How long before i tell my new Girl...

splifchris

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So... This has probably come up before... Anyway... Ive been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and although i have no intention of telling her any time soon... When do you think its safe to tell a new girl friend???

I grow in a spare bed room and she asked to see it and a said i had leased it out to a friend to store shit in and thats why it was locked...

Any thoughts???

Thanks > Chris
 

puffenuff

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I always put off any weed related discussions until we've been dating for a while...the longer the better. That way she cant get any preconceived notions about what kind of person you truly are. Then when they actually find out and get upset, you just be like, "look, you cared for me before you knew all this, and now youre tripping? Nothing has changed since we started dating or whatever, so you really cant judge me for this because im the same person. The only reason I didn't tell you is because i was afraid you'd judge me and then we never wouldve gotten together" something like that...if she really likes you she'll get over it. Works for me more often thann not.
 

massah

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it is only safe if the following conditions are met:

1) shes cool with weed in general
2) she is a really nice girl
3) shes not a fucking psycho
4) she doesn't have baggage
5) she has a bad opinion of the police/govt
6) she thinks it should be legalized
7) her eyes light up when she sees a nug
8) she has no family or friends or access to the internet.

if all of those conditions are met...maybe 6 months :D
 

Corso312

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I always put off any weed related discussions until we've been dating for a while...the longer the better. That way she cant get any preconceived notions about what kind of person you truly are. Then when they actually find out and get upset, you just be like, "look, you cared for me before you knew all this, and now youre tripping? Nothing has changed since we started dating or whatever, so you really cant judge me for this because im the same person. The only reason I didn't tell you is because i was afraid you'd judge me and then we never wouldve gotten together" something like that...if she really likes you she'll get over it. Works for me more often thann not.



the bigger issue and really only issue is...there is a 99% chance you n her will break up ..and when it does you do not have to worry about her running her mouth
to police or around the neighborhood or her next boyfriend..who may be a cop
 

Total Head

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So... This has probably come up before... Anyway... Ive been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and although i have no intention of telling her any time soon... When do you think its safe to tell a new girl friend???

I grow in a spare bed room and she asked to see it and a said i had leased it out to a friend to store shit in and thats why it was locked...

Any thoughts???

Thanks > Chris

as soon as you trust her with your life. you gotta know for SURE what she would do if shit were to ever hit the fan. a few weeks is nowhere worth floating the idea of telling her.
 

puffenuff

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the bigger issue and really only issue is...there is a 99% chance you n her will break up ..and when it does you do not have to worry about her running her mouth
to police or around the neighborhood or her next boyfriend..who may be a cop
True. but if you are already worrying about that before even telling her, you should have enough insight to try to end things on good terms and/or be smart enough to move your operation if she turns out to be dangerous. Like I said, put it off as long as possible.
 

Corso312

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True. but if you are already worrying about that before even telling her, you should have enough insight to try to end things on good terms and/or be smart enough to move your operation if she turns out to be dangerous.
almost ALL women can get crazy and emotional when you break up with them..trust me..you do not want to have to worry about any of that..it is so much easier to tell them nothing
 

massah

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almost ALL women can get crazy and emotional when you break up with them..trust me..you do not want to have to worry about any of that..it is so much easier to tell them nothing
yeah i had a bitch threaten to get me fired when i was breaking up with her once...i returned the favor and said if she dared try id fuck her life up lol
 

puffenuff

Well-Known Member
almost ALL women can get crazy and emotional when you break up with them..trust me..you do not want to have to worry about any of that..it is so much easier to tell them nothing
Dude, eventually if you stay with her long enough she will find out...this is the point of the relationship I'm talking about.
 

murr1057

Member
The three most important things for growers is :
Security, Security and Security !!

Remember, the less people that know the better. I would be careful and wait a lot longer until you know how she will react to it. And just remember she may not be your girlfriend forever.
 

splifchris

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Thanks Guys..... Yeah... definately gonna leave telling her for a few months... The one thing i like about the situation is she is not a local.... or native for that matter... She's eastern European and got a pretty good out look on weed.... put it this way... if she was a local Irish girl she would never be told!!!
 

Corso312

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Dude, eventually if you stay with her long enough she will find out...this is the point of the relationship I'm talking about.

not if you are slick, i have been with the same lady for 3 years and she knows nothing...she knows i smoke and that is all she will ever know...remember loose lips sink ships
 

Nusky

New Member
meh I can't really hide it. I grow in a 5x5 tent. The girl who's been interested in me who I've met online, I told her I could grow about 6 pounds in my tent, but she doesn't know where I live at all or anything. Last time I had an apartment and grew, my room mate blabbed to everyone he knew about it, constantly had people over and the whole place smelled like fresh skunk 24/7. We also had a hole in the wall into the bathroom to exhaust the heat from my closet to the bathroom and out through the exhaust. It was pretty obvious to anyone who took the time to observe and listen. Most people really don't care, and those who do usually wouldn't bother to call the cops unless they're a freak.

That being said, I only tell people who would find out anyway. I can't really hide the tent even if it's in my room. Eventually we're going to have sex in my room and she's going to wonder why the hell I have a big square black thing with air coming out of it. I could say I'm growing vegetables inside as a hobbie but seriously, who the hell actually does that when they have the opportunity to grow pot lol
 

billy2011

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If possible I wouldn't tell her anything, ever!! Women can be dangerous, especially with a broken heart!!
 

The*Mad*Hatter

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Who ever knows about your grow op...you better have dirt on them as well so if their lips get loose, you can bring them down with you......
 
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