Heart broken, gotta shut down my grow!

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Guitarantula

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Man, I am just so depressed. Folks, I live in a mobile home, single dad with two kids, 16 year old boy and 12 year old girl. I have had to keep my closet door open and they saw the light from my hps 250. They were both in my room tonight and I saw my little girl peak behing my barrier I had in front of the closet. My son Said, Dad, what's that light and it might cause a fire", and my daughter said "he's growing plants in there", and I told them they were tomato plants. My son said, "yeah, uh huh, I want to see the TOMATO PLANTS. I yelled at them and told them to get out of my room. It's over. i can't have my son knowing, he tells a friend, his friend tells someone else, who tell their mom, next thing I know, cops are at my door.

What a bummer. I had purchased my hps 250, and just scored an hps 400 on Ebay and it isn't even here yet. I will have to kill my sickly plants tomorrow and I will smoke the damn things if they choke me to death. I have been at this for a couple months or more, killed a few plants, burned others with nutes, had them in too much heat, etc... My five small plants weren't even ready to flower yet, though the oldest was 12 inches high and getting bushy. I will pull them tomorrow and dry them and smoke them, I don't care if they do give me a headache. I am going to pack my stuff in a box and store it until I have the privacy to grow in a bedroom or something someday. That will probably be after my daughter leaves home someday, this all could be years from now, but at least I will have me a 250 and 400 hps stored away and some knowledge now about growing. It's going to be a long wait, AND WHAT'S WORSE IS MY CONTACT HASN'T HAD ANY IN OVER A MONTH. I am just so damn sad. I just can't risk my son knowing, and he doesn't mess with it, on the high school football team, job at Mcdonalds and such, he's a good kid and has never tried it. I know he knows what I am doing and that I smoke because we have had family here for holidays that smoke and I know he has smelled it coming out of my room, and my brother also told him that he smokes, so I am sure he knows I do too. I just can't risk his friends finding out, if that happens it's only a couple steps away from cops at the door. DAMN!! I might as well unplug my hps 250 tonight before I go to bed. Time they get home from school tomorrow I will have it all packed up and then when the hps 400 gets here I'll pack it up too. I may sell the 250 hps because I can veg with cfl's when I grow in the future, I also have 8 26 watt 6500k cfl's, so I should be good to go in the future with those and the 400.

I could just cry. I have no smoke, and not enough privacy or the room to grow my own. God, life sucks sometimes. I love weed so damn bad, I am 45 years old and still can't enjoy my simple past time when i want to. can't find it to buy, can't grow it for no privacy.

Thanks to all here who helped me learn some valuable info and I looked forward every day to getting up and reading for a while. I will be back hopefully in a few years. I am going to stay single so that when my kids finally leave home i will have my own home to myself and finally have me some privacy.

Thanks to all.
 
TheConstantGardner

TheConstantGardner

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Keep it all setup. Grow you some tomatoes or peppers man. You'll gain indoor growing experience in the meantime, not to mention getting your room setup and perfectly optimized for max productivity.
 
Mr.Pyrex

Mr.Pyrex

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Guitarantula said:
Man, I am just so depressed. Folks, I live in a mobile home, single dad with two kids, 16 year old boy and 12 year old girl. I have had to keep my closet door open and they saw the light from my hps 250. They were both in my room tonight and I saw my little girl peak behing my barrier I had in front of the closet. My son Said, Dad, what's that light and it might cause a fire", and my daughter said "he's growing plants in there", and I told them they were tomato plants. My son said, "yeah, uh huh, I want to see the TOMATO PLANTS. I yelled at them and told them to get out of my room. It's over. i can't have my son knowing, he tells a friend, his friend tells someone else, who tell their mom, next thing I know, cops are at my door.

What a bummer. I had purchased my hps 250, and just scored an hps 400 on Ebay and it isn't even here yet. I will have to kill my sickly plants tomorrow and I will smoke the damn things if they choke me to death. I have been at this for a couple months or more, killed a few plants, burned others with nutes, had them in too much heat, etc... My five small plants weren't even ready to flower yet, though the oldest was 12 inches high and getting bushy. I will pull them tomorrow and dry them and smoke them, I don't care if they do give me a headache. I am going to pack my stuff in a box and store it until I have the privacy to grow in a bedroom or something someday. That will probably be after my daughter leaves home someday, this all could be years from now, but at least I will have me a 250 and 400 hps stored away and some knowledge now about growing. It's going to be a long wait, AND WHAT'S WORSE IS MY CONTACT HASN'T HAD ANY IN OVER A MONTH. I am just so damn sad. I just can't risk my son knowing, and he doesn't mess with it, on the high school football team, job at Mcdonalds and such, he's a good kid and has never tried it. I know he knows what I am doing and that I smoke because we have had family here for holidays that smoke and I know he has smelled it coming out of my room, and my brother also told him that he smokes, so I am sure he knows I do too. I just can't risk his friends finding out, if that happens it's only a couple steps away from cops at the door. DAMN!! I might as well unplug my hps 250 tonight before I go to bed. Time they get home from school tomorrow I will have it all packed up and then when the hps 400 gets here I'll pack it up too. I may sell the 250 hps because I can veg with cfl's when I grow in the future, I also have 8 26 watt 6500k cfl's, so I should be good to go in the future with those and the 400.

I could just cry. I have no smoke, and not enough privacy or the room to grow my own. God, life sucks sometimes. I love weed so damn bad, I am 45 years old and still can't enjoy my simple past time when i want to. can't find it to buy, can't grow it for no privacy.

Thanks to all here who helped me learn some valuable info and I looked forward every day to getting up and reading for a while. I will be back hopefully in a few years. I am going to stay single so that when my kids finally leave home i will have my own home to myself and finally have me some privacy.

Thanks to all.
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since your Son is 16, you should sit him down and have a talk with him, use it as a postivie bonding expierence tell em its for medical issue or so on, who knows your soon mite understand
 
biggflintmi

biggflintmi

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TheConstantGardner said:
Keep it all setup. Grow you some tomatoes or peppers man. You'll gain indoor growing experience in the meantime, not to mention getting your room setup and perfectly optimized for max productivity.
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Seriously. Grow some tomatoe plants as a cover. Show him they are tomoatoe plants like you said they were. If they ask why you are hiding them just say its for the reflectivity and nowhere else to put it.
 
TheConstantGardner

TheConstantGardner

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yup, and for less than $100 you can get everything you need to start dabbling in hydroponics. You can work on cloning, etc. This doesn't necessarily have to be a negative experience. Besides, once everybody gets bored peeking in on tomatoes or habaneros, you can sneak in a good crop or two.
 
space_weaseal

space_weaseal

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Hey sorry to here that, but you did the only responsible thing you could do...Man you may have to stop your grow but at least you can hold your head up high around the young ones...And look at it this way, "You can start a new hobby with the kids and grow the peppers and tomatoes"..My hats off to you, "that you put your kids ahead of your own wants and needs"..
 
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Guitarantula

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Thanks guys. yeah, my kid would probably accept it because I am already sure he knows, it's just never been said. It's not that i think he would throw a fit, or threaten to tell the cops or something, it's that at 16 he couldn't possible know the seriousness of telling a friend, and how telling one person might eventually lead to five people knowing, including other parents, and then lead to having the cops at the door. It's not that he would be uncool, it's that I wouldn't trust any 16 year-old kid with my possibility of me being caught by the cops. He's a good kid and would probably agree to let me do it, but he would have that knowledge, and I wouldn't feel comfortable with any 16 year-old kid having that kind of knowledge about me, know what I mean? My daughter will probably tell her friend, "my dad's growing tomatoes in his closet", having no idea what she is talking about. Think how that will sound to another parent. Yeah, growing real tomatoes might be a good experience thing, and in the future, after they get bored of seeing them, I could slip in a couple plants from time to time. I may go that route. I am also considering the plastic grow box thing that Jethro built. That could be an option with cfl's, and I could just keep my hps lights for the future. I could go on and kill these sickly plants I have now and take my time building a stealth box from the rubbermaid tubs. Already have my veg cfl's, so maybe that's a way to go. Then, the closet could be dark and I could even put the grow box in sight if I could stop the light from leaking too bad.

Thanks
 
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Guitarantula

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The more i think about this, the better it sounds. I could sell my hps 250 and buy the needed stuff for the rubbermaid grow box. And, if I flower during the days, while they are at school, I could open the lid up and stick it under my 400 hps, at least for 8 hours of the flower time, then before they get home I could pop the lid back on with the 8 2700k cfl's and put the box away. Timer would take care of the lights in the box and the kids would see nothing. I am not worried about the smell as we have skunk problems in this area anyway, and my kids are always complaing about the smell from my laundry in my bedroom. I was just thinking that this is what folks worked on and developed the stealth grow boxes for, just for this type situation, and here I have been going the wrong direction. I wouldn't even have to put my grow box in my closet, it could stay in a corner of the room or something. That way it would stay in the cool, air conditioned room. Where there's a will there's a way, huh? I think I'll pop my 250 hps on Ebay for 99 bucks and see if I get a bite. I just paid $137 for it less than a month ago from htg. This all gives me hope that it was just my growing style that needs changing, not ending my growing completely. My five I have now have been through so much stress that i might as well kill them and smoke em. This will give me times to build my box and do it right--let it take all the time it needs to be just right. I can then buy some fem seeds and grow three at a time maybe in one of those boxes. Sound like a plan?
 
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rkm

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Guitarantula said:
Thanks guys. yeah, my kid would probably accept it because I am already sure he knows, it's just never been said. It's not that i think he would throw a fit, or threaten to tell the cops or something, it's that at 16 he couldn't possible know the seriousness of telling a friend, and how telling one person might eventually lead to five people knowing, including other parents, and then lead to having the cops at the door. It's not that he would be uncool, it's that I wouldn't trust any 16 year-old kid with my possibility of me being caught by the cops. He's a good kid and would probably agree to let me do it, but he would have that knowledge, and I wouldn't feel comfortable with any 16 year-old kid having that kind of knowledge about me, know what I mean? My daughter will probably tell her friend, "my dad's growing tomatoes in his closet", having no idea what she is talking about. Think how that will sound to another parent. Yeah, growing real tomatoes might be a good experience thing, and in the future, after they get bored of seeing them, I could slip in a couple plants from time to time. I may go that route. I am also considering the plastic grow box thing that Jethro built. That could be an option with cfl's, and I could just keep my hps lights for the future. I could go on and kill these sickly plants I have now and take my time building a stealth box from the rubbermaid tubs. Already have my veg cfl's, so maybe that's a way to go. Then, the closet could be dark and I could even put the grow box in sight if I could stop the light from leaking too bad.

Thanks
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I cant say enough about Jethros box. I am on my first grow, and I am certainly above all my expectations at the moment, first grow and no casualties. I am 23 days into flower, the second plant has yet to show its sex yet but they are both doing fine. The box stays in my closet where its dark, and with a little mod, I was able to limit the amount of light coming out of the fans. I have a similar situation with a 15 y/o and a 13 y/o and nothing has been said and they are none the wiser about my project. The stealth box is a certain consideration if you are interested in keeping it going.
 
Lord Dangly Bits

Lord Dangly Bits

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I would make it way more stealthy then just a rubbermade sleath grow. I am sure your son is smart enough to wonder what that box is with all the ventelation and electrical wireing comeing out of it is.
 
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rkm

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Lord Dangly Bits said:
I would make it way more stealthy then just a rubbermade sleath grow. I am sure your son is smart enough to wonder what that box is with all the ventelation and electrical wireing comeing out of it is.
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I hid all my electrical and designed it so that looking at the front it looks like a tuperware container. At first glance there is no indication of what it is.
 
JohnnyPotSeed1969

JohnnyPotSeed1969

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yeah, you really should consider growing tomatoes and or peppers for a hot minute, just until their curiosity abates. there's no shame in letting them see that. then, later on you can sneak in a plant or two. kids are more curious than cats man, you're gonna have to satisfy that curiosity in one way or another.
 
natmoon

natmoon

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Go to the woods dig a hole the size of your old cupboard space or bigger and then wood up the sides fit all the lights up the sides and then add a drainpipe for ventilation making sure you cover it with some stockings on either end, make a lid for the hole youve dug and cover it with army camouflage net mud leaves etc.,then buy a small petrol generator and build a square box and bury the sucker near to your growbox also useing a small piece of pipe for exhaust then simply return once every 4-5 days to fill it with petrol and water the plants then at least you will some smoke even if its not the best it will be some,a lot of work and pissing about granted but it is stealthy and safe and definately better than having nothing:blsmoke:

On the remote chance that you do this always make sure you know EXACTLY where youve built it as i know of one guy who did all of this and then lost his box the poor fool,he eventually found it after 2 weeks,the real prob with the deep woods is that it can all look like the right place and be definitely the wrong place lol:joint:
 
inbudwetrust

inbudwetrust

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You had it right the first time bro. Just be a good Dad and wait until your kids are out of the house. A lot of ridicule and problems could arise from your kids knowing this, also your son is right, it coujld start a fire, and due to the fact that you are in a mobile home that could be really catastrophic. So my opinion is just continue to be a good dad, and next time you can score a half oz or full oz to hold you over.Good luck
 
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Chosen

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Sounds like you had it right the first time. Shut it down until the kids are gone. I also like the idea of growing other types of plants in the area. I am considering growing some other flowers.
 
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