Random Jibber Jabber Thread

meristem

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Why are men such assholes? How the fuck do they go from caring to IDGAF so fast?

They gotta be wired differently.
With me it's probably more like brain unwiring. It ain't how I'm wired - it's how I fucked up my wiring. I had the opportunity to become a civilized human being, but I chose to live like a crazy barbarian. lol
 

Flaming Pie

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you have 2??
No, that is my friends daughter. She's 3 months old. Looks and acts older tho.

I'm not sure I could handle another baby.

He left angry at me just now. He's going over to my dad's to write a thankyou for the interview letter.

He came downstairs to tell me he was going to see my dad. I said (softly) so you are going to talk to my dad about the interview? He blew up and left completely pissed off.

I hate how he handles stress.
 

meristem

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In case someone tries to impress you with zenos paradox where they ask ya how you can ever get from one place to another when you always have to pass a point halfway between where you are and where you want to go, just tell em

the infinite sum from 1 to infinity of 1/2^x is ONE. lol
 

Hookabelly

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In case someone tries to impress you with zenos paradox where they ask ya how you can ever get from one place to another when you always have to pass a point halfway between where you are and where you want to go, just tell em

the infinite sum from 1 to infinity of 1/2^x is ONE. lol
I'm so glad you posted this.
 

Flaming Pie

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lol its funny being a dude reading this. honestly i prolly wouldve acted just like him
He just apologized. Said he was handling it badly. Thank god. Another snide remark and I wouldn't of been able to keep my cool.

It's the wiring. Men have to learn to give more and women have to learn to expect less.

Compromise.
 

bu$hleaguer

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No, that is my friends daughter. She's 3 months old. Looks and acts older tho.

I'm not sure I could handle another baby.

He left angry at me just now. He's going over to my dad's to write a thankyou for the interview letter.

He came downstairs to tell me he was going to see my dad. I said (softly) so you are going to talk to my dad about the interview? He blew up and left completely pissed off.

I hate how he handles stress.
I'm kinda the same way. Sounds like he's just not sure what to say and he doesn't know how he did so he feels like he's being badgered by you about it. Just leave him alone for a bit. He'll apologize and explain how he has no idea how he did and he was nervous and how he's just got to wait for a response now and what's done is done and he can't go back and do anything differently now.

At least that's how I would have acted. I don't like talking about stuff in general so I can sense what he's thinking. Maybe I'm totally wrong but just my .02
 

Hookabelly

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I'm kinda the same way. Sounds like he's just not sure what to say and he doesn't know how he did so he feels like he's being badgered by you about it. Just leave him alone for a bit. He'll apologize and explain how he has no idea how he did and he was nervous and how he's just got to wait for a response now and what's done is done and he can't go back and do anything differently now.

At least that's how I would have acted. I don't like talking about stuff in general so I can sense what he's thinking. Maybe I'm totally wrong but just my .02
It's been my experience (married for umpteen years) that men like to go into their caves to figure things out when faced with problems. Women process/work it out by talking about right then and there. C-L-A-S-H.

Ever heard the term men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti?
 

Flaming Pie

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Ego can be a mother at times.

Have you reassured him its Really OK if he doesn't get the job?
He gets in his own head sometimes. He knows now that the most important thing to me is that he treats me right even when he is stressed. He also has to tell me that he wants to not talk about something before he gets to yelling.

I really don't like him yelling at me. He just needs to say, I'm stressed and don't want to think about it right now and I will leave him alone. As soon as he showed stress before I left him alone for two weeks about it.
 

Flaming Pie

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It's been my experience (married for umpteen years) that men like to go into their caves to figure things out when faced with problems. Women process/work it out by talking about right then and there. C-L-A-S-H.

Ever heard the term men are like waffles and women are like spaghetti?
Where is that from? Waffles and Spaghetti?

He said we can talk about it tonight.
 

bu$hleaguer

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He gets in his own head sometimes. He knows now that the most important thing to me is that he treats me right even when he is stressed. He also has to tell me that he wants to not talk about something before he gets to yelling.

I really don't like him yelling at me. He just needs to say, I'm stressed and don't want to think about it right now and I will leave him alone. As soon as he showed stress before I left him alone for two weeks about it.
I had the same kind of episode on Sunday. Freaked out on my lady about a bunch of shit I had bottled up inside for a long time. It really hurt her I could tell. My problem is I never talk about shit that bothers me or I'm worried about and when I finally do it explodes like a suicide bomber and everything gets screwed up. It's never her fault though, I know i'm an asshole
 

Hookabelly

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Where is that from? Waffles and Spaghetti?

He said we can talk about it tonight.
can't remember where from, but basic premise is that men are experts at compartmentalizing things, emotions, stress, sex, etc, and women, our shit is all intertwined and overlapped like spaghetti. For us everything has to do with everything else, not so w/ men.
PS your exchange w/ your man reminds me of when we were first married. I'd ask him to use those words, "I'm stressed and don't want to talk" instead of blowing a gasket about it. Took a long time (and mellowing with age) so it can happen but may take time. It's generally not how a guy communicates. Men react.
 

Flaming Pie

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I had the same kind of episode on Sunday. Freaked out on my lady about a bunch of shit I had bottled up inside for a long time. It really hurt her I could tell. My problem is I never talk about shit that bothers me or I'm worried about and when I finally do it explodes like a suicide bomber and everything gets screwed up. It's never her fault though, I know i'm an asshole
You gotta hug it out. With your privates. lol

Men tend to bottle. Maybe they are afraid to look afraid? Something about their perception of masculinity?

My brother is the complete opposite. He hardly ever bottles. He wears his heart on his sleeve. Hopefully his girlfriend starts treating him right. She's very manipulative. She wants him to get an apartment vs getting a house and gave him a 6 month ultimatum. He wants a house and could get one. Good credit and able to put aside 1500 a month into savings.
 
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