Help Me save my Girl!

I am 90% sure that I have spider mites. I cannot see any of the little buggers, even though I have tried for hours. There are a few more spots that looked munched on my plant every day. I have read a lot and I know about the neem oil and stuff. Since the neem oil will take a while to arrive, I have put a humidfier in my closet, increased wind by putting the fan more directly on my plant on a higher setting, and also opened the window to lower the temperature in the room. I think it's mites because there were about three single strands of web stretching from my cola to a lower leaf. I cleared off the webs and then I used some Safe soap organic insect spray and then turned off the lights. When I turned the light back on five hours later there was a strand of web that had been rebuilt. But maybe someone with more experience can tell me for sure if this looks like mites. The damage seems to start on the bottom of the leaf as I have read is characteristic of mites. Any help would be appreciated. I also have a grow journal if anyone wants to look. I am also about three weeks from finish, and very worried about rotting my buds! so

Shit, I just realzied that it might be the Mircale Grow soil I'm using. But that doesn't explain the webs unless there is a regular spider running around in the plant room. The webs haven't been back yet though since I increased humidity and wind. But there does seem to be more damage spots on more leaves. Man, I wish I could get a profesional opinion on this.

My new plan

A:Take deep breaths and settle down
B:Move plant away form lights
C:Turn fan so not pointed directly at plant
D:Water with straight water and nothing else this time
E:Walk away from the plant and wait!

If you have mites they'll be on the underside of the leaf, small but easy to see with magnification. They look like little light brown crabs.
You probably have a house spider. Lower leaves often turn brown close to harvest.

To my knowledge, spider mites make a "cottony" web on the plant, not a long single strand. It's hard to tell from your pics what is going on (plant is too blurry, though I can see your soil and furniture perfectly). Spider mite damage will look like you have tiny white or yellow speckles all over the effected area (I mean REALLY tiny).

Thanks for looking both herb guitar. Your comments were very helpful. I repped you both thank you.