Ok Joey, i reluctantly watched your journal update but hell i kinda like them, so lets talk your plants for a min-
You learned that fertilizer is bad until they need some plus there is already loads in the soil and your plants are still so samll they not even used up the ferts in the soil yet plus miracle grow soil keeps on feeding for quite some time.
Oviously you meant to say seedling soil when you were mentioning fox farms etc etc, start seeds and small plants off in seedling soil and small pots.
I see you have not started some tomato seedlings off and followed my thread of how to germinate and grow a small plant but still i recomend this. Explains basic soil mixes etc etc-
https://www.rollitup.org/newbie-central/468937-germinating-seedling.html
Now for the good growth you are seeing on one or two plants, you describe the ebb and flow thing going on, this is a good result for you, first you just had the ebb!lol! at least now your getting a little flow with this ebb, next all flow and no ebb hopefully. That good growth shows you got the plant environment better, now wether that be not overwatering, stopping overfeeding or simply better temps who knows ( i think a combination of the three!loL!) keep working on these. Soon you will get good growth all the time and will get a little bigger everyday. Unfortunatly the plants ebbing is because your making them struggle for some reason.
Where people say you topped and the plant split into a 'V', this is caused when the top or growing tip looses its 'apical dominance'(Google - Apical Dominance). The same as topping but you didnt actually top the plant. I seen it before many times but not a lot have or know about it. Some reasons why it can happen are bad genetics or weak genetics which can also cause as well a condition called 'whorlled phylotaxy' and three sets of branches not two at each growing node. Apical dominance loss can also be caused by too much heat as well although this again is rare except in new growers who have the lights too close too an already struggling plant like yours, it simply branched cause it couldnt grow upwards. Dont get hung up about it or read too much into it as it means nothing just what happened in a period of bad growth.
By the way those balls or male and female parts are not male and female parts just new growth and branches, give it a week or two and you'll see. Good luck dude