ahhhhh.... to be 16 again......... *grin*
jk
Seriously though, you should not be presented with the situation in the first place..... If you have to ask, it's just not going to work. Be who you are, change for no one. Everything will fall into place. Your friends will say you changed every time because you spend less time with them and more time with a woman. The woman will say you've changed because they're all fucking batshit in the head and the longer time passes where you're not conforming into what they want you to become the more they get restless and aggitated. You dont get with someone and then say "hey, this person would be great if they would change this this this and this......." it dosent fucking work that way. If she feels she needs to change you then the stupid bitch should not have gotten with you in the first place, no offense. It's not your fault. It happens to many of us. It will continue to happen. That's just how they operate....... Especially when they get stressed over finance and other issues. It falls back onto you because they're too fucking weak to address and deal with their own issues. I'm sure before any of this happened there were probably no financial woes or issues to speak of, amirite? I know I'm right. Lose the baggage. Let her manipulate someone else.
Ultimadem time my friend.......... but seems to me you're falling for the oldest trick in the book and got trapped. Get out while you can, before long even you wont recognize yourself....................