the thing is, its not like your just a weed smoker, but your growing the shit for christs sake.. that's a big no no, and even if she had no problems with someone smoking a lil weed now and then, growing your own simply takes it to a completely different level in the eyes of the law, and guess what, she's the law..
most of the people on here are asking how to not let the cops into our homes, and here your asking about letting one into your bedroom?? i can't possibly see anything good coming out of this, other then getting your dick wet, but come one man, is your freedom really worth a couple of rolls in the hay??
i'd think long and hard about this before you decide to take it any further...