Busted by the wife

ya your right , i thought about that to , cause me and mine is always breaking up every couple of years lol so the next time the shit is going in the trash

pick a wife that know wassssssup ya digg? all my girlies either smoke or grow

damn dude that sucks getting busted

Holly shit!

Really sorry for what your going through... The outsider comment there... #1 man! You wife should be side by side on every level. If not then why are you dating to begin with. They say hey...my name is mary... And you say Jane? first things first.

Good luck sir.

Man, some of you out there are really harsh. I thought pot made people mellow. Well, it does me. I've been at this life for 30 some years, so I wanted something with this third relationship. Then something in the relationship made me get started again; her two teenagers. I kept all this a secret because I know how she felt about pot. She was married to a pot head for 10 years and he was nothing but a bum. Since I'm retired and want to do nothing but sail my boat, or sit around doing nothing, she gets flashbacks of him and that life.
Another thing. The house is in her name. I share my pension with my ex, so I'm living on a smaller paycheck that requires me to watch my money. That's why I started growing, to cut down or eliminate my pot expenses. I can't afford a place of my own. One way or another, this is a life changing experience. I will chose my path based on what makes the remaining time I have as peaceful as can be.
I haven't thrown my hydro equipment away.

Tombstone, man dont let these people get to ya! Your wife as you know should be your bestfriend, soul mate, and lover. You should not hide anything that will cost her, her freedom. On the upside....My wife is the shit and I would never let something like smoking weed come between us! She dont smoke but know about everything i do. As for the shallow people saying they would rather have weed than there wife....sounds stupid and petty. Imagine your wife letting a fucking cig or a beer come between you, its bullshit and selfish. However, let her know you are not like her ex husband and thats probably what got her to marry you. Weed doesnt make you a lazy bum......its the person. You are either lazy or not, its not the weed thats at fault there. I know fucking meth addicts that just sit around!

ablepipeman said:

Tombstone, man dont let these people get to ya! Your wife as you know should be your bestfriend, soul mate, and lover. You should not hide anything that will cost her, her freedom. On the upside....My wife is the shit and I would never let something like smoking weed come between us! She dont smoke but know about everything i do. As for the shallow people saying they would rather have weed than there wife....sounds stupid and petty. Imagine your wife letting a fucking cig or a beer come between you, its bullshit and selfish. However, let her know you are not like her ex husband and thats probably what got her to marry you. Weed doesnt make you a lazy bum......its the person. You are either lazy or not, its not the weed thats at fault there. I know fucking meth addicts that just sit around!

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Well said!!!

I share everything with my Wife, even girls.

Tombstone said:

Man, some of you out there are really harsh. I thought pot made people mellow. Well, it does me. I've been at this life for 30 some years, so I wanted something with this third relationship. Then something in the relationship made me get started again; her two teenagers. I kept all this a secret because I know how she felt about pot. She was married to a pot head for 10 years and he was nothing but a bum. Since I'm retired and want to do nothing but sail my boat, or sit around doing nothing, she gets flashbacks of him and that life.
Another thing. The house is in her name. I share my pension with my ex, so I'm living on a smaller paycheck that requires me to watch my money. That's why I started growing, to cut down or eliminate my pot expenses. I can't afford a place of my own. One way or another, this is a life changing experience. I will chose my path based on what makes the remaining time I have as peaceful as can be.
I haven't thrown my hydro equipment away.

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Print this shit out and give it to her...

I understand her past bad experiences and all that... sounds like my wifes current experiences..LOL

Except im not a dumb.. hold an 8-5 job..grow my own medicine and just want to chill. She gets mad at me cause i have no ambition. I say.. its too easy to make money not trying.... why work at it.

anyway... its not your case anymore... 60yr old guy is allowed to chill? i mean didnt you work all your life to get where ya at?... what she wants to go running n hiking?... Honestly i would say that by 60yrs i woudnt be playing these games... LIke i said... i would explain that it mellows you out... and that you donot see the harm and it doesnt affect anyone else. Now if you chilling on the couch with her watching price is right baked is wrong then you have a whole other side of problems... Start going to these 420 festivals and make sure you take a big bag of bud with you to it and i guarantee a nice 40yr old chick will come home with you... LOL....

You're first question to anyone your dating should be "Are you cool, man?" hahahahaha

g00sEgg said:

You're first question to anyone your dating should be "Are you cool, man?" hahahahaha

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lol
My Wife and I got married in our back yard, we got on the roof of our house and smoked a big bong b4 and after LOL
So I do believe Im safe.

Im actually trying to get her to start her own and get on here with me.

ablepipeman said:

Tombstone, man dont let these people get to ya! Your wife as you know should be your bestfriend, soul mate, and lover. You should not hide anything that will cost her, her freedom. On the upside....My wife is the shit and I would never let something like smoking weed come between us! She dont smoke but know about everything i do. As for the shallow people saying they would rather have weed than there wife....sounds stupid and petty. Imagine your wife letting a fucking cig or a beer come between you, its bullshit and selfish. However, let her know you are not like her ex husband and thats probably what got her to marry you. Weed doesnt make you a lazy bum......its the person. You are either lazy or not, its not the weed thats at fault there. I know fucking meth addicts that just sit around!

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not even close to the same



when your potential wife knew you smoked when you met her, knew you smoked throughout the courting process

and then later on in marriage all of a sudden decides you shouldnt be able to smoke

that is not a petty thing, thats control

no one should be with anybody that lets them control who they are

Keenly said:

not even close to the same



when your potential wife knew you smoked when you met her, knew you smoked throughout the courting process

and then later on in marriage all of a sudden decides you shouldnt be able to smoke

that is not a petty thing, thats control

no one should be with anybody that lets them control who they are

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yeah either you havent been married, have been divorced, or will be before long.

When your married, your not in a relationship like that anymore, there is no "I" there is "WE/US", he never told the other half about his grow, that's HIS fault, single thinking = single living, that's not a marriage, she could see that. I'm out of this thread, way to many simple minded plp in this thread.

Happy toking everyone.
Glad I don't have this type of shit to deal with. 7 years, 0 problems. I didn't start smoking till 4 or 5 years ago, so I was straight when she met me, she was too, now we both enjoy the same.

sometimes sacrifices must be made, props to you tombstone it takes a real man to do what's right

Keenly said:

not even close to the same



when your potential wife knew you smoked when you met her, knew you smoked throughout the courting process

and then later on in marriage all of a sudden decides you shouldnt be able to smoke

that is not a petty thing, thats control

no one should be with anybody that lets them control who they are

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Fuckin A!...

MY best friend in the world is going through the very same thing. She talks about not wanting to marry him cause he smokes... but then just hangs around and talks about wedding n shit... Uggghhh.. I told her that she was crazy thinking that my friend was going to quit this shit... and if he did cause of her... that she would end up in a bad resentful relationship.... When you smoke weed everyday like most of us... its not just something you like to do... its something you want to do....

I dont know i hate to hear about shit like this because i feel that it should never be hidden. More over i cant see how she never knew?... I have friends that hide drinking from their wives cause they arnt allowed... well thats cause of dui's..lol... I just thinks its lame to not live your life doing what you want to do.

60 yr old man tryin to secretly grow in his wifes house? uhhh wat hells goin on where ur brain at?
first of all of corse she would find out.
second, i can understand her saying no growing in the house.. but to say u cant smoke at all is pushing it.
but third i gues u gota do wat u gota do cuz i dont kno how hard it is to find a new woman at 60.

Sorry to hear that . . .

Guess your wife is the one wear the pants in the house.

Maybe you could educate her about the benefits of using weeds, or buy her the whole series of 'WEEDS'.

Either way best of luck!

yeh,you need to educate her,thats what its about,if shes smokes tobacco(you may do to,and so do i but i hate it,and when i can afford to,im smoking just weed,blunts,no more tobacco iits nasty shit) bring hell down upon her

people see nothing wrong with smoking a plant that is doing NOTHING other than rotting you from the inside and killing you,but when people want to smoke a natural NON PROCESSED herb,that happens to get you high as a motherfucker,they start going all 'oh drugs are bad bla bla bla bla' when they are too ignorant to realise the 2 most DANGEROUS and downright TOXIC drugs are LEGAL,its utter fucking madness,people are so fucking thick they dont understand alcohol is a drug,and if it came about today,would be an illegal Class A drug,Schedule 1 or whatever u US guys have.

make her understand,if he knew you smoked it before hand,then its unfair her doing that,your saving money by growing your own,and it connects you to the earth growing plants,especially when you know its gone get you high!