I would have to say it is a symbiotic relationship, neither patients or growers are in charge, they both rely on each other. I would definitely say the patients depend more on the growers than the growers depend on the patients, though.
If I were you, I would hope that not too many growers in Southern Oregon go to Rollitup, because I do not think they would appreciate your opinion about going to the growsite whenever you feel like it. Patients ask permission to see grows, or they do not stay patients very long. Simple as that. If a patient were to not respect MY rules as a grower, THEY are going to feel it more than I will. Thankfully, I have never searched out patients, I have relied on long term relationships with people, and only added patients that I can really trust, and rely on. I have an awesome group of patients, and they seem to be pretty happy with the meds, hash, tincture, clippings and love that I give out, and not one has left. All about mutual respect, and communication between patients and growers.
Honestly, up here in Portland I think you would find it is a lot different than the WEED SOAKED Southern Oregon Area. Like I have said to you before, everyone and their mothers grows down there, so you have a lot of options. Up here, it almost seems like all the GOOD growers are taken up already, and the new patients seem to have a pretty hard time lining up a good, trustworthy person. Just what I have observed, with several people I know getting screwed initially by their first grower or so.
Anyways, sorry for the book. Hope all is well with everyone!