My wife wanted to grow some orchids, so i would dutifully pick up any I thought were interesting along my travels. After three years or so, I noticed they were constrained and showing black spots and a general malaise. So I asked "the orchid boss" about them, and she replied she thought it was bad to divide Orchids. I agreed and but added they still need room to grow. Then I asked her what was she feeding them. She replied, she couldn't remember. She was only giving them fert once a year!
Oh I said.... now I have been married too long to make the mistake of telling any woman she is dead wrong. I suggested she let me take over for awhile and see if I couldn't nudge them along, since she is a very busy person. "I want to help"...
Lo and behold. not too many months pass and she is like WOW!!! What did you do?
I've been doing it ever since...at her insistence.
That's how you stay married folks... that's how.