long story short, I was going to grow 1-3 plants for smoking, but my wife and I had a big fight about it. So now I wont be able to grow anything, not even 1 plant she says. It sucks having to take risks buying it from other ppl. Im so damn dissapointed right now. I have been planning shit for a whole week. I havent been this excited about in 20 yrs..I have all the stuff I needed all picked out in shopping carts etc.. I swear this is prolly the worst ive fealt in a long time. I am sad as hell.. Whats so bad is before Xmas she wasnt acting like she would mind when I mentioned it to her.. But today when I told her I was getting ready to order something she just totally freaked the hell out.
The reality of your situation right now is you cannot grow in your house. Your wife is uncomfortable with growing on your property and that's fair. Happy wife - happy life.
However, you do have options. Guerrilla growing has already been mentioned.
Another option would be to go ahead and build your grow cabinet, a real stealth grow cabinet. It's not illegal so your wife can't really object if you go ahead and build it. Go to Goodwill, a junk store, or a garage sale; find the perfect item and convert it. Then once you have a decent cabinet built, start growing basil, tomatoes, or flowers in the stealth cabinet. Again, if the wife's only objection is legal she will have to keep quiet. Once you get a working stealth cabinet in place, you can start trying to sell the issue of growing cannabis to your spouse. Seeing a quality, working, stealth grow cabinet, her fears of getting caught may fade away. Stress the numerous benefits of growing your own versus supporting the black market.
Still another option would be a tad more risky: get a partner. Find someone you can trust, who is willing to grow on their property. Split expenses with them in an equitable fashion. You may have to take a shorter percentage since they are shouldering the risk, but such an arrangement could work.
Good luck and good growing.