Well the different responses are because there are so many factors that are involved its something you have to figure out yourself.
Some of the factors that change the timing are.
Strains you are growing.
Grow method FIM, SCROG, SOG, mainlining, topping, lst ........
What your growing in hydro, soil, soilless........
Lighting, Temp in the grow room and on and on and on.....
I grow in roots soil it has enough nutes that I don't feed at all for the first 3 weeks or so of veg.
Seedlings don't need any food at all just light.
NOTHING you do during growth will influence sex. <---other then stressing a plant into going hermie
I have been told by a professional breeder higher temps during germination will cause more males.
Not sure if this is 100% true or not, but I tend to believe him.
I have always germinated seeds at 76 degrees and get about 80% female.
I always count the days of veg from the day the seedling breaks the soil.
I count the days of flower from the day flowers start forming usually 2-3 week after onset of 12/12.
Now im not talking about pre-flowers but actual flower formation.
As far as transplanting you want to do it before the plants get root bound.
In my case I veg in 1gal pots for 3 weeks transplant into the final pots usually 5-7gal.
I veg for another 1-3 week then its off to flower.
Here is a good read on when to harvest.
https://www.rollitup.org/subcools-old-school-organics/66405-amber-alert.html
Its another thing that you will need to figure out, the above is well written and gives you the when's and why's of harvest timing.