my infant has to have surgery

gogrow

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had a lump pop up around my new baby's groin area last night... after researching it all night, the doctor confirmed my fears today... poor lil guy has an inguinal hernia and has to have surgery within the next month or so:-(..

i know that there is nothing that we can/could do to prevent/fix this for him, but i (we) still cant help feeling like we failed him in some way... on the bright side, it is a fairly safe and simple procedure, but still a full out surgery none the less.... anyone else have any medical issues with your children???
 
He will be ok. Like ya said easy surgery but yet its still surgery. We think alike.

Ya have my blessings.
 
had a lump pop up around my new baby's groin area last night... after researching it all night, the doctor confirmed my fears today... poor lil guy has an inguinal hernia and has to have surgery within the next month or so:-(..

i know that there is nothing that we can/could do to prevent/fix this for him, but i (we) still cant help feeling like we failed him in some way... on the bright side, it is a fairly safe and simple procedure, but still a full out surgery none the less.... anyone else have any medical issues with your children???

So sorry to her this!!! It is so hard when they are young and so helpless.

Please do not take this onto yourself. You need to focus on the positive. Doesn't matter why things happened..... you can't do anything about it now. You can put all your energy and focus on him and get him better. Kids are really resilient.... he will be fine.

I had surgery to repair a torn tear duct at age 4. I had to go to Philly to Wills Eye Hospital, and my parents couldn't see me because I was not allowed to cry. I only remember two things about that experience....one was the balloon that hung on my steel crib and the cleaning lady who was a wonderful motherly black woman. I still have a special place in my heart for her. Other than that.... I do not remember anything... except the things people tell me. Like I said... I was 4.... your cutie will not remember a thing.

Vette also had surgery on his "private" area when he was a baby...... all is well there also. ;-)

Two of the teachers I work with just went through surgeries with their newborns. One had her intestines all jumbled and needed serious surgery to straighten things out. She is doing terrific. Surgery was just in January. My other friend's son had a similar situation that your son is having. Surgery was in Nov. and he is doing really well too.

I am sure that you will hear many stories..... most with happy endings. Just remember... this will be harder for you and your other half than for your son.

My thoughts, positive vibes and prayers are with you!!! Keep us informed on when.....

Love and hugs!
 
So sorry to her this!!! It is so hard when they are young and so helpless.

Please do not take this onto yourself. You need to focus on the positive. Doesn't matter why things happened..... you can't do anything about it now. You can put all your energy and focus on him and get him better. Kids are really resilient.... he will be fine.

I had surgery to repair a torn tear duct at age 4. I had to go to Philly to Wills Eye Hospital, and my parents couldn't see me because I was not allowed to cry. I only remember two things about that experience....one was the balloon that hung on my steel crib and the cleaning lady who was a wonderful motherly black woman. I still have a special place in my heart for her. Other than that.... I do not remember anything... except the things people tell me. Like I said... I was 4.... your cutie will not remember a thing.

Vette also had surgery on his "private" area when he was a baby...... all is well there also. ;-)

Two of the teachers I work with just went through surgeries with their newborns. One had her intestines all jumbled and needed serious surgery to straighten things out. She is doing terrific. Surgery was just in January. My other friend's son had a similar situation that your son is having. Surgery was in Nov. and he is doing really well too.

I am sure that you will hear many stories..... most with happy endings. Just remember... this will be harder for you and your other half than for your son.

My thoughts, positive vibes and prayers are with you!!! Keep us informed on when.....

Love and hugs!


like i said, im not blaming or beating myself up about it... it just as you said; hard when they are so young and helpless... but i still get those feelings in the back of my mind occasionally..

thankfully we are very close to Childrens Hospital of new orleans... boasting several top names in pediatric surgery.. im sure everything will be fine; just hate this rough start... already talking of surgery no.2 if his testicles dont descend by 6mos....:sad:..

on the bright side, he (and vette:-P) dont have to have a conscious memory of the event... i do:evil:... for whatever reasons, mom chose not to have me circumcised at birth.... had medical issues with it down the line and had to have it done in the 4th grade.....:fire:.. there is a reason we do it a birth now...:lol:
 
like i said, im not blaming or beating myself up about it... it just as you said; hard when they are so young and helpless... but i still get those feelings in the back of my mind occasionally..

thankfully we are very close to Childrens Hospital of new orleans... boasting several top names in pediatric surgery.. im sure everything will be fine; just hate this rough start... already talking of surgery no.2 if his testicles dont descend by 6mos....:sad:..

on the bright side, he (and vette:-P) dont have to have a conscious memory of the event... i do:evil:... for whatever reasons, mom chose not to have me circumcised at birth.... had medical issues with it down the line and had to have it done in the 4th grade.....:fire:.. there is a reason we do it a birth now...:lol:

Ouch!!!! 4th grade.... I am sure you remember that very well.
He will be great...... Like I said... please just let us know when...

As for his testicles.... you have 5 months to wait.... let's hope and pray they drop and this will be the only surgery he will have to deal with. Could you talk with his surgeons and maybe give him a double whammy?
As long as he is already under... could they take care of both issues?

Just an idea.

Poor little guy. I am sure his big brother will take good care of him.;-)
 
Ouch!!!! 4th grade.... I am sure you remember that very well.
He will be great...... Like I said... please just let us know when...

As for his testicles.... you have 5 months to wait.... let's hope and pray they drop and this will be the only surgery he will have to deal with. Could you talk with his surgeons and maybe give him a double whammy?
As long as he is already under... could they take care of both issues?

Just an idea.

Poor little guy. I am sure his big brother will take good care of him.;-)


i will def let yall know when... riu is my family too:-P...

i thought about trying to get both things taken care of at once... but then i looked into it, and the surgery to 'fix' the undescended testicles actually involves removing the testes and transplanting them to the sac.... not uncommon to kill one in the process:finger:, so we are gonna hold off on that one....

and big brother already TRIES to take care of him:lol:... cute as hell
 
They are both such cute kids. I could see your older guy loving his little brother.

Yes, I would wait for that surgery if there could be complications..... that is the last thing you need.... especially if the problem may fix itself.

Keep the faith sweetie...... be supportive for your other half and lean on each other. You guys will be great. We are here to support you also.

Give the boys an extra hug tonight.:hug::hug::hug:
 
They are both such cute kids. I could see your older guy loving his little brother.

Yes, I would wait for that surgery if there could be complications..... that is the last thing you need.... especially if the problem may fix itself.

Keep the faith sweetie...... be supportive for your other half and lean on each other. You guys will be great. We are here to support you also.

Give the boys an extra hug tonight.:hug::hug::hug:


they get extra hugs every night:bigjoint:
 
One of my sons nuts was big and seemed like something wasnt right. It wasnt anything alarming and the docs said it was just forming and normal. Finally when he was 7 and getting an annual physical, I wouldnt take that same answer and demanded to see a specialist. Luckly that day a specialist was in the hospital and he took a look. He wasnt sure but though it was a hernia...the one that is inside the nutsack. Well, they decided to operate and when they were done, the surgeon came out and said it was one of the biggest child hernias he's ever seen and was obviously born with it. 3 days later my boy was playing soccer as normal.
 
One of my sons nuts was big and seemed like something wasnt right. It wasnt anything alarming and the docs said it was just forming and normal. Finally when he was 7 and getting an annual physical, I wouldnt take that same answer and demanded to see a specialist. Luckly that day a specialist was in the hospital and he took a look. He wasnt sure but though it was a hernia...the one that is inside the nutsack. Well, they decided to operate and when they were done, the surgeon came out and said it was one of the biggest child hernias he's ever seen and was obviously born with it. 3 days later my boy was playing soccer as normal.


exactly why i know as much as i do about medicine... because you cant trust the doctors... sadly, they aren't always in your best interest
 
they've switched surgeons/hospitals on us.... still good ones though... we go to meet with the surgeon on the 17th and go from there.
 
I can imagine how hard this is for you, man. it's really hard to see your baby hurt in any way; and surgery is more severe. both my sister and I had to receive surgery as infants and it was life or death for my sister. and when I was 14 I was sleeping in the same room as my god son when I woke up to him crying and it sounded like he was choking..he was blueish when I turned on the light. that terrified me man... Thankfully, he was okay and your baby will be okay also. both of you will pull through even though it's hard to watch your baby boy go through this. good luck with everything
 
hey brother. i hope your boy is doing good. i have 2 kids myself. one is 7 yrs and the other is just 16 months.... no doubt heres a pic of my BEST BUD EVER

seriously though i never understood how much i could love someone till i had kids. granted my 7 yr old is adopted, but i love him just the same. when my 16 month old was being born someone said to me, watch what happens to you now..i thought i knew it all because my older son was 2 when he came into my life, but oh my god when i watched my son born my whole life changed. my whole being changed. i used to say things like. man why cant i just be like the guy who works 60 hours a week and thinks of nothing but his future. then i had a kid and the change just came by itself. man i love these kids more than life so i know exactly how you feel when you worry about your boy. ive never worried so much in my life the other day i was worried that something was wrong with me. all i do now is worry about my kids. well that and work to pay for sports, music, video games, sippy cups, diapers, milk. oh my god we should just buy a cow we go through so much milk here. good luck gogrow, i hope everything came out good for your boy
 

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GoGrow, you can't blame yourself, sometimes things just happen. I'm sure he'll be fine.

If you have 2 boys you have loads of time at the emergency room just waiting on you.

My son was accident prone as hell, from the time he learned to toddle around he bled from some part of his body on a daily basis. Now he's 23 and finally not hurting himself somehow all of the time. I didn't think he'd ever grow out of that.
 
people think doctors are the be all end all know everything guys when it comes to health. most doctors dont even know they are about to kill you with a drug interaction untill the pharmacist calls the drs office and lets him know. drs are just people. and people make mistakes...a friend of mine had an appendix opperation, and when she got home a few days later she felt like she was dying and she went back to the hspital and found out they left half of it inside her......i told her she should have sued but she never followed up. im big time against false insurance cases but hers was legit.
 
I just found this thread sorry gg...

I haven't had any kids yet.. So I can't fully understand..

I am not a crazy christian.. But I will pray for you.. Sounds corny, but god has helped me conquer my problems when I was unable to do for myself
 
I just found this thread sorry gg...

I haven't had any kids yet.. So I can't fully understand..

I am not a crazy christian.. But I will pray for you.. Sounds corny, but god has helped me conquer my problems when I was unable to do for myself

doesnt sound corny; i appreciate it.... i'll update on the 17th when we meet with the surgeon
 
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