the kind you use when reading novels, say, or birdwatching — is a precondition for moral attention, which is a precondition for empathy, which is a precondition for ethical action.

Later philosophers, like Iris Murdoch and Martha Nussbaum, picked up and developed Weil’s ideas. They garbed them in the language of Western philosophy; Murdoch, for example, appeals to Plato as she writes about the need for “unselfing.” But this central idea of “unselfing” or “decreation” is perhaps most reminiscent of Eastern traditions like Buddhism, which has long emphasized the importance of relinquishing our ego and training our attention so we can perceive and respond to others’ needs. It offers tools like mindfulness meditation for doing just that.

The idea that you should practice emptying out your self to become receptive to someone else is antithetical to today’s digital technology, says Beverley McGuire, a historian of religion at the University of North Carolina Wilmington who researches moral attention.

“Decreating the self — that’s the opposite of social media,” she says, adding that Facebook, Instagram, and other platforms are all about identity construction. Users build up an aspirational version of themselves, forever adding more words, images, and videos, thickening the self into a “brand.”

What’s more, over the past decade a bevy of psychologists have conducted multiple studies exploring how (and how often) people use social media and the way it impacts their psychological health. They’ve found that social media encourages users to compare themselves to others. This social comparison is baked into the platforms’ design. Because the Facebook algorithms bump posts up in our newsfeed that have gotten plenty of “Likes” and congratulatory comments, we end up seeing a highlight reel of our friends’ lives. They seem to be always succeeding; we feel like failures by contrast. We typically then either spend more time scrolling on Facebook in the hope that we’ll find someone worse off so we feel better, or we post our own status update emphasizing how great our lives are going. Both responses perpetuate the vicious cycle.

In other words, rather than helping us get our own selves out of the way so we can truly attend to others, these platforms encourage us to create thicker selves and to shore them up — defensively, competitively — against other selves we perceive as better off.
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HGCC

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I once bought this stuff called "feckin Irish whiskey." Man that shit was gross. It lived at a buddies house and only came out very late or if some college kid was talking about how they could chug everclear.

Anywho, man sexual harassment is a tough topic. What is and isn't acceptable has changed over time and some folks just haven't kept up. I think it's gone a little far on going after people, franken is who I always point at. For me it just isnt that hard to justify "fully respect you as my equal...still wanna see your boobs though...oh, no...thats cool, welp then let's get back to whatever."
 

mooray

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It’s hard to be a moral person. Technology is making it harder.
Digital distractions such as social media and smartphones wreak havoc on our attention spans. Could they also be making us less ethical?

It was on the day I read a Facebook post by my sick friend that I started to really question my relationship with technology.

An old friend had posted a status update saying he needed to rush to the hospital because he was having a health crisis. I half-choked on my tea and stared at my laptop. I recognized the post as a plea for support. I felt fear for him, and then … I did nothing about it, because I saw in another tab that I’d just gotten a new email and went to check that instead.

After a few minutes scrolling my Gmail, I realized something was messed up. The new email was obviously not as urgent as the sick friend, and yet I’d acted as if they had equal claims on my attention. What was wrong with me? Was I a terrible person? I dashed off a message to my friend, but continued to feel disturbed.

Gradually, though, I came to think this was less an indication that I was an immoral individual and more a reflection of a bigger societal problem. I began to notice that digital technology often seems to make it harder for us to respond in the right way when someone is suffering and needs our help.

Think of all the times a friend has called you to talk through something sad or stressful, and you could barely stop your twitchy fingers from checking your email or scrolling through Instagram as they talked. Think of all the times you’ve seen an article in your Facebook News Feed about anguished people desperate for help — starving children in Yemen, dying Covid-19 patients in India — only to get distracted by a funny meme that appears right above it.

Think of the countless stories of camera phones short-circuiting human decency. Many a bystander has witnessed a car accident or a fist-fight and taken out their phone to film the drama rather than rushing over to see if the victim needs help. One Canadian government-commissioned report found that when our experience of the world is mediated by smartphones, we often fixate on capturing a “spectacle” because we want the “rush” we’ll get from the instant reaction to our videos on social media.

Multiple studies have suggested that digital technology is shortening our attention spans and making us more distracted. What if it’s also making us less empathetic, less prone to ethical action? What if it’s degrading our capacity for moral attention — the capacity to notice the morally salient features of a given situation so that we can respond appropriately?

There is a lot of evidence to indicate that our devices really are having this negative effect. Tech companies continue to bake in design elements that amplify the effect — elements that make it harder for us to sustain uninterrupted attention to the things that really matter, or even to notice them in the first place. And they do this even though it’s becoming increasingly clear that this is bad not only for our individual interpersonal relationships, but also for our politics. There’s a reason why former President Barack Obama now says that the internet and social media have created “the single biggest threat to our democracy.”

The idea of moral attention goes back at least as far as ancient Greece, where the Stoics wrote about the practice of attention (prosoché) as the cornerstone of a good spiritual life. In modern Western thought, though, ethicists didn’t focus too much on attention until a band of female philosophers came along, starting with Simone Weil.

Weil, an early 20th-century French philosopher and Christian mystic, wrote that “attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” She believed that to be able to properly pay attention to someone else — to become fully receptive to their situation in all its complexity — you need to first get your own self out of the way. She called this process “decreation,” and explained: “Attention consists of suspending our thought, leaving it detached, empty ... ready to receive in its naked truth the object that is to penetrate it.”

Weil argued that plain old attention — the kind you use when reading novels, say, or birdwatching — is a precondition for moral attention, which is a precondition for empathy, which is a precondition for ethical action.

Later philosophers, like Iris Murdoch and Martha Nussbaum, picked up and developed Weil’s ideas. They garbed them in the language of Western philosophy; Murdoch, for example, appeals to Plato as she writes about the need for “unselfing.” But this central idea of “unselfing” or “decreation” is perhaps most reminiscent of Eastern traditions like Buddhism, which has long emphasized the importance of relinquishing our ego and training our attention so we can perceive and respond to others’ needs. It offers tools like mindfulness meditation for doing just that.

The idea that you should practice emptying out your self to become receptive to someone else is antithetical to today’s digital technology, says Beverley McGuire, a historian of religion at the University of North Carolina Wilmington who researches moral attention.

“Decreating the self — that’s the opposite of social media,” she says, adding that Facebook, Instagram, and other platforms are all about identity construction. Users build up an aspirational version of themselves, forever adding more words, images, and videos, thickening the self into a “brand.”

What’s more, over the past decade a bevy of psychologists have conducted multiple studies exploring how (and how often) people use social media and the way it impacts their psychological health. They’ve found that social media encourages users to compare themselves to others. This social comparison is baked into the platforms’ design. Because the Facebook algorithms bump posts up in our newsfeed that have gotten plenty of “Likes” and congratulatory comments, we end up seeing a highlight reel of our friends’ lives. They seem to be always succeeding; we feel like failures by contrast. We typically then either spend more time scrolling on Facebook in the hope that we’ll find someone worse off so we feel better, or we post our own status update emphasizing how great our lives are going. Both responses perpetuate the vicious cycle.

In other words, rather than helping us get our own selves out of the way so we can truly attend to others, these platforms encourage us to create thicker selves and to shore them up — defensively, competitively — against other selves we perceive as better off.
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Technically the platforms don't encourage us, it's other people using and creating these platforms that do that. I'll always fight against blaming arbitrary mediums for which people are always the common denominator. Everything changes, but it's the test of one's own self-control that persists, and blaming inanimate objects for our failures is something we've been doing for literally thousands of years.
 

schuylaar

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Actually, I have a very, very large problem. (some would say huge)
It's my wife.
When I married her 25 years ago, she weighed 115 lbs & now she's closer to 300 :(
Somehow after all these years of the same old same old & how now I have cinderblocks under our bed for structural support, I kinda lost my youthfull exuberance.
And you know whose fault it is for my lack of drive according to Chubsie Wubsie ( pet name :) ) ?
Fucking me!!!!!
I blame these

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i thought you cooked for her?..all those awesome dinners?..join the gym together..well you did something for your 'chubbie'? suggest it..but it''s got to be together. she'll look good again if she loses weight. give her a reason.

she just needs some good Keto, get her off the sugar- first 72 hours will be hard but the weight just melts and she can eat as much as she wants. there's even Keto/Almond Flour pasta and pizza and it's great! she won't even notice the diffeerence.


then go here (i've already suggested she would be over the moon))..2nd honeymoon.


it wasn't your time; use it wisely.
 
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DIY-HP-LED

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Technically the platforms don't encourage us, it's other people using and creating these platforms that do that. I'll always fight against blaming arbitrary mediums for which people are always the common denominator. Everything changes, but it's the test of one's own self-control that persists, and blaming inanimate objects for our failures is something we've been doing for literally thousands of years.
Technology changes us and thus society, it was true with the spread of the printing press and literacy and of the telegraph and railways too. Communications and transportation technologies have had the most profound impact, including radio and TV. The internet with social media is at the apex of personal and social influence, it along with smartphones are causing multi[le social and psychological mass phenomena. Issues of rising anxiety over the decades among youth that is in lock step with the rise of these recent communications technologies. Along with diminished attentional quality and spans, is an accompanying lack of empathy, social and emotional retardation due to an atrophy of interpersonal skills and emotional control.

Just as lack of physical exercise in the modern world leads to poor fitness and subsequent poor physical health, so too does a lack of social/emotional fitness lead to problems. Pleasure is ephemeral, it does not last and is fleeting, many mistake it's pursuit for happiness and it most often requires an external source. Happiness comes from with in and is based on our relationship with ourselves and others, our community in most cases, to feel right with ourselves, we must care about and do right by others (at least the normally socialized do).

Depression is a social/emotional condition and can be treated or even cured using mindfulness meditation (see MBCT) and is used to retrain attention. We have two modes of metal operation, doing and being, or working mode and sensory mode, one you're in your head the other you are into your senses and an embodied sense of awareness. Using technology all the time puts us in working doing mode all the time, we loose contact with our bodies and senses. "Come to your senses" is a common phrase and it means get your head out of your ass and smell the fucking coffee!

Anyway, it's a package deal, meditation reduces anxiety and depression by putting people back into touch with their senses and they operate in real time, thus present moment awareness is done in sensory mode. This is most often accomplished through a series of exercises that primarily focus attention on the tactile sensation of the breath and body. 8 weeks of daily training is often enough for most people to have their perception widened and their empathy greatly increased along with happiness and contentment. We do everything else in life to be happy, it is an end and has no other ulterior motive.
Here's one answer
 

schuylaar

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those entenmann crumb cakes are friggin awesome!!!!

these are even better: and pretty close to you too i imagine
you can make it..brown sugar, cinnamon, butter and flour.

  • 1 cup (200g) packed light or dark brown sugar
  • 1/2 cup (100g) granulated sugar
  • 1 Tablespoon ground cinnamon
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1 cup (2 sticks; 230g) unsalted butter, melted
  • 2 and 1/2 cups (313g) all-purpose flour (spoon & leveled)
go for it! don't mix too much because you want big 'crumbs'
 
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