If you buy a chick a drink or a few drinks at a bar, you're paying. If you share your cooler of beer or whatever with a chick at a party or cookout, you're paying. If you take a chick to the movies, you're paying. If you take a chick out on a dinner date, you're paying. If you buy her a birthday gift, you're paying. If you buy her a Christmas gift, you're paying. If you buy her an anniversary gift, you're paying. If you take her on a weekend ski trip, you're paying. If you take her on a week long cruise, you're paying. If you take her on a two week vacation to the Greek Islands, you're paying. If you paycheck makes payments on a car she drives, you're paying. If your paycheck pays rent, you're paying. If your paycheck pays a mortgage payment, you're paying. If you're paycheck pays a life insurance premium so after you die she can live it up, you're paying.
Those are all just indirect payments for getting head and so you can play hide the weenie. If you do none of those things in your life in a way where some female or females will benefit from them see how many times you get your dick sucked and how many times you get to poke a babe.