Understandable but you gotta get thicker skin to deal with this place. Lots of good people can help, you just have to give out the right info and put up with some usually good natured ribbing sometimes. Try to post some pics of your actual plants when you can and then it will be a lot easier for fols to tell how bad the problem is. Nanners can be a bitch but they can be sterile sometimes too, so take some pics and let's see how bad it is.