Mama's a hypocrite. what should I do?

Sounds like you needed to vent, but know where ya went wrong.. though you may not agree with your mother's actions in regards to your privacy- you should always respect her, her actions whether right or wrong are out of love. If she didn't care she wouldn't snoop- she's obviously worried, and with the obvious lack of true communication between you two, how can you blame her? I do understand your side as well though, it's not easy to be open and honest about everything, esp. when there's already a tension and lack of trust there to begin with. It's gonna take time and communication to fix, but (as it sounds like you do not want to move out yet on your own) it's something you two are going to have to work on in order to clear the air for everyone.. good luck man.

P.S. Be thankful you have a mom who smokes.. better than a high and mighty bible banger.. these types of situations are a hell of a lot of worse for those kids..

Why did ur pops quit smokin?

Why did u wait until recently to start smokin?

Are you the only child?

fukdapolice said:

Why did ur pops quit smokin?

Why did u wait until recently to start smokin?

Are you the only child?

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my dad quit smoking because he whitied out. where you just feel like shit basically and get all nauseas and crap. it sucks. I had one the third time I ever got high and almost quit then. I'm glad I didn't.

I waited until recently to start smoking because I was all "ooh but marijuana is bad blah blah blah" but then I woke up and realized how much of a misconception that is, and I started smoking then basically.

and yes, I am an only child.

HoppusTheCaveman said:

my dad quit smoking because he whitied out. where you just feel like shit basically and get all nauseas and crap. it sucks. I had one the third time I ever got high and almost quit then. I'm glad I didn't.

I waited until recently to start smoking because I was all "ooh but marijuana is bad blah blah blah" but then I woke up and realized how much of a misconception that is, and I started smoking then basically.

and yes, I am an only child.

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parents are notoriously snoopy with the only children (im an only child, i know how it feels) except, when my mom snooped into my shit, everything i had hidden was bad... and she felt worse than i did when she found it lol.

i had a feelin you were an only child.

just remember, they only want whats best for you.

fukdapolice said:

parents are notoriously snoopy with the only children (im an only child, i know how it feels) except, when my mom snooped into my shit, everything i had hidden was bad... and she felt worse than i did when she found it lol.

i had a feelin you were an only child.

just remember, they only want whats best for you.

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yeah I realize that they want what's best for me. I don't know what I was thinking, but I kinda thought they were gonna give me some space about this whole situation. they're just up my ass though. it's all good though, it'll eventually end...hehehe

I'm allowed to smoke all I want when at my mothers, but I would never allow anyone else to smoke under her roof without her approval..

yeah dude its oen thing for your mom to not hassle you about smoking but when you put a plant in her house and kept moving it when she said toss it no wonder she is being pissed off

My mom used to snoop through my stuff all the time (still goes through my room regularly, as evidenced by the screens she found that I thought I lost) so now I have no passwords saved on my old computer, and on my new laptop, the screensaver is on a 1 minute timer with password upon resume. And there's a password resume if you shut the screen for anything longer than about 5 seconds. And a password when you turn it on.

If my dad ever threatened to beat my ass it would be a poor decision on his part, because no matter how justified it may be, I will never accept an ass beating from someone who I could beat. (my dad could outrun me any day of the week, his legs are in amazing shape, but as for upper body? no contest)

well, I say that now anyway. He is still my dad. Luckily I haven't found myself in that situation. But if I accidentally leave a lighter out, it's gone for good. My parent's, as far as I can tell, know I smoke, but they can't find anything incriminating enough to punish me. Anything that might appear to be marijuana-related just kind of.........disappears. So all my stuff is plenty well hidden. And as long as I can keep it that way for another 3 weeks until I move out all will be fine. Once I've moved out of the house I may consider opening up to them. But while they still have power over me, I know I can't do it. They'd probably cut me off even though I pay for my marijuana habit entirely from my own money (hell, I even buy my MUNCHIES off my budget)

Be glad you parents let you blaze a bowl in the house and have a good talk with your mom about privacy.

HoppusTheCaveman said:

I know that all this sounds like teenager crybaby bullshit

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got that much right.

hey man fuck her! move out get your own place and then you'll be able to do exactly as you want to.

oh, what's that? you can't afford to move out? hmmmm.... that's a tough one...

ElBarto said:

got that much right.

hey man fuck her! move out get your own place and then you'll be able to do exactly as you want to.

oh, what's that? you can't afford to move out? hmmmm.... that's a tough one...

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it's not that I can't afford it, it's that I kinda want to stay here for my last year of high school haha. as much as I'd rather not be here, I kinda feel obligated to.

HoppusTheCaveman said:

I understand all of your views about this. especially you chuckbane. I understand how much of a risk it is and how shitty if was of me to grow on my parents' property withough their knowing. I also understand that they shouldn't respect me if I don't respect them. I know it didn't seem like that in my original post. but my mom invading my privacy isn't anything recent so why should I respect her? as for the threats from my dad....if he actually does follow through, I'll kinda expect it. I'll honestly say that I deserve a swift kick in the ass as of now. I have been getting pretty out of hand. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make my dad look like the bad guy, I really didn't, he's one of the coolest cats I know and if he does rough me up a bit, I'll just respect him more because he wouldn't be like every other parent who wipes their kids' ass all their life.

I know I'm kinda contradicting myself here by giving you all a sob story and then being all "well you know, this, that, and that, and this, and kiss ass kiss ass kiss ass" but after reading some of your responses, I just feel like a jerk asking for help when I obviously don't deserve it. What respect do I deserve from you guys for poring my heart out to all of you? none, that's how much. again, I'm sorry for doing this, no one needs to read about me bitching and moaning about my bullshit. I should've thought about what I was saying before I posted

and ChuckBane....I'm especially sorry for wasting your time....

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damn man, good post.. i didnt mean to come off so harsh.. i just try to get my point through very agressively. people make mistakes and its all right.. its not all right when you dont learn from your mistakes though,, and if their is never any consequences you will never learn. you wasted none of my time, i do this to "help" people even though i come across as a #1 asshole a lot of the time

you got a good head on your shoulders