There is a language that every man understands, you take half and say "lets see who can do this better" and make it a contest. Men can't resist a competition! C'mon, what kind of woman are you? Your kind is usually far better at getting your way while making us think it was our idea! Did you miss your training or something?

just kiddin'
*I can't tell if your asking for help with your approach on your hubby or on the plants since it sounds like you have your own idea about things but are uncertain. Even if you gain master knowledge, what good will it do if you cannot gain his implementation. That's why I recommended the above.