Anyone know anything about postpartum depression?

BLVDog said:

I still don't know were she is man. Sux. It's really fucked she's native American and wants to go back to the "Rez" I mean the place just isn't the safest. her parents have always Ben dysfunction and she thinks that's ok, my buddy said he thinks he know were she's at he described it as a shack.like wtf we have a 3 bedroom 1600sq house in a gated community,ya were one month behind in payments, shit is a little stressful but why go back to that? Also just learned she is renting a house for $500,"the shack" from her uncle. I want to go see my kids but she keeps saying just give her space. Her dad said she's not talking about leaving me, I told him I just want her to be happy and don't know were this came from.

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Hopefully shes on Sunni's advice ..

but imo I'd chill, for 24-36 horas

then phone her buddies

good luck

BLVDog said:

I still don't know were she is man. Sux. It's really fucked she's native American and wants to go back to the "Rez" I mean the place just isn't the safest. her parents have always Ben dysfunction and she thinks that's ok, my buddy said he thinks he know were she's at he described it as a shack.like wtf we have a 3 bedroom 1600sq house in a gated community,ya were one month behind in payments, shit is a little stressful but why go back to that? Also just learned she is renting a house for $500,"the shack" from her uncle. I want to go see my kids but she keeps saying just give her space. Her dad said she's not talking about leaving me, I told him I just want her to be happy and don't know were this came from.

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Wait she took your children from your home and you don't know where she is ?
Are they your biological children ?

If so that's kidnapping and child endangerment

She can't just take your kids and fuck off to god knows where

vostok said:

Hopefully shes on Sunni's advice ..

but imo I'd chill, for 24-36 horas

then phone her buddies

good luck

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Sounds good thanks

sunni said:

Wait she took your children from your home and you don't know where she is ?
Are they your biological children ?

If so that's kidnapping and child endangerment

She can't just take your kids and fuck off to god knows where

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Yes. Right? There's no legal agreement that she gets them or anything u can't just take my kids because your mad at me. We are not married but they are my kids, acts like I'm unsafe to be around or this house is. I don't want to go that route but I will do what I have to do to make sure they are safe

I think I'm just gonna show up at her dad's church this Sunday, I never go(not because I don't believe,its just her mom is always there and the lady is crazy and I think is behind all this) she has to talk to me after or at least let me take my kids back home.

BLVDog said:

I think I'm just gonna show up at her dad's church this Sunday, I never go(not because I don't believe,its just her mom is always there and the lady is crazy and I think is behind all this) she has to talk to me after or at least let me take my kids back home.

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Good luck man, just be very careful cos that sounds like a situation that could easily turn hostile and leave you looking like the bad guy, which you don't sound like to me. No, she can't just take your kids like that and you've every right to be trying to get them back but I'd give her some time first man, she's obviously not right in her head and needs to straighten her shit out. Sounds like she's run back to her family, can't they discreetly convince her to see a doctor? I understand your frustration but I also understand her wanting her family when she's going through this; I had it with 3 of my 4 kids, I was still suffering with it from my first when I had my second and I still have tremendous guilt about how I felt about my second child until she was nearly 3! Like Sunni said, I think most women go through it to some degree after giving birth, it's to be expected, all those hormones coupled with massive changes, but serious PND is an awful thing to live with, it's a scary, guilty, shameful, confusing place to be so I'd hate for you to alienate yourself further from your family when you clearly just want to look after your children and support their mother. Educate yourself about her condition and your legal rights, make sure you know all your options, then keep them on the back-burner until you know for sure that the supportive, loving approach isn't going to work.

My lady went through this it's rough but support and getting proper care are best it's a disease and needs to be treated it goes away usually but crazy shit happens sometimes

BLVDog said:

I think I'm just gonna show up at her dad's church this Sunday, I never go(not because I don't believe,its just her mom is always there and the lady is crazy and I think is behind all this) she has to talk to me after or at least let me take my kids back home.

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I seriously encourage you to get a family law attorney. Please do not show up, as a surprise anywhere now that she has left the house with your children this could be considered proof of you stalking her. I'd go legal now and make sure the attorney is aware of her paranoidal ideation, threats of suicide, denying your paternity etc.... Emergency orders can be filed. So I encourage you to do this first thing Monday morning.

Good luck to ya my man cuz this situation sucks for sure.. A lot of advice coming your way and that's great, but all I will say is proceed with caution on "advice" cuz had I followed the " popular advice" when I got divorced I would be a child support paying part time dad.. Instead I have FULL custody of my kids and support ordered to me.. Go with what u feel is right..

Seriously step 1 is lawyer up. You do NOT want to be on the sharp end of the otherwise likely restraining order. I agree with Annie.

BLVDog said:

I think I'm just gonna show up at her dad's church this Sunday, I never go(not because I don't believe,
its just her mom is always there and the lady is crazy and I think is behind all this) she has to talk to me after or at least let me take my kids back home.

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I'd skip this Sunday ..just one time, you are doing your cause no favor...

My wife didn't seem to suffer from any depression but for the first 24 months of my daughter's doctor visits they always had my wife fill out a sheet regarding it. Surprised the doctors haven't intervened actually. A customers daughter in law hung herself because of it, so it can be pretty serious.

I'm going to echo everyone else and say; stay away, get your ducks in a row and call a lawyer. Good luck man.

Tough situation, good luck buddy, hopefully everything works itself out.

vostok said:

I'd skip this Sunday ..just one time, you are doing your cause no favor...

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Yeah, for real if he wants his woman back might as well give her a little space. Unless he's just like"fuck this bitch I want my kids" lol. Hard to say not knowing what the woman has to say about the whole thing could be arguing a lot or something.

I had PPD. Not angry just hyper anxious/depressed. Yes, you need a proper diagnosis first. I wouldn't be away from my kids if I were you.

So there Ben this border fire in my community. Kinda checked my girl , the house she was trying to stay in was evacuated by fire dept, i have had my kids for the whole time. We have talked it out, she realized respect is better then attention, her dad asked her to be happy, seemed to help alot, oh and the thought of everything burning must have had sumthing to deal with it. Everyone shuts up wen there is real problems. Yesterday me and my buddy hiked out to the pond behind his property(star ranch) it has Ben evacuated for a few days. We basically broke back in to get his dogs and seeds haha. We just wanted to see if it was coming to take his property/grow. Talked to fire dept. They were like it not supposed to be in here. But that's one you. Helicopters dropping water big planes dropping fire retardant. Smoke and ash everywhere. Looked like an apocalypse movie. Got my kids with me now. Ben crazy past couple couple days

BLVDog said:

i have had my kids for the whole time. We have talked it out, she realized respect is better then attention, her dad asked her to be happy, seemed to help alot, oh and the thought of everything burning must have had sumthing to deal with it. Everyone shuts up wen there is real problems.

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good to hear things are going better man! sounds like your gal may still be in need of some counseling. if she's not happy, it will affect the kids. ya can't just order someone to be happy, sometimes it's chemical and has to work itself, out one way or the other.

BLVDog said:

So there Ben this border fire in my community. Kinda checked my girl , the house she was trying to stay in was evacuated by fire dept, i have had my kids for the whole time. We have talked it out, she realized respect is better then attention, her dad asked her to be happy, seemed to help alot, oh and the thought of everything burning must have had sumthing to deal with it. Everyone shuts up wen there is real problems. Yesterday me and my buddy hiked out to the pond behind his property(star ranch) it has Ben evacuated for a few days. We basically broke back in to get his dogs and seeds haha. We just wanted to see if it was coming to take his property/grow. Talked to fire dept. They were like it not supposed to be in here. But that's one you. Helicopters dropping water big planes dropping fire retardant. Smoke and ash everywhere. Looked like an apocalypse movie. Got my kids with me now. Ben crazy past couple couple days

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Potrero fire?

Happy for you man, so glad you're back with your family. Now is the time to lovingly encourage the counselling/doctors trip, while she's thinking clearly, don't just let it slide now and think that everything is going ok so it'll be ok, you need her to recognise your fears, imo, and understand that there is no shame in getting help for a medical condition that is affecting family relationships. Good luck with it all hun

abe supercro said:

good to hear things are going better man! sounds like your gal may still be in need of some counseling. if she's not happy, it will affect the kids. ya can't just order someone to be happy, sometimes it's chemical and has to work itself, out one way or the other.

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Damn, he just got her back now you want her to get medication?

Shit my wife tried telling me I need to see a head doctor. Lol, It did not end well and I won't see a doctor. Not like I'm out of control ain't going to kill nobody well nobody I love. Lol