Friend starting to turn into a "User"

Amduc

Member
Hey guys, my friend of 3 years is all of a sudden only wanting to hang around if we're smoking, he hangs out with people all the time then asks me for percocets, I broke my leg a couple weeks ago and they give me them for the pain (Don't use them because of the side effects) I think he is capitalizing on my pain for his own selfishness. What do you guys think?

P.S. He asked me for a "Couple" percocets just now because he's at a party, I replied no and he didn't text me again, also the only time he texts me now is about how to do things (Clean a bowl etc) and for percs.
 

BA142

Well-Known Member
He likes drugs. He's using you.

Confront him or dump him....people like that don't change
 

racerboy71

bud bootlegger
fuck em i say.. sounds like you've figured out his game already, so why put up with someone who only wants to be around you for the things you can give them??

friends are nice and all, don't get me wrong, but it seems that there are way more people who only want to be around you for the things that you can give them rather then simply be a friend..

i'd rather only have one or two people i can legit call friends then 20 people whom i felt were using me.. been there, done that, got the tshirt, which of course one of them asked to borrow... :D
 

halfloaf

Active Member
It was back in about 1998 had these two [friends] well they said they were my friends i had knowen one from school so by this time about 10 years the other one about two years.

Well at this time i was unemployed and doing a bit of dealing [weed] only so i could get a smoke and i used to smoke with them but they started to get into heavy gear [downers]
this was not my high.

They used to ask for layons [some till they had cash] i was cool with that as long as they paid on time but with them taken there downers they started to change one day they asked for an ounce on tick i go cool but need cash in 2/3 days as i had to pay for the shit myself by then.

On the third day i go looking for them whent to one of theres mums she said they were in the bedroom so i go in thinking shits cool they gona have my cash the fukers pul a blade on me.

So i get outa there as fast as i could now i had to find cash for my dealer and ask him to give me a week to get his cash he was cool gave me a number to phone and ask for this bloke he would sort my little problem for £50.

So it got sorted but i was still out of pocket.

The asshole that i had knowen from school i had helped through a lot of shit when his dad died when we were 14 fuk we had our first joint together lost our viginity to the same girl one after the other but drugs change people.

If you think he is worth the efort speak to him before shit gets to wrong.
 

SSHZ

Well-Known Member
Start charging him for EVERYTHING.......explain to him your broke and can't aford to give things away. This way he won't be mad at you and do something stupid. Then, you may never see him again.
 

auldy66

Active Member
same shit, diff story and place and people, but SAME SHIT. cause u can grow, and weed is now worth big bucks, fuckin users I hate em !! get ur mate back on track, best friends are like herpes you keepem 4ever, then you two get together and fuck up the 2yr no-mark !!
 

auldy66

Active Member
i just realised I started to answer one post and finished up talkin about the other,, feckin weed ,hehe ;):idea:
 

patrickkawi37

Well-Known Member
ive learned being a generous person that people only are appreciative part time. after awhile they start to expect things. learning this has cost me lots of freeloading friends. in the end, no matter how much you give them, you will be the asshole when you start saying no or sticking up for yourself.

most friends are not worth it. the ones that are, keep them close.
 

kryptoniteglo

Well-Known Member
This is no doubt a painful situation, but you have to focus on the behavior you're seeing now, not on any memories you have of the closer relationship that you once had. Move him in your mind from Tier A Friend to Tier B Acquaintance. Charge for everything. Make no exceptions. If at some point he comes to you to talk about it, keep an open mind. But he won't. And in that case, Tier B Acquaintance is cool. That means if you bump into him in a bar you can have a beer and some laughs, but that's about it. All things change, even friendship. It's normal. Move on to people who can appreciate you.

I actually had to do this with a friend of 20 years, and as hard as it was, it was the right thing to do, and we're actually pretty good as Tier B Acquaintances. Much better than dealing with resentment with the memory of a Tier A Friend.

Good luck!
 

Amduc

Member
Thanks you guys for all the answers! I was just about to talk to him about it until he said hey man here's 5 bucks (For the shit I gave him) Which was fine but I still feel like he only wants to hang out as good friend when one of us have weed, don't get me wrong smoking is great but I'd also like to have that feeling of friendship while we're dry.
 

CrownMeKing

Active Member
lol when i read the title i thought your friend was becomming a drug addict. But the answer to this is quite obvious. Dump the friend unless you like paying for friendship. if anything sell them to him
 

kryptoniteglo

Well-Known Member
Thanks you guys for all the answers! I was just about to talk to him about it until he said hey man here's 5 bucks (For the shit I gave him) Which was fine but I still feel like he only wants to hang out as good friend when one of us have weed, don't get me wrong smoking is great but I'd also like to have that feeling of friendship while we're dry.
Of course you do! That's what we should all have with our most strongly bonded friends -- the ones we'd call brothers. You might still have that with him, but give it time to shake itself out. Relationships find their own levels. We just have to let it happen and accept the level it settles at with good humor and no resentment.
 
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