Does the stigma of online dating still exist?

Padawanbater2

Padawanbater2

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Do you think the stigma of online dating still exists? If not, when do you feel like it declined?

I saw an interesting clip today, they said online dating makes up about 35% of interactions today and that it's essentially mainstream, I was wondering if you agree?

Also, what are your experiences with online dating? Positive, negative?
 
april

april

Pickle Queen
A mix of both..depends how honest u and others are during convos.

My new man friend was found online...after a yr of crappy dates and guys melting down on mdna...lol

Seriously I enjoy it, u can meet so many different people if ur willing to get to know people for who they really are not daydream over their pics and fantasize lol another lesson learned thanks to this site ;)
 
theloadeddragon

theloadeddragon

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I HATE dating sites.... nothing good has ever come of them for me... just been a waste of time completely... nothing more than an interactive dream and whisps of hope in an endless see of ..... images and crazy interpersonal dynamic reactions etc etc etc....

I chatted and gotten to know quite a few over dating sites... met a couple in person. Always goin no where... but then again... once I met me in person I would prolly walk the other way too... I hear other people have great luck.
 
BygonEra

BygonEra

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Nah I don't think there's much of a stigma anymore... too many people have met their SO online for there to be much of one anymore. I've never tried online dating but I would in a heart beat... I'm just currently stuck in a really shitty relationship... but once that finally ends (its a process lol... 6 years together), I'll be looking online. I've had awful luck in the past with being physically attracted to super douche baggy guys and looking past their flaws just long enough to get stuck with them. It's happened 3 times now. Online dating has the benefit of an asshole filter if you know what to look for. ;)
 
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PandaBoy

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online dating is definitely mainstream. A lot of my friends have met their girlfriends over the internet. And it isn't just dating sites. Things like facebook and twitter are all very popular. I personally prefer dating sites because the interaction is more catered towards dating and relationships. And if you haven't tried it yet, do it.
 
Samwell Seed Well

Samwell Seed Well

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you are supposed to meet your better half the old fashion way

when they come over with a regular for a sack

wtf, MMCW(figure that out CB)
 
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SlaveNoMore

Active Member
nah, I'm old school, churches, book stores and the fruit isle are my dating sites. Oh and hot moms at kid's sporting events!
 
Nutes and Nugs

Nutes and Nugs

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I had a few long term relationships through online dating.
Sorta nice to chat with a girl before meeting them in person.
Certain questions I would ask made them dateable or not without all the traditional hassles.
 
socaljoe

socaljoe

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I couldn't say whether the stigma exists still or not, because for me it never did.

This is probably not normal, I'll just get that out of the way now. For me, I like the idea of having a buffer between getting to know someone and meeting them face to face. Several years ago I was talking to a woman on MySpace and it got to the point where we were going to meet up, everything fell apart when I politely asked her not to call me some pet name or something, I mean we didn't even know each other, and she kinda lost her shit at that point...needless to say, I ran far and fast. I guess what I'm saying is that without that buffer in place, I would've had to deal with that at some point down the road unbeknownst to me. Which is not to say one is able to weed out all the wackos, but at least some of them.

I'm not a very outgoing person as it is, so putting myself out there is hard for me...with the internet, reaching out is less stressful for me. And I suppose that if/when I decide it might be time to meet a nice lady, internet dating is the path I'd choose...but that's a big if.
 
theloadeddragon

theloadeddragon

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socaljoe said:
I couldn't say whether the stigma exists still or not, because for me it never did.

This is probably not normal, I'll just get that out of the way now. For me, I like the idea of having a buffer between getting to know someone and meeting them face to face. Several years ago I was talking to a woman on MySpace and it got to the point where we were going to meet up, everything fell apart when I politely asked her not to call me some pet name or something, I mean we didn't even know each other, and she kinda lost her shit at that point...needless to say, I ran far and fast. I guess what I'm saying is that without that buffer in place, I would've had to deal with that at some point down the road unbeknownst to me. Which is not to say one is able to weed out all the wackos, but at least some of them.

I'm not a very outgoing person as it is, so putting myself out there is hard for me...with the internet, reaching out is less stressful for me. And I suppose that if/when I decide it might be time to meet a nice lady, internet dating is the path I'd choose...but that's a big if.
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I disagree that you can really get to KNOW a person online. I have met a few girls in real life, and what they say they are is usually very different from what I find myself meeting. To truly know and understand a person you have to be able to actually observe them without the "buffer" between for them to prep their answers and emoticons. And the long distance thing.... that doesnt work for me either... which is what pretty much any online dating would turn into. I want a partner to share my life with for real... not text them about it all the time hoping it means something to them or they understand me and my life and what is happening.

I lost pretty much all of my confidence, and thus, my outgoing nature with women, especially attractive women in person. Online I definitely feel less risk and let down when turned down or ignored. In real life I am too scared to even say anything and wouldnt know what to say. Thats probably the only reason I still entertain the idea of online dating. Otherwise I would never get to talk to pretty girls, lol. If I see a beautiful girl in person anymore, my eyes usually jump strait to the ground after I notice Im attracted. After so many years of being put in my place, I know better than to even try. I would rather go unnoticed than feel like they are laughing at me and think Im pathetic for being interested...
 
socaljoe

socaljoe

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theloadeddragon said:
I disagree that you can really get to KNOW a person online. I have met a few girls in real life, and what they say they are is usually very different from what I find myself meeting. To truly know and understand a person you have to be able to actually observe them without the "buffer" between for them to prep their answers and emoticons. And the long distance thing.... that doesnt work for me either... which is what pretty much any online dating would turn into. I want a partner to share my life with for real... not text them about it all the time hoping it means something to them or they understand me and my life and what is happening.

I lost pretty much all of my confidence, and thus, my outgoing nature with women, especially attractive women in person. Online I definitely feel less risk and let down when turned down or ignored. In real life I am too scared to even say anything and wouldnt know what to say. Thats probably the only reason I still entertain the idea of online dating. Otherwise I would never get to talk to pretty girls, lol. If I see a beautiful girl in person anymore, my eyes usually jump strait to the ground after I notice Im attracted. After so many years of being put in my place, I know better than to even try. I would rather go unnoticed than feel like they are laughing at me and think Im pathetic for being interested...
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I agree that you can't completely know a person online, and that's not what I was saying really. For me it wouldn't be about strictly engaging in an online relationship, but rather using that as a starting point, which to me is the point of it. Are there people that completely misrepresent themselves online?, absolutely, as in real life, but by that same token there are many people that are what they appear to be. All I'm saying is that I think you can get a feel for a person via online exchanges, and that serves as a basis to decide if you want to get to know them in real life...it's hardly a fool-proof method, I admit that, but I don't think your chances are any worse. As for the long-distance aspect, that's not for me either, and if that's all it would ever be I wouldn't waste my time, the relationship would have to be able to develop beyond the online exchange, otherwise why bother?

And that's my personal view, I don't expect everyone or anyone to agree with it, I don't even know if it's realistic, but it is the way I see it.
 
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