Anyone else go through sexual perf. anxiety?

NewbGrower^.^

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Haha I knew the gay thing would come up. I know 100% I'm not gay... With one of my ex's I recorded her blowing me =D but that was before this deja vu of no boneru occured =[
 

mrdrywall

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they r only good for 1 thing dude our pleasure if it wasnt for the puss they would b totally useless dont hold em in such a high reguard it fucks u up no matter how hot a bitch is there is always someone thats tired of her shit read this last part somewhere thought it hit the nail on the head
 

neosapien

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Hello all,
I have recently been going through some bad anxiety and it really is messing up my sex life. I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder and due to marijuana making me even more of an anxious freak, I've quit smoking 1 1/2 months ago =[ That might sound bad, but I think the worst thing recently is that I can't even have sex. I can achieve a hard erection during foreplay but when I need to penetrate, I get anxious and completely go soft. This is not a one time thing as it has happened with the last 3 girls I was with(all gorgeous which doesn't help in my case GAD wise) As this has happened over and over again, it has torn apart my self confidence and self esteem as well. I am in my early 20's and have been to the doctor for numerous tests that could cause ED but they all come back clean as can be. I have looked online and I know I have sexual performance anxiety for a fact. Now I was recently put on buspar- GAD med(been 1 week) and have noticed slight improvements with my overall anxiety but full effects usually take 4-6 weeks to start. But for now, I was wondering if anything else could help me before sex... Anyone want to help me out with personal experiences in the RIU community? I have recently obtained xanax from a friend and it really puts me at ease when I have a somewhat panic attack but do you think I should try it before doin' the dirty? Any input will be appreciated and please refrain from rude, immature comments... Not like it would it hit me as this crap has brought me to an all-time low with my self confidence..
Thanks for looking

Yeah I can relate to you. I have only had 2 girlfriends that sex was alot and on the regular. The problems are all in our head. One time I couldn't get it up for whatever reason and felt like a total loser. So after I started thinking like that, I all of sudden had problems keeping it up, because I kept thinking like that. Oh no what if I go limp again, what am I going to do, what's wrong with me??!! My girl eventually cheated on me and my self-esteem plummeted because I thought my dick was the reason she cheated, who knows maybe it was.. We broke up and I felt like shit. 2 years later I met my current girlfriend. But in those 2 years and acouple 1 nite stands later I was more mature and had changed my thinking. I am a stud. That is what I tell myself before I do the nasty with my girl. I tell myself I'm going to fuck her so hard she's gonna scream and spasm with how many O's I'm going to give her. And guess what it worked. It's all in our minds. I even last longer than I use to with this new thinking of mine. And if for some reason I can't get it up I just tell myself that I was obviously not in the mood. Cuz guess what some times I want to watch LOST and not fuck her brains out. My girl don't care. I kiss her vajayjay like I'm in a peanut butter eating contest and she is more than satisfied! Good luck bro you will figure it out. It's all in changing your way of thinking. You the man, and if you think like that, you will show her you are the man and she will know you are the man!!
 

JN811

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fuckn Lost... I tell ya what... :) cant wait to see how they end it! I better not be disappointed Ive sunk way to much time into that show...........
 

JN811

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Yeah I can relate to you. I have only had 2 girlfriends that sex was alot and on the regular. The problems are all in our head. One time I couldn't get it up for whatever reason and felt like a total loser. So after I started thinking like that, I all of sudden had problems keeping it up, because I kept thinking like that. Oh no what if I go limp again, what am I going to do, what's wrong with me??!! My girl eventually cheated on me and my self-esteem plummeted because I thought my dick was the reason she cheated, who knows maybe it was.. We broke up and I felt like shit. 2 years later I met my current girlfriend. But in those 2 years and acouple 1 nite stands later I was more mature and had changed my thinking. I am a stud. That is what I tell myself before I do the nasty with my girl. I tell myself I'm going to fuck her so hard she's gonna scream and spasm with how many O's I'm going to give her. And guess what it worked. It's all in our minds. I even last longer than I use to with this new thinking of mine. And if for some reason I can't get it up I just tell myself that I was obviously not in the mood. Cuz guess what some times I want to watch LOST and not fuck her brains out. My girl don't care. I kiss her vajayjay like I'm in a peanut butter eating contest and she is more than satisfied! Good luck bro you will figure it out. It's all in changing your way of thinking. You the man, and if you think like that, you will show her you are the man and she will know you are the man!!
Thats what Im saying, it really is all in your head.. When you feel good about urseld it aint no thing. When you dont you put the pussy above u and thats when shit gets fucked up.. Btw i really dont like eating girls out.. kinda sick, I dunno just never been my cup of tea...:spew:
 

neosapien

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Thats what Im saying, it really is all in your head.. When you feel good about urseld it aint no thing. When you dont you put the pussy above u and thats when shit gets fucked up.. Btw i really dont like eating girls out.. kinda sick, I dunno just never been my cup of tea...:spew:

Yeah I here you on the LOST. Way too much time invested needs to end so I can geek it up elsewhere:lol: As for the cunnilingus to each their own. My girl loves it and it takes her all of 4 minutes to cum. Plus once I do it, it's like I get the fuckin Wonka golden ticket, I can do anything I want:grin:
 

JN811

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Ice is fucking great man... it was actually my last grow.. harvested 5 oz off 2 plants.. youll really like it.. SW was just alright.. It looked and smelled great all grow but when I harvested it wasnt that great.. crazy high though.. man when u mix those two together its fucking nuts. I couldnt distinguish if i was thinking or talking.. thats how fucked up it got me, no joke..
 

neosapien

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Ice is fucking great man... it was actually my last grow.. harvested 5 oz off 2 plants.. youll really like it.. SW was just alright.. It looked and smelled great all grow but when I harvested it wasnt that great.. crazy high though.. man when u mix those two together its fucking nuts. I couldnt distinguish if i was thinking or talking.. thats how fucked up it got me, no joke..

Yeah that's interesting to hear about your phenos. See my Ice looks real nice and big and the two I got are probably gonna yield about 3-4 each as well but they are so slow! They got another month I think and the SW, which was concieved at the same time will be flushed on tuesday and chopped aweek after. The SW is my best looking one, out of 6, probably gonna have 3 as well I hope. It just goes to show how very different one mj is to another, even in the same strains!! Thanks for the insight dude!
 

JN811

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ya dude, it was my 1st grow so a learning experience, I only veged 19 days. I read the history of Ice and it said that there were 2 distinctive phenos.. Check harvest pics bellow, I think I had both of them, it said one was a bit fruitier and the other was a big producer which was exactly what I saw. One actually produced over 3 and the other was around 2.. I think if I woulda vegged for a couple months it woulda been a huge difference..
 

reefcouple

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Find a place that relaxes you, I suffer from some really crazy anxiety, depression at times and PTSD.. I go for a walk/run around the lake and that seems to help better than any pill ever has.. Usually medication just turns me into a zombie..

Hang in there, find a spiritual balance my friend.. (not religion), A good friend you can talk to, some zen, walk/run etc.. Anything that works for you and stick to it.

~cheers
 

NewbGrower^.^

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Ya that shit is all in my head... And neo hit it pretty good with my current situation. My last ex was a horny lil blonde and she wanted to sex it up anytime we were with eachother. Anytime we were about to do it my negative thoughts would ramble in my head " I'm guna fail" " This isn't guna work as usual" and it would always happen. Trust me, I've tried positive thinking and just being confident but the negative thoughts still swirl and override them. Only reason I brought up xanax as it only makes me think positive and I feel like I'm the shit. I think next time I go out raging I'm guna take maybe a 1 mg dose. I swear recently I've been avoiding sex just because of this bullshit.. It drives me insane when girls will literally pull me into a room and Ill completely blow them off and keep partying...=[
 

neosapien

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Ya that shit is all in my head... And neo hit it pretty good with my current situation. My last ex was a horny lil blonde and she wanted to sex it up anytime we were with eachother. Anytime we were about to do it my negative thoughts would ramble in my head " I'm guna fail" " This isn't guna work as usual" and it would always happen. Trust me, I've tried positive thinking and just being confident but the negative thoughts still swirl and override them. Only reason I brought up xanax as it only makes me think positive and I feel like I'm the shit. I think next time I go out raging I'm guna take maybe a 1 mg dose. I swear recently I've been avoiding sex just because of this bullshit.. It drives me insane when girls will literally pull me into a room and Ill completely blow them off and keep partying...=[

Yeah like what JN was saying, in that situation with the girl and the room, don't go in the room thinking "oh god I'm gonna have sex with this beautiful girl what if I can't" you got to be thinkin "Oh shit son um a put a hurtin on this bitch, Don Juan ain't got shit on me!
 

waz666

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Sorry to here about your soft weiner.... I'd try to score some viagra, that way even if you work yourself into an anxious mess your junk will still work.... That or fuck a really fat chick, pyschologically you feel better than them and will worry less about impressing them perhaps... If all else fails, have me hide in your closet and when the lights go out, make an excuse to get away from the bed for a minute and I will step in and get the job done. I'll do anything to help a fellow pothead :)
 

NewbGrower^.^

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waz: I'd like to not resort to Viagra but I might have to... and if I ever can't finish the job, you can take over ;]

blak: Thx Ill start practicing the kegal's Good link

neo: Yep My mind is what's causing this

reef: I plan to start working out and doing beach cardio runs.. And I talked to
a Physchiatrist and I really feel better after letting my truths out. I think a big problem which was making it worse was trying to hide it.. My gad and ed lol Thanks for the info man
 
I'm 27, and a very anxious person, and I have the same problem bro. I used to think it was only because I was banging chubby/ugly girls, that I wasn't really attracted to. But, after taking the time to really analyze my state of mind at the time it would happen, I realized just how off the chart my anxiety levels really are during sex, and that the true cause is entirely in my own mind.

Even though it hasn't happened yet, I'm sure it would happen with a gorgeous girl as well, which would really destroy my confidence. I haven't figured out how to beat this in my own mind yet, and I pretty much avoid sex with girls at all costs now. I don't want to medicate this away, I want to solve the actual problem in my mind. I think the key for me lies in feeling 100% comfortable with the girl, and not worrying about what she may be feeling/thinking about me. Hopefully I can find a chick who will want to practice until we can get it right. Still sucks in the meantime though, but that's life! :peace:
 

NewbGrower^.^

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Ya man, I feel ya... My last ex killed my confidence sex wise by saying " I feel like I'm trying to get a dead guy hard" etc etc But ill get through this I know I will
 

JN811

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Ya man, I feel ya... My last ex killed my confidence sex wise by saying " I feel like I'm trying to get a dead guy hard" etc etc But ill get through this I know I will
OUCH dude.. ouch.. lmfao.. sorry thats kinda funny.

You should be thinking.. "fuck that ho, Ill replace that bitch" but it seems like ur thinking..." shes so hot... I dont wanna disappoint her" That right there is the problem.. Stop considering the girl and just let the "animal instincts :hump:" that every man has come out.. And I know every man has it, some just hide it away...
 
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