Clearly, it does NOT have to be just as I say. Your lights light up when electricity is applied. Who knows how many other folks are growing right now, as we speak, with this poor hardware combination. They may get just as many years of life as a "proper" installation.
I emailed an Ideal rep months ago. He confirmed that all 4 points are supposed to touch down. That's how they designed it.
Things are used outside their design parameters all the time. With varying levels of success.
I tried to get the word out on this subject a while back
https://www.rollitup.org/t/cob-holders-the-basics.805034/
And you're right, I was jumping up & down too much previously. I apologize. I just don't want people thinking that the Ideal holders and the Arctic heatsinks are a great combination. They're a workable combination but not a great one.
You mentioned that installation was easy. Have you closely inspected your work at magnification? Are you sure there are no chips of dirt in between? IMO it's very easy to build a light that you think is getting good thermal contact when it really isn't.
I'd recommend close inspection of every assembly, using some trick like a strong flashlight held behind the COB, to look for any gaps between COB and sink.