im not having any obvious nute problems.
Im not sure if anyone helped me, but i think imma just start watering more.
i usually wait until the top layer of soil is completely dry, and usually dig my finger into the soil about an inch or two to see if its still wet, but i will no longer be making sure its 100% dry, and just go ahead and water anyway
conclusion: will now be watering twice a week, whether or not the soil feels dry enough.