Sorry, I didn't see this...she may not have been lying.You can carry it for years and not know. this is embarrassing, but..... I was a virgin when I met my oldest dad's father. He was my first. He KNEW he had genital warts, but deliberately infected me anyway.He never told me about them,or gave me a chance to choose. I found out from his friends talking that his ex girlfriend had had them.I didn't know anything about it, and I took his word when he told me it was something that had been cleared up by an antibiotic.He knew better.He just didn't care.The only reason I knew I had gotten them, is because I got pregnant, and sometimes when you're pregnant,your immune system is suppressed a great deal.I was washing one day when I found one. The doctor confirmed it.I'm sure you know the disgust and horror of finding it out, learning you'll probably carry this for life. He was out of town working with my brother when I called him.He immediately tried to blame me,and my brother told him,"You fucker,you know you're the only guy she's been with."
I got lucky enough that when I gave birth, my immune system, which has always been really good, kicked back in,and everything fell off on its own in a matter of weeks. But I stayed with him, even though he was a royal prick, because I was ashamed,and I could never live with myself if I gave it to anyone else. Even after I broke up with him, I was celibate for two years and had pretty much resigned myself to a life without a partner.One day my friend brought me some information that said if you don't have an outbreak for a year, there's a good chance your body has taken care of the virus.I cried.I called an std hotline, and explained that I had never had an outbreak since my pregnancy...he seemed shocked.He said,"Not one?In two years?Wow." But I also know that sometimes these things lie dormant.So I was afraid, still.The agony of telling someone that you want to have sex with that there may be a reason they might not want to have sex with you is overwhelming.But you have to do it.Even if you're clean, just always assume.I haven't had an outbreak ever again, and it's been twelve years.But my old man knew about it before we ever slept together.See, my ex was clear of the warts,but he still infected me, and I know for certain it was him.So somebody CAN carry the virus for a long time without knowing it.But he knew.And it sounds like your girlfriend knew, too....so even though she may not have cheated, why didn't she let you know in the beginning?
i dont need unecassary drama and negativity in my life. and thats all a girlfriend will bring
