Damn! She playing with me.
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Cannabolic
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It does suck, but u gotta think 4 you, not so much about what u did wrong. Granted there is a time and place for self loathing, but when it involves people whom you question their true motives and feelings, it is time to question if you are in the right place
Cannabolic
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Lmao I was feelin like dr phil. But yo riki lake was bad back in the day. Had a tight but lol
Swag
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No a lot of us have been in the same situation. The problem is the majority of the animal kingdom is not designed for a single life mate. Our instincts tell us to mate as much as possible to further secure the existence of our race in the future but our problem is we are complex creatures with deep consciousness and "emotions" which imbalance our natural urges/programs. The problem I see it is that you are young and were mistaking the emotion of "true love" as more of a physical attraction than a mental one. You were probably together because you enjoyed sex with each other and exhibited some mental connectivity but in reality probably shared little interests or ideas. Not to mention statistically speaking the chance of finding a perfect life partner even with 2 trillion people on the planet is still very slim. The only reason why you see late 70's and 80's (years) couples married still is because divorce was socially frowned upon here in America at those times (late 1800's to late 1950's). An they are really only together now to watch after each other for health risks. Personally I gave up on trying to find "true love" and decided to focus more on myself and how I can make myself a better person. "As you replace your time in between with other people's hopes and dreams, and you live their lives on your T.V. and now you don't even matter."
riseng
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Actually we never even kissed or anything. She has a man. It's also not just a physical attraction. There are so many other things to her. I just can't list them all Because I have school tomorrow. I need to sleep now. I have to get up early to look nice for her. I'll tell you guys what I decide tomorrow after school.
Swag
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I meant the girl you had lost your virginity too. To be honest if you feel this strongly about her and she has been confessing about her "man" mistreating her or not providing enough attention and stuff of that nature than you need to get her to at least meet you half way and break up with him or slyly hint at it. I'm telling you man do not completely surrender yourself to her cause if she denies you, you will be right back to the bottle for comfort... A relationship requires sacrifice and dedication to even work properly if she is not willing to show you some and expects you to do all the work than she is like everyone else has said a "skank" just looking for some attention to give her an ego boost or "physical satisfaction" that her man cannot provide.
Anyways good luck man and I hope you don't get hurt if you decide to go through with it.
Gafoogle
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there ya go.
admittedly I only skimmed this thread because after the first page I could see it was gonna be the same thing over and over. first of all, do you agree with this? "all's fair in love and war?" if not, find out what your boundaries are. if yes, then do exactly what you want to do. if you want to forget about her her, do so. if you want to talk to her about this, do so. if you want to moon over her and drag yourself into a ditch of unrequited love, do so. all in the name of love, right? you can't control her, so don't start thinking that what you want is for you to be together. what do you want from YOURSELF? to grow a pair? do so.
sorry to be harsh but I've been in your situation and that would have helped me. was completely in love with him, knew he had a girlfriend and convinced myself I could change that. couldn't. and if I had, I don't think I would have liked the outcome anyway because some other girl would have done the same thing to me eventually.
personally, I would recommend that you move on. if you're meant to be together, she'll come back into your life somehow. I know it's hard because you're attached to her now and you don't want to have wasted time/energy and have failed - but if you gave it your all, didn't hold back, got stomped on, learned from it, and moved on, that sounds like a success.
and to be even more honest...it sounds like you're a bit insecure. maybe you should spend some time figuring out why you don't want to try a relationship with someone who actually likes you
riseng
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Thanks. I'm kinda sad right now admittedly. I've decided to invest my love in the autoflower grow I'm going to do though. I'll give my plants the best care I can. She comes up to me more now that I completely stop giving her my affection. I don't think we could ever be together though. If I'm lucky we will, but I'm not going to get hurt if she breaks up with me. I have changed my outlook and procedures for certain things.
time heals all wounds, or at least fades them.
