I made a choice...a very tough one.

Ok heres the drop, Ive stopped smoking weed. Before you all choke on your hits and shun me from the site...hear me out. I dont want to quit smoking. My girl has been taught (and lied to by the way I see how weed is taught as being a "bad and addicting drug that ruins lives'')..completely different subject there...but she is so set on the way she has been taught that I cant get her to believe anything I tell her about the herb. Its really discouraging knowing that people are "brainwashed" (for lack of better word) that weed is BAD! So, in order to keep her in my life, I've dropped it. I'm still working on getting her to believe me on the whole weed subject, by simply letting her know evertyime she hears a good song that mentions weed, i tell her the band was probably enjoying a good blunt while writing the song. She wont sit down with me and smoke, because in her past experiences with it, and yes she has smoked it, hypocritical, i know, she has had bad experiences with it. So i want her to just chill with me once and i want to show her what it CAN do for you.
So...Do you guys agree with my choice?
Thanks to all who reply...keep tokin!

Your girl probably just wasn't in a comfortable environment when she tried it. If you haven't already, ask her what it is specifically about marijuana that she doesn't like. She will likely say something that it is a result of being a brain washed, so there you have an opportunity to show her the truth about what she believes. Show her some facts from a credible website.

If she still doesn't believe you and all the overwhelming evidence proving her concerns to be false, I would move on (if you're not married). I wouldn't let a woman change a thing about me. Compromise yes, but I wouldn't change myself.

Example: I'll cut back on the weed if you do... (whatever you want her to do for you)

Man, don't do anything [or not do anything] that you don't want to [want to] do for a bitch. A rule to live by. Anyways, have a t-break though, if that's what you're looking for. But really, if the bitch is that ignorant, tell her to go try and boss around a different guy. My $.02. [And I haven't got proper stoned in over a year, to avoid jail.]

so she made you choose between smoking weed and her? she sounds kinda controlling and manipulative, i'd be careful........

dude i quit blazin 5 yrs ago.. y? cuz it stopped bein fun i started gettin anxiety attacks etc.. i stoped for me if u stop 4 your girl next u will stop beatin off cuz of her.. would she stop one of her habits or guilty pleasures 4 u? doubt it.. do what u do 4 u no one else my advice....loose the suckubus.. and find a bitch who smokes.. unless of course she wants u to stop cuz u live in your rents basement have no job and r goin no where in life.. my 2 cents

So you've stopped doing something that you enjoy because the first piece of ass that didn't make fun of your penor the next day gave you shit about it? If pot is something that you enjoy, she should enjoy the fact that you enjoy it. It's not all about her. Fuck that selfish dummy.

Way to stand tall, brother.

...you should have your girl to watch a movie called, "The Union, The Business Behind Getting High"...might change her mind....good luck. You shouldn't let someone determin who you are for you, btw.

dgk4life said:

dude i quit blazin 5 yrs ago.. y? cuz it stopped bein fun i started gettin anxiety attacks etc.. i stoped for me if u stop 4 your girl next u will stop beatin off cuz of her.. would she stop one of her habits or guilty pleasures 4 u? doubt it.. do what u do 4 u no one else my advice....loose the suckubus.. and find a bitch who smokes.. unless of course she wants u to stop cuz u live in your rents basement have no job and r goin no where in life.. my 2 cents

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exactley why i quit, panic attacks and my brain started hurting! lol
i still enjoy the company of smokers, they can smoke around me, i just dont get the urge anymore.
i quit strait away after i came back from amsterdam.

jeez guys, dont be so negative about his girl,the propaganda machine got her.so what? they trick tons of kids/people into believing the bs. if he likes/loves her enough to stop smoking pot so she will stay with him he should follow his heart and do so, how do you guys know how close they are? in the end its his choice to make, is you all ridiculing the girl he obviously has strong feelings for nessecary?
she may be a lil controlling and manipulative like i said b4 and so he should try to make sure the control level stays even (ie-neither has total control of the relationship)

I don't have a problem with people quitting, but quitting because your girlfriend is ignorant and you're choosing to bend to it? I dunno, I'd have more respect for you if you chose to stop smoking because you just didn't want to anymore, or because you need to piss clean, or something.

But for a girlfriend? Who obviously doesn't give you opinion the same weight you give HERS, since you can't seem to convince her that pot isn't what the propaganda makes it out to be...

Unless you are one of those people who totally fits the stereotypical stoner, I don't see why you're having a hard time convincing her. I had a friend who was seriously against weed, was totally taken in by the propaganda, thought that if you were stoned you couldn't function and blah blah...

After smoking in front of her one time, and continuing to have an intelligent conversation while doing so, and functioning normally, I managed to convince her that marijuana isn't at all what the propaganda makes it out to be.

IregAt420 said:

Ok heres the drop, Ive stopped smoking weed. Before you all choke on your hits and shun me from the site...hear me out. I dont want to quit smoking. My girl has been taught (and lied to by the way I see how weed is taught as being a "bad and addicting drug that ruins lives'')..completely different subject there...but she is so set on the way she has been taught that I cant get her to believe anything I tell her about the herb. Its really discouraging knowing that people are "brainwashed" (for lack of better word) that weed is BAD! So, in order to keep her in my life, I've dropped it. I'm still working on getting her to believe me on the whole weed subject, by simply letting her know evertyime she hears a good song that mentions weed, i tell her the band was probably enjoying a good blunt while writing the song. She wont sit down with me and smoke, because in her past experiences with it, and yes she has smoked it, hypocritical, i know, she has had bad experiences with it. So i want her to just chill with me once and i want to show her what it CAN do for you.
So...Do you guys agree with my choice?
Thanks to all who reply...keep tokin!

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Without reading any other comments I agree with you.

if that chick doest like u for who u r fuck her blaze it up

Smoke on your own, or with your m8s... girlfriends arnt here to smoke with and get stoned the whole day... go out with her, when u get back chill in your office smoke a spliff, play some games.. do some work maybe.... then go to bed and dedicate yourself to her.. why the fuck give up something you love.. for another love ? Why not combine them both...

DWR said:

Smoke on your own, or with your m8s... girlfriends arnt here to smoke with and get stoned the whole day... go out with her, when u get back chill in your office smoke a spliff, play some games.. do some work maybe.... then go to bed and dedicate yourself to her.. why the fuck give up something you love.. for another love ? Why not combine them both...

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wow, it seems so obvious now that you mentioned it. Thats the perfect solution! lol, and i jusr re-read the 1rst post and realized he said nothing about his gf making him quit, just that she dislikes smoking and wont do it with him. which is well within her rights. the drug commercials say about choosing for yourself and peer pressure and i cant agree more with that part, if you dont wanna smoke weed you should be able to choose not to but it angers me greatly that despite going on with that choice bullshit for so fucking long i am not allowed TO smoke if i choose to. i hate to tell them but choices need more than one option to choose from to be considered making a choice. sorry bout the rant.lol. so as long as you dont smoke in her presence your good? or would you have to hide the fact your smoking from her?

Try watching the TV show "weeds" with her. My girlfriend is anti, but she's heavily biased because of her occupation. I've known her my entire life and we even use to smoke in high school, but she said it quit being fun to her, so she stopped. Sometimes life just doesn't allow for it. If it weren't illegal it would be different. We're all aware of the fact that it shouldn't be, but the fact still remains that it is. She finds my buds sometimes and says they're pretty

But yea, maybe you should talk to other girls. I was just lucky enough to find one that doesn't smoke, but realizes it's not a bad thing.

Just borrow a well used crack pipe and "accidentally" drop it from ur jacket pocket.

She'll be rolling you blunts from then on.

IregAt420 said:

Ok heres the drop, Ive stopped smoking weed. Before you all choke on your hits and shun me from the site...hear me out. I dont want to quit smoking. My girl has been taught (and lied to by the way I see how weed is taught as being a "bad and addicting drug that ruins lives'')..completely different subject there...but she is so set on the way she has been taught that I cant get her to believe anything I tell her about the herb. Its really discouraging knowing that people are "brainwashed" (for lack of better word) that weed is BAD! So, in order to keep her in my life, I've dropped it. I'm still working on getting her to believe me on the whole weed subject, by simply letting her know evertyime she hears a good song that mentions weed, i tell her the band was probably enjoying a good blunt while writing the song. She wont sit down with me and smoke, because in her past experiences with it, and yes she has smoked it, hypocritical, i know, she has had bad experiences with it. So i want her to just chill with me once and i want to show her what it CAN do for you.
So...Do you guys agree with my choice?
Thanks to all who reply...keep tokin!

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Correct me if I am wrong on any of my conclusions drawn from your post.

You are not quitting voluntarily. You are being coerced into quitting. Meaning one day you will weaken in your resolve or she will piss you off enough. Bottom line: You will smoke again one way or another.

She gave you an ultimatum. The funny thing about ultimatums is that once you give in, you can expect many more. An ultimatum is a power play and now she's got most of it.

Apparently you believe you will be able to change her mind. She has tried weed so she knows what she is talking about when she says she is done with it. I respect someone who rejects something after trying it more than someone who rejects something out hand without any personal experience. Here I am referring to harmless activities like weed, not crack or meth.

If you are quitting for the sole reason of keeping this girl, I suggest a serious re-evaluation of your relationship.

It's not like you are pondering an absolute choice between weed and twang. But it is an absolute choice between weed and her twang. It can't be that good to convince you to give up weed. There are lots of hot women out there who are at the very least tolerant of weed.

Best of luck.

I can see this situation working on a fifteen year old, trying to figure himself out, swallowed by the post-sex glory. But how a grown ass man can let a female give him an ultimatum that would drastically change his lifestyle... Jesus. I don't mean to be a dick(well yes I do)but honestly to be that weak of a person you deserve a chick like that.

Harsh for a mellow site, but you asked for it. Real talk. You're weak.

andrewdickson said:

I can see this situation working on a fifteen year old, trying to figure himself out, swallowed by the post-sex glory. But how a grown ass man can let a female give him an ultimatum that would drastically change his lifestyle... Jesus. I don't mean to be a dick(well yes I do)but honestly to be that weak of a person you deserve a chick like that.

Harsh for a mellow site, but you asked for it. Real talk. You're weak.

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wow man, i cant believe how badass you are! you're a real tough guy! be honest-youve never had a g.f., have you? relationships are about compromise, taking your parters wishes into consideration when making decisions is not weak. and she gave him no ultimatum, reread the thread......

darkdestruction420 said:

wow man, i cant believe how badass you are! you're a real tough guy! be honest-youve never had a g.f., have you? relationships are about compromise, taking your parters wishes into consideration when making decisions is not weak. and she gave him no ultimatum, reread the thread......

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