My parents found my weed and pieces and now treat me like a drug addict

the government is a lie, someone or something or a group of people are runnin this, ill make it more simple coz id sound crazy if i told u wot i think, you have the left wing,the right wing and the center, its prob the same people funding each side so no matter who u vote for u get the same shit. look at obama, he is perfect coz evry1 with an iq(iq is also geared towards makin white people look better)below 120 thinks he is like a god, sure his campaign is noce and he talks nice, but who funded all that?

illuminati

Straight up G said:

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nh man thats just some crazy shit someone thought of when they were high, i always heard a few black guys talkin bout it wen i woz in secondry school, they were the dumb ones, they flopped all thier gcse,s and are jus dumb ass screw ups, its coz of them i dnt believe in god, they are the missing link

At 19 you should be doing something for work. Theres nothing stopping you. join the National Guard, the Reserves, they'll give you a mos thats relative to your studies, give you money for college, and some extra cash every month. Damb, you could get a chance to see the world. Germany, Japan, Hawaii, places stateside.

I joined the split entry system while I was in high school. I did BT during the summer of my senior year, returned to finish my final year and did my AIT after I graduated. I actually got a civilian job from the training I got from the Reserves. That was 25 years ago, my how time flys....had I known how fast it would go I would have stayed enlisted.....I'd be 5 years retired by now, with a pention.

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nh man thats just some crazy shit someone thought of when they were high, i always heard a few black guys talkin bout it wen i woz in secondry school, they were the dumb ones, they flopped all thier gcse,s and are jus dumb ass screw ups, its coz of them i dnt believe in god, they are the missing link

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ha ha you'd be surprised

I haven't read all the replies, so if this has been said, meh, sorry.
If you really are 19, they cannot legally stop you from leaving. You are an adult.
Now, as for the finances,you may be able to get a one room efficiency apartment in your area if you save up enough money.It can be a hell of a lot cheaper than a house or apartment with bedrooms.
The job market does suck...but if you're not too proud, do odd jobs. Shovel snow, clean gutters, mow lawns. You can go out on the night before trash is picked up and get scrap metal from old air conditioners,refrigerators, etc. Scrap metal isn't worth a lot right now, but it's still money.You can go out on trash night to some of the "rich" neighborhoods and find decent furniture and appliances that can be cleaned up and used. Sometimes they are only trashed because the owners got a new one. If you find enough nice things, you can clean them up and have a yard sale or garage sale to make money. (Just make sure when you go through people's trash to be courteous and not tear their bags up or make a big mess.)
See if you can also talk to your parents like an adult.Explain to them the reasons why marijuana is REALLY illegal. Show them movies like "grass", "American Drug War" and "Reefer Madness", to name a few.Point out that many states are now getting ready to legalize medical marijuana,and that Mexico has decriminalized it,and that in many South American countries it is either decriminalized or even legal.Explain that in states like Alaska,for example, possession of up to one ounce in your residence carries no penalty. Point out to them that many of the studies which have found marijuana harmful in some way are usually small scale studies (in respect to the number of participants)backed by large drug companies under controlled conditions that skew the outcome.
Finally, explain to them that you love them,but your body is your own. And as long as you're doing no harm to anyone else,you've a right to ingest marijuana. Explain to them that it's not a "gateway" drug...if anything, alcohol or cigarettes better fit that description.Then ask them if they want to accept you for who you are,or if they want this to be the thing that causes a rift in the relationship.
If they still insist on you not smoking it in their house, tell them you will respect their wishes,but that you will be working to become financially independant,and that when you have your own place,their rules will not apply. If you think they would call the cops on you and try to get you busted, don't give them your new address,and lay low on carrying or smoking any for a while. Good luck.

Cataclismic said:

I'm 19 years old and i want to move but I'm not financially able and the job market has left me nothing for almost a year. They gave me the option to leave but then wouldn't let me when I chose that option. What do I do about smoking and etc now if they decide to test. I figured I'd say it stays in your system

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seemeat420 said:

Yes the economy is fucked. Yes jobs are harder to find. Harder not impossible. It's like greensister said there are plenty of low income jobs that will hire you. People are in and out of low income jobs all the time so those kind are always open. I know you can work fast food. Put in applications everywhere you can think of. You will get a hit. If your parents have a problem with weed then maybe you should think about that before you buy pipes and bongs and large amounts of weed. When I lived with my grandparents, that's who raised me, I never had a piece because I knew I couldn't hide that easily. What I did was kept cigarellos and papers and if I ever got caught with those I smoked tobacco. And with my stash I never smoked then left my shit out or somewhere easily found. I still don't do that and I live on my own. Now I have a huge collection of pieces and weed. But I work my ass off every day trying hard to make it to where I can live on my own. I don't smoke and go to work. I don't act like a pothead while at work, but as soon as I get home I pack a bowl and blaze on up to cloud nine watching cartoons and eating chips. It's all about the way you present yourself. If you act like an idiot people will treat you like an idiot. If you act cool with your parents then they will think your ok. I go to school also. Life is hard when you move out especially if you have no help. Maybe if you get cool with your folks they will help you because if they don't you will be sitting here like a lot of us other people doing multiple things to better ourselves in the future. I know living with your parents is stupid sometimes but just save your money and start planning for the day when you can finally have it your way.

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Well first off let me clear up a few things. I placed all my shit in very stealthy places. I had my weed in a axe can, I had my plants in a cardboard box with clothes piled on in my closet. I kept my growing equipment in the well of a freestanding heavybag, and I had my "pieces" (homemade shit) in a old bookbag.

For some odd ass reason he thought my car keys were in some of those places.

Another thing, I'm not too good for low income jobs. Matter of fact I HAVE worked for Mcdonalds. Consider this my final venting post on a cannabis site because a majority of people on my posts do nothing much but flame me because they believe every over the age of 18 adult is out of the house or insult me in other ways.

I posted this for some comfort and support, not to be told a bunch of stuff unrelated to the matter. I will say this, not everyone has flamed me but others have. Good advice in this matter would be "It was wrong to grow in your parents house but you aren't a drug addict and if they don't agree with your lifestyle then they don't need to be apart of it" not "grow a dick boy because I can't imagine how someone over the age of 18 lives with his parents. You must be the only one."

I didn't create this thread as a open floodgate to insult and belittle me. I have applied for fucking pulling tobacco to trying to start a web design business. What gives you the right to say I'm not badgering people, have you gone to jobs with me?

I'm not a "stoner" I'm a person who simply enjoys smoking mj. I was afraid of mj for a long time before I grew a dick and did some research for myself and decided i liked it. So no I'm not walking around with red eyes all the time getting high with buddies all the time doing nothing with my life.

I live my life as a regular 19 year old. I go to school, I go out to eat with my family, I have a clean driving and legal record. I don't smoke weed non stop wearing the same sweatpants for weeks at a time watching tom and jerry while doing nothing to better myself.

Lots a good replies. Everyone's advice I read seems to come from personal experience, and since no two situations are the same, I'll share mine to see if you can take something from it.

I moved out of my parents house when I was 17. Before i had ever even tried pot (I was completely anti-smoking), then they had me drug tested twice, which just turned me to rebel more. HIND-SIGHT IS 20/20!!!. Now that its too late, I wish I had done more to get closer to my family when I had the best chance, no matter what I wanted personally/selfishly, wish I'd put getting to know them better first, instead of distancing myself. You only have a short time with them, make the most of it. Fuck smoking pot, its not gonna do anything for you. The best thing i could recommend for you to do for yourself, would be to do the most you can for your family members. Be their son/brother, not just a tennant in their house. That will leave you more fulfilled then pot ever can.

I remember the days of being an invincible teen. If I knew then what i know now.......Once I had enough (really just gave up and took easy way out) i moved out and graduated highschool early. Working and paying for school on my own was ok, but not what I thought it was gonna be. I tried to fill the hole left from leaving on bad terms, with pot, but nothing replaces family. As great as pot is, its not a friend, or a family member.

In short, things are not what they seem. You are young, and passionate. Think things through, dont act with your head, follow ur heart--ur ego (image of self) can get you in trouble. You know the right thing. The hard part is not ignoring what your heart is telling you to be the right thing. The right thing, is more often the hard thing to do. You could take the easy way out, burn bridges along the way, and you'll even tell yourself ur fine/happy, but eventually you will realize that even maryjane and being busy cant fill the hole, & that family can make you whole. And also, get a job, think about the future. Take advantage of the money saving opportunity of living off the parents. When I moved out i had $7grand saved up from summer jobs, but now its impossible to save anything. Its never too soon or too late to save $. Even minimum wage is better than jobless while milking the parents. Have some pride and earn something for yourself. Ur 19, not a kid, and soon not even a teen, take off the Pull-ups and act like an independent man, and that's what u'll become. What would u do if ur parents kicked u to the curb today (I would if i were them, time to see if u sink or swim)? Without a job, u wont survive long. Just telling what I thought u needed to hear. Welcome to the real world.

actually dude if your smoking once a day or so you are a drug addict. my elderly mother lives with me in my home and still thinks she needs to mother me so get used to it. i'm 44 so you have many years of it left. LOL.

2beanklm said:

actually dude if your smoking once a day or so you are a drug addict. my elderly mother lives with me in my home and still thinks she needs to mother me so get used to it. i'm 44 so you have many years of it left. LOL.

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i smoke weed everyday, i can quit, i take breaks, if your smoking to run away from problems or to forget shit, then your a addict, without weed i cant sleep, i have as, my melatonin among other chemical balances are off, weed is proven to help me, each and every individual weed smoker is different, except the damn 15/16 year olds who do it to look hard, but anyways, i think this guy may have had enough insults, let him do as he wants, oh and by the way, no parents are gonna accept weed smokin kids, not this generation at least, if you just act more independant and act like your doin shit, then you can just say if you wonna come home after a long ass day, and you wonna light up, no one has a right to tell you differently, have fun enjoy life, trust wen u move out it all changes, u count every penny, you realize its not a joke, life isnt nice, its a dog eat dog world, so just enjoy these last months before u go, as my friend once said, keep healthy, keep stckin, keep blazin and everything will just fall into place, workd for him n he lives in stonebridge.

ukgrower2110 said:

i smoke weed everyday, i can quit, i take breaks, if your smoking to run away from problems or to forget shit, then your a addict, without weed i cant sleep, i have as, my melatonin among other chemical balances are off, weed is proven to help me, each and every individual weed smoker is different, except the damn 15/16 year olds who do it to look hard, but anyways, i think this guy may have had enough insults, let him do as he wants, oh and by the way, no parents are gonna accept weed smokin kids, not this generation at least, if you just act more independant and act like your doin shit, then you can just say if you wonna come home after a long ass day, and you wonna light up, no one has a right to tell you differently, have fun enjoy life, trust wen u move out it all changes, u count every penny, you realize its not a joke, life isnt nice, its a dog eat dog world, so just enjoy these last months before u go, as my friend once said, keep healthy, keep stckin, keep blazin and everything will just fall into place, workd for him n he lives in stonebridge.

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thank you. I believe that's the best advice I've been given lately. I've realized if I show balls to them and giving them the "you can get with it or get lost" impression they will respect me more. I've noticed this today. They've been real nice today

CrackerJax said:

American males aren't adults until they are at least 35.

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.....actually they BEGIN to grow up at 50.

Hehehe this is why i loved the fact that one of my parents smoked weed

moved out a long time ago now though.

Here's my advice, bro. My dad abused me a lot when I was kid so I know what you're feeling. Most of the people replying to this topic clearly have no clue what that does to a person and shouldn't be offering advice at all. Take their abusive comments with a grain of salt, which I know is hard to do.

Your parents don't want you to leave for two reasons. One is that you can't support yourself and the other is the loss of control. You can do something about the former but there isn't shit you can do about the latter. There's nothing you can do to make your dad love you. You have to accept that and just move forward. It's his problem, not yours. He was more likely than not abused by his father, I know mine was. When I was 19 I stopped talking to my dad for a few years to get my own head straight. You don't owe them shit for doing their jobs as parents and a lot of people seem to forget that you don't get a cookie for doing something you're supposed to do. You're 19 man, your dad doesn't have to control your life anymore. You need to come to that realization.

You might be looking for jobs the wrong way. You're looking for the same jobs everyone else is and you're likely getting the jobs from the same listings. I don't know where you live nor do I really want to but I guarantee there are jobs with only 10% unemployment. I say "only" because my city is over twice that. You said you have a car. Get a paper route if you still have local papers. It's not a lot of money but it's a start. You're only 19 so this might be difficult but look at convenience stores. Look at all things retail, manual labor, and so on. You should have a job development/vocational training school in your area, find it and put it to use. Someone else mentioned appearance. I won't be so arrogant as to assume I know you or anything about you other than what you posted but make sure you look presentable when you go to apply for a job. Be sober, be clean, be confident, and speak clearly.

Something else to consider. You don't have a job or anyway to support yourself but you have weed and growing equipment. Many people take that combination as a slap in the face. "Oh, you don't have money for this but you've got money for pot?!"

Cataclismic said:

Well first off let me clear up a few things. I placed all my shit in very stealthy places. I had my weed in a axe can, I had my plants in a cardboard box with clothes piled on in my closet. I kept my growing equipment in the well of a freestanding heavybag, and I had my "pieces" (homemade shit) in a old bookbag.

For some odd ass reason he thought my car keys were in some of those places.

Another thing, I'm not too good for low income jobs. Matter of fact I HAVE worked for Mcdonalds. Consider this my final venting post on a cannabis site because a majority of people on my posts do nothing much but flame me because they believe every over the age of 18 adult is out of the house or insult me in other ways.

I posted this for some comfort and support, not to be told a bunch of stuff unrelated to the matter. I will say this, not everyone has flamed me but others have. Good advice in this matter would be "It was wrong to grow in your parents house but you aren't a drug addict and if they don't agree with your lifestyle then they don't need to be apart of it" not "grow a dick boy because I can't imagine how someone over the age of 18 lives with his parents. You must be the only one."

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I haven't read every single person's response, but the answer is that you should be taking advantage of living in your parent's household right now. You should be utilizing the time living there with attending school. There's a lot to compete with in your generation out there....education is first, or at least, it should be.

I don't suggest taking crappy jobs "just" so you can smoke weed. Your end likelihood is you will find yourself on the same beaten path of failure time and time again.....and take my word, time goes by FAST. You will be 30, 40 and 50 in the blink of an eye.
Try to talk to your parents. Attempt to make them understand that just because you occasionally smoke pot, it does not mean that you have lost motivation for life...that's what they, as good parents, would be concerned about.
SHOW them, with your actions, that you are capable of balancing school and responsibilities with your "extracurricular activities."

Most important, be honest with yourself. Are you REALLY able to get stoned daily and feasibly accomplish what is necessary?

If so, keep your smoking hush hush. Respect not smoking in/around their home. Respect the fact that they are simply concerned with your welfare, no matter how much it comes across as nagging.

yeh my mom kinda does that, hella bitches about it and i gotta be so sneaky bout blazin when shes home. (my dad blazes but has to hide it from her becaue she thinks he quit haha)
you just gotta tell them straight up, this is me, its not changing, and im not apologizing for it. they will get used to the idea, trust me lol. just dont get angry and lash out, you gotta stay calm and chill, keep grades and important things in life rolling, not a lot they can do!

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I posted this for some comfort and support, not to be told a bunch of stuff unrelated to the matter. I will say this, not everyone has flamed me but others have. Good advice in this matter would be "It was wrong to grow in your parents house but you aren't a drug addict and if they don't agree with your lifestyle then they don't need to be apart of it" not "grow a dick boy because I can't imagine how someone over the age of 18 lives with his parents. You must be the only one."

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you want a pity party or the hard,cold facts?
nothing you say will change your parents minds.the only way that will happen is with actions.my parents found out I was a "drug addict" at 17 but since I was working full time & going to school and willing to move out,they let it slide.when they told me to quite or move out,I made some phone calls & told them I had an apartment lined up for the end of the month & a couch to crash on till then if needed but would rather stay here till the apartment opens up if OK w/ them.we sat down and had a real talk. as long as I stayed in high school, worked, & stayed discreet, I could stay w/ them.I moved out at 25 when I found the right girl. Now i have a house,am raising 3 teens &the old man is 1 of my best friends.he wont smoke but acknowledges that pot isn't the killer drug he was raised to believe it was & may be safer than booze.when his brother started chemo,he suggested trying pot for the nausea and offered to supply it.

I have a 19 year old that was doing good last year, she graduated,got a part time job & was looking into college. I was sharing my stash & letting her drive my classic 77 T/A- (think Smokey & the Bandit)till she got a car of her own. in a bone headed move last fall, she lost the car & her job,then shut down,she claims to be looking for a job but never leaves the house & phone logs & PC history dont back her claims.I didn't mind being a stepping stone to help her get ahead but now I am a hammock and this wont last long,she will be back on track or out on her ass before summer.
my guess is your parents are afraid you will turn into the little stoner living in thier house forever.
your words will mean nothing to them.actions count.prove them wrong.understand it will take many years to do so.stay in school,find a job. do your life right and I doubt they will care if you smoke after you prove you wont end up a waste sucking off them for your entire life.

ukgrower2110 said:

i smoke weed everyday, i can quit, i take breaks, if your smoking to run away from problems or to forget shit, then your a addict, without weed i cant sleep, i have as, my melatonin among other chemical balances are off, weed is proven to help me, each and every individual weed smoker is different, except the damn 15/16 year olds who do it to look hard, but anyways, i think this guy may have had enough insults, let him do as he wants, oh and by the way, no parents are gonna accept weed smokin kids, not this generation at least, if you just act more independant and act like your doin shit, then you can just say if you wonna come home after a long ass day, and you wonna light up, no one has a right to tell you differently, have fun enjoy life, trust wen u move out it all changes, u count every penny, you realize its not a joke, life isnt nice, its a dog eat dog world, so just enjoy these last months before u go, as my friend once said, keep healthy, keep stckin, keep blazin and everything will just fall into place, workd for him n he lives in stonebridge.

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i just need it to sleep but no addiction though??? i'm not knocking anyone for smoking but there are reasons you do it. same with smoking butts. think about it.

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i just need it to sleep but no addiction though??? i'm not knocking anyone for smoking but there are reasons you do it. same with smoking butts. think about it.

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yh but as previously stated i have a melatonin deficiency and weed corrects it, dude if i was in u.s.a i would get a medical marijuana card, as aint nice u know, its like ur a brick wall and when people talk to you, you have no emotions, wen ima bit leaan then im emotional amd always better with the ladies