NewbGrower^.^
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Haha I knew the gay thing would come up. I know 100% I'm not gay... With one of my ex's I recorded her blowing me =D but that was before this deja vu of no boneru occured =[
Hello all,
I have recently been going through some bad anxiety and it really is messing up my sex life. I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder and due to marijuana making me even more of an anxious freak, I've quit smoking 1 1/2 months ago =[ That might sound bad, but I think the worst thing recently is that I can't even have sex. I can achieve a hard erection during foreplay but when I need to penetrate, I get anxious and completely go soft. This is not a one time thing as it has happened with the last 3 girls I was with(all gorgeous which doesn't help in my case GAD wise) As this has happened over and over again, it has torn apart my self confidence and self esteem as well. I am in my early 20's and have been to the doctor for numerous tests that could cause ED but they all come back clean as can be. I have looked online and I know I have sexual performance anxiety for a fact. Now I was recently put on buspar- GAD med(been 1 week) and have noticed slight improvements with my overall anxiety but full effects usually take 4-6 weeks to start. But for now, I was wondering if anything else could help me before sex... Anyone want to help me out with personal experiences in the RIU community? I have recently obtained xanax from a friend and it really puts me at ease when I have a somewhat panic attack but do you think I should try it before doin' the dirty? Any input will be appreciated and please refrain from rude, immature comments... Not like it would it hit me as this crap has brought me to an all-time low with my self confidence..
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Thats what Im saying, it really is all in your head.. When you feel good about urseld it aint no thing. When you dont you put the pussy above u and thats when shit gets fucked up.. Btw i really dont like eating girls out.. kinda sick, I dunno just never been my cup of tea...Yeah I can relate to you. I have only had 2 girlfriends that sex was alot and on the regular. The problems are all in our head. One time I couldn't get it up for whatever reason and felt like a total loser. So after I started thinking like that, I all of sudden had problems keeping it up, because I kept thinking like that. Oh no what if I go limp again, what am I going to do, what's wrong with me??!! My girl eventually cheated on me and my self-esteem plummeted because I thought my dick was the reason she cheated, who knows maybe it was.. We broke up and I felt like shit. 2 years later I met my current girlfriend. But in those 2 years and acouple 1 nite stands later I was more mature and had changed my thinking. I am a stud. That is what I tell myself before I do the nasty with my girl. I tell myself I'm going to fuck her so hard she's gonna scream and spasm with how many O's I'm going to give her. And guess what it worked. It's all in our minds. I even last longer than I use to with this new thinking of mine. And if for some reason I can't get it up I just tell myself that I was obviously not in the mood. Cuz guess what some times I want to watch LOST and not fuck her brains out. My girl don't care. I kiss her vajayjay like I'm in a peanut butter eating contest and she is more than satisfied! Good luck bro you will figure it out. It's all in changing your way of thinking. You the man, and if you think like that, you will show her you are the man and she will know you are the man!!
Thats what Im saying, it really is all in your head.. When you feel good about urseld it aint no thing. When you dont you put the pussy above u and thats when shit gets fucked up.. Btw i really dont like eating girls out.. kinda sick, I dunno just never been my cup of tea...
Ice is fucking great man... it was actually my last grow.. harvested 5 oz off 2 plants.. youll really like it.. SW was just alright.. It looked and smelled great all grow but when I harvested it wasnt that great.. crazy high though.. man when u mix those two together its fucking nuts. I couldnt distinguish if i was thinking or talking.. thats how fucked up it got me, no joke..
Ya that shit is all in my head... And neo hit it pretty good with my current situation. My last ex was a horny lil blonde and she wanted to sex it up anytime we were with eachother. Anytime we were about to do it my negative thoughts would ramble in my head " I'm guna fail" " This isn't guna work as usual" and it would always happen. Trust me, I've tried positive thinking and just being confident but the negative thoughts still swirl and override them. Only reason I brought up xanax as it only makes me think positive and I feel like I'm the shit. I think next time I go out raging I'm guna take maybe a 1 mg dose. I swear recently I've been avoiding sex just because of this bullshit.. It drives me insane when girls will literally pull me into a room and Ill completely blow them off and keep partying...=[
OUCH dude.. ouch.. lmfao.. sorry thats kinda funny.Ya man, I feel ya... My last ex killed my confidence sex wise by saying " I feel like I'm trying to get a dead guy hard" etc etc But ill get through this I know I will