I don't like to talk about my personal problems usually...

I never married him, number one.Number two, I'm not the kind of woman who would assassinate the character of a child's father to them.Because it was devastating when my mom did it to me after dad died. If you had just had disagreed with me, I could have lived with that and been silent,because as I stated earlier, you don't know his side of the story.But you tried to "tell" me what I was really trying to do, obviously drawing from the scope of all of your own experiences. I have never refused him visitation.Ever.But my girl came home trembling and crying that day.I went to the cops, and they said it was a he said she said matter...even though his girlfriend went in and told them what happened. Now he's got a little money because he's on disability and got a lump sum...so instead of paying any back child support he owes, he decides to try to get me in contempt just to fuck with me...and he's trying to get me to pay his attorney fees.With his daughter's money. Get this straight.He never endangered her before...just completely ignored her.He sleeps when she comes over.She has come home filthy,and he laughs if I tell him she needs to bathe. He calls women bitches and cunts when his own daughter will grow to be one one day...he has beaten every woman he's ever been with, and three of them he's slapped around in front of his daughter, my self included when she was a baby before I left him. But the day he put his hands on his daughter in that manner,he crossed his barrier.Now he won't go back.The violence will escalate.This I know.And no court,no person, will ever force me to put my child in danger.I am respecting her wishes, not my own.Because if I had my way, I'd have blown his fucking head off a long time ago.But I will not do that to my daughter, because I'm the only stable parent she has.Spanking a kid is one thing.Trying to kick her down a flight of stairs because you wish to escape the authorities quickly after you've knocked your girlfriend about is totally another.

Green Cross said:

Let this thread be a lesson to you single guys out there. Think twice before getting married, because If you choose the wrong woman, or things just don't work out - for whatever reason - she will still find a way to make your life a living hell.

Never marry to someone you aren't willing to sue, if things don't work out.

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Thanks, Johnny. I just haven't gone and done anything about his attacks against my character because I can't spend money on attorneys frivolously,and it's always me hearing it from someone who was there when he said it.I also have a healthy suspicion of any law enforcement types,lol.

Johnnyorganic said:

Stoney, get your rear end to Legal Aid ASAP.

http://www.legal-aid.org/en/home.aspx

They deal with issues such as yours on a daily basis. What you have described is harassment, plain and simple.

If the child no longer wishes to see her sperm donor, and can appear before a judge explaining, in detail, exactly why; then the matter will be settled in Family Court by a Judge that day.

The incident with her witnessing the domestic violence, getting a boot in her rear, and being abandoned on the street; that tears it. That fucker abdicated all paternal rights. Any feminazi Legal Aid attorney will ram a broomstick up his corn-hole and break it off.

Best of luck, Doll. I'm sending some good vibrations your way. Be on the lookout for them.

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Find yourself a ball breaker at Legal Aid. It won't cost much, possibly nothing at all.

These attorneys volunteer their time at Legal Aid. Many of them are Liberal do-gooders who have husbands who make all the jack, and they are free to do what they want.

I know because I used to be married to one.

better make it look like an accident


shurly this man does drugs? atleast drinks?

have somone go under cover to his hang out and swill a few beers with him. then slip him a roofie. then before it kicks in I lure him to his car with a joint. then once he passes out drive his car to the edge of a cliff, put him in the passenger seat and put in drive.

then he will fall off the cliff and die a painless death (i think)

does he have life insurance?

LOL!In a perfect world, yeah.....Prolly need horse tranquilizer for his dumb ass.If he still does drugs, he does them alone.The people he hangs around with are usually people from the county home,must think it makes him look smart.

Big P said:

better make it look like an accident


shurly this man does drugs? atleast drinks?

have somone go under cover to his hang out and swill a few beers with him. then slip him a roofie. then before it kicks in I lure him to his car with a joint. then once he passes out drive his car to the edge of a cliff, put him in the passenger seat and put in drive.

then he will fall off the cliff and die a painless death (i think)

does he have life insurance?

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I'm going to be a little blunt here so feel free to skip this message...

I hate to say it but this sounds like your fault. The minute he abandoned your daughter with a woman he beat because he didnt want to get arrested you should of went back to court to seek a change to the terms of your daughters custody. He would not of won and you wouldn't have this problem.

What you are doing IS illegal according to your current custody ruling. You have no one to blame but yourself.

by the way, running with your kid is a great way to get a kidnapping charge. and instead of doing 2 days, youll be doing YEARS.

Usernamex, no need to be a dick about it.

Wow. This whole thingreminds me a little of my own dad. Small world.

No, I tried to do something about it, but the cops wouldn't do anything.Did you read that part?So, what am I supposed to do?I can't use legal aid around here because they've already represented him on a different matter,and I don't have the money to go about hiring attorneys because my money goes to my responsibilities.Getting a change in custody can cost tens of thousands of dollars.I don't have that kind of extra cash, sorry. And the subpoena says to show just cause why she isn't seeing him. So I think this is just cause, thanks.
What's with you people?Does my kid have to be injured seriously or killed before she can stay away from him?What if he had been molesting her?You think just because it was court ordered I'd have forced her to go back to that while I tried to get help?Get fucking real.

usernamex said:

I'm going to be a little blunt here so feel free to skip this message...

I hate to say it but this sounds like your fault. The minute he abandoned your daughter with a woman he beat because he didnt want to get arrested you should of went back to court to seek a change to the terms of your daughters custody. He would not of won and you wouldn't have this problem.

What you are doing IS illegal according to your current custody ruling. You have no one to blame but yourself.

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Kidnapping.My own kid. What a fucked up world.

usernamex said:

by the way, running with your kid is a great way to get a kidnapping charge. and instead of doing 2 days, youll be doing YEARS.

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So anyway, I'm not a sympathy seeker, this whole thing just has me worried, so I wanted to get a little advice.I'm gonna go ahead and close the thread.For those of you who were supportive, thanks, for those of you that weren't I understand you're trying to see it from his side.But if you really think that a court should be able to order a mother to place her child in a fucked up and dangerous environment just because it's her father,let me just say I'm fucking glad I wasn't your kid in a similar situation. This man has fucked with me through my daughter for twelve plus years.If he cared so damn much, he wouldn't subject her to the things he has, and he wouldn't be thousands of dollars behind on his child support, either.Later.

I remember back when this went down.... good luck is all I can say... cant offer any advice or too much encouragement, as I dont trust anything about our country's "justice" system.... but I can say from personal experiences with these cases (only three), the courts/judge ruled in favor of the obviously better parent. Dont worry about it... march your ass in there confidently and state your case. I hope for the best for you, let us know what happens.


PS: this is why you dont normally talk about personal issues on RIU... you get alot of opinionated asshats