Why Can't People Stay Friends?

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Lucywu2012

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I got to know the other three girls fairly well. Occasionally we spent time socializing. We weren't "best friends" but I figured we were close enough to "stay" friends. Then I get laid off. Since then we've had one social outing which was about two/three months ago. Recently I tried to do another one and I got the cold shoulder. They all sounded like they were going to come and then started coming up with lame excuses last minute. Now when I call them, no one calls me back. What happened? Just because we no longer work together, why can't we enjoy each other's company? I suddenly feel like that "annoying girl" whom no one wants to associate with. It shouldn't bother me but it does. It hurts pretty bad. I really liked these people. I've always been nice to them. I'm always real with people. I don't like beating around the bush or playing games. I really cannot see what went wrong here and it hurts that they won't even talk to me. I don't even know why I care...now with my newer job I have some "friends" but I feel hurt from this past experience. It's effecting my view of new people I meet.
 
darkdestruction420

darkdestruction420

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Maybe they feel bad for backing out on you like that? They must have things they consider more important now but they didnt want to hurt your feelings at the same time so they all got out of it at the last minute and have been avoiding talking to you? Thats a theory that i thought up, to be honest ya never know what it could really be, i dont know any paticulars or anything though so this is my gut feeling from reading it.
 
tip top toker

tip top toker

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I think i come into the catagory of your friends. I have found that unless they are "best friends" then my friendship towards people is largely based around the fact that i'm in close proximity frequently such as the workplace etc, it makes sense to be friendly, once the company i worked for went bust, i've ignored phone calls and texts and invitations out with these people, i can't really be bothered, i don't really see a need. It's a good and a bad thing, i could do with some more friends, but well, i can happily sit in silence pondering things made of stuff, whereas most people will find this totally akward and try and force conversation etc, conflict of interest.

I can appreciate how it might be fairly annoying to the person on the other end of the stick though :D
 
LAX Skunky BwS

LAX Skunky BwS

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Lucywu2012 said:
I got to know the other three girls fairly well. Occasionally we spent time socializing. We weren't "best friends" but I figured we were close enough to "stay" friends. Then I get laid off. Since then we've had one social outing which was about two/three months ago. Recently I tried to do another one and I got the cold shoulder. They all sounded like they were going to come and then started coming up with lame excuses last minute. Now when I call them, no one calls me back. What happened? Just because we no longer work together, why can't we enjoy each other's company? I suddenly feel like that "annoying girl" whom no one wants to associate with. It shouldn't bother me but it does. It hurts pretty bad. I really liked these people. I've always been nice to them. I'm always real with people. I don't like beating around the bush or playing games. I really cannot see what went wrong here and it hurts that they won't even talk to me. I don't even know why I care...now with my newer job I have some "friends" but I feel hurt from this past experience. It's effecting my view of new people I meet.
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i think this topic should be in the Toke n Talk section... not the Grow Journal section...
 
Dwezelitsame

Dwezelitsame

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put that shit behind you dont dwell on it you will never figure it out dont spent time trying

stay open and warm for new friendships to grow dont look back it seem to bring pain

if you are good at heart then good will come to you

walk in the light my sister

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