That is the true power of the militarized trolling. It has turned us all into walking talking trolls if we are not highly aware of it.
This is why I try to always remind myself that anytime I say 'Im just kidding', I am being defensive and was being a dick and someone got offended and called me out on it, and to shut up and listen (after I apologize).
The other thing is something my wife told me to read, I think it was a book called 'braving the wilderness'. It's harder, but we 'be generous with our assumptions' of what someone says being what they believe and that they may not mean it in a bad way and to not take it that way. I usually have to remind myself of this after I want to call them out. I need more practice with this.
Very true..excellent insight. Sarcasm can certainly be misconstrued, and is definitely not always a good thing. Used as a self defence mechanism..etc. Same, I am not scared to admit or apologize when I am called out.
Sounds like you have a pretty amazing wife. I love to read, and that is a great book. "True belonging doesn't require that we change who we are; it requires that we BE who we are." Although for some folks, that requires change as well cuz their "beings" need improvement.. Most folks are just stuck in their beliefs, but they will implement change if you kindly bring to their attention. Or as you said, what they say is just misunderstood, and means well.
That is a great practice to take heed of. It's a learning curve..hard but oh so rewarding in the long run. You'll get there, it's something that grows on you when you experience what a difference it makes, not jumping to assumptions or alterior motives. "Anything is plenty man... better than nam, nothing at all." From a song lol.
