Stoney McFried
Well-Known Member
But I just wanted to vent.On Wednesday,I go to court because my ex is trying to get me on a contempt of a custody order charge.I have never refused him visitation, but he has tried this twice in the past, after not showing up for his daughter for long periods of time.Well, this time, his daughter no longer wants to see him.This is because she watched his 6'6",400+pound ass beat his 4'11",90 pound girlfriend.(This was during one of his weekends over a year ago.) He wanted to get out of there quickly...he's got a record and the cops were coming.When my daughter, who was 11 at the time, didn't move fast enough, he tried to kick her in the ass down a flight of stairs.He ripped her coat trying to drag her,and finally gave up, got in his truck and drove away. His girlfriend brought my daughter home, and she was hysterical.She said she never wanted to see him again, and she hasn't. It's not like he's a loss to her.Through his own past actions, he has made it so this child does not love him.
I stay in my house all the time.I'm a hermit.I venture out for groceries.It's rare if I go out to do anything recreational.This man, since I have left him, has spread lies about me and told them to people he knew would make sure it got back to me.He's called child protective services on me twice,both cases were unfounded, of course.He goes to her school behind my back, badmouths me,and the school won't take him off of the list until I can show a court order saying he's no longer allowed to go there.
To top it off, I had to get a court appointed attorney.I was told he was good by another attorney I consulted who my brother used in the past, but who no longer does court cases.The attorney I have is trying to see it from my ex's side,I guess...I just don't feel like he's gonna fight for me as hard as he should.I tried to make him understand what we're dealing with here, I don't think he believes anyone is really like that.
My ex only seeks to use his daughter to hurt me.He comes down to the mobile home park where I live(yes, I'm trailer trash) and badmouths me to my neighbors.He even badmouths his daughter. The day he turned on her, she just became like any other woman he has abused...from that point, there is no going back.Since he cannot get to me physically,he tries to use the system to lash out at me.
Yes, there's a court order of joint legal custody...but above and beyond that, I must protect my daughter.They can't make her love him.They can't make him better.
I've never been to jail before...so please cross your fingers for me, because I'm kinda scared.If they try to send me to jail, even for two days,I'm gonna run.If this fucker wins,this evil fucker with a long record of assault, domestic abuse, theft....and I lose, who has never gotten so much as a ticket...I will know there is no fucking recourse.
I know you haven't heard his side of the story,and you won't, because I'd never ever let him know I frequented this site.But listen to me.If there are any of you in a bad relationship,abusive, violent,controlling,whatever...and you haven't had kids together, get away.Don't think kids will make it better, even if the other person says how happy a child would make them.I was so young and dumb.Once you have kids, you have to deal with this fucker in some capacity for the rest of your life.
I can't get away from him.I wish he'd die.
K, thx,lol.
I stay in my house all the time.I'm a hermit.I venture out for groceries.It's rare if I go out to do anything recreational.This man, since I have left him, has spread lies about me and told them to people he knew would make sure it got back to me.He's called child protective services on me twice,both cases were unfounded, of course.He goes to her school behind my back, badmouths me,and the school won't take him off of the list until I can show a court order saying he's no longer allowed to go there.
To top it off, I had to get a court appointed attorney.I was told he was good by another attorney I consulted who my brother used in the past, but who no longer does court cases.The attorney I have is trying to see it from my ex's side,I guess...I just don't feel like he's gonna fight for me as hard as he should.I tried to make him understand what we're dealing with here, I don't think he believes anyone is really like that.
My ex only seeks to use his daughter to hurt me.He comes down to the mobile home park where I live(yes, I'm trailer trash) and badmouths me to my neighbors.He even badmouths his daughter. The day he turned on her, she just became like any other woman he has abused...from that point, there is no going back.Since he cannot get to me physically,he tries to use the system to lash out at me.
Yes, there's a court order of joint legal custody...but above and beyond that, I must protect my daughter.They can't make her love him.They can't make him better.
I've never been to jail before...so please cross your fingers for me, because I'm kinda scared.If they try to send me to jail, even for two days,I'm gonna run.If this fucker wins,this evil fucker with a long record of assault, domestic abuse, theft....and I lose, who has never gotten so much as a ticket...I will know there is no fucking recourse.
I know you haven't heard his side of the story,and you won't, because I'd never ever let him know I frequented this site.But listen to me.If there are any of you in a bad relationship,abusive, violent,controlling,whatever...and you haven't had kids together, get away.Don't think kids will make it better, even if the other person says how happy a child would make them.I was so young and dumb.Once you have kids, you have to deal with this fucker in some capacity for the rest of your life.
I can't get away from him.I wish he'd die.
K, thx,lol.
