Hanging with girl that's turning 40, how much to spend

Meast21

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You dont have to give her money.

Buy her some flowers, maybe some perfume, candy?? Ask if she would like to go to dinner?? Movie?? Take her kid???
We went out already by a restaurant 30 miles away bc her kid left her stuffed animal at a campground... I'm giving her a $50 target giftcard and the rest money. Either $300 or $500 more.. Bc money talks and bullshit runs a marathon.
 

Meast21

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Up until about 3 months ago she was poverty stricken... Now she is a xray tech and prob makes 45k a year... Whatever I give her, I won't give her that much for XMAS.
 

HydroKid239

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Ass is a B+ .... I don't want to give her too much money, bc she might always except it. .. Like I said I have tinnitus and no longer am happy really.. I use to jump out of my bed and couldn't wait to start the day. I can't smoke weed, drink, or no caffeine.
wtf makes you feel like you need to "Pay" her? cuz you can just take her out for her bday and not get her shit as friends. js
 

HydroKid239

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Up until about 3 months ago she was poverty stricken... Now she is a xray tech and prob makes 45k a year... Whatever I give her, I won't give her that much for XMAS.
Take her out for her bday then, and actually get her something on xmas. If you want "Nothing" ultimately why rush to give 1 person so much?
Stop frontin bruh lol
either that or stop trickin LMAO
 

Meast21

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wtf makes you feel like you need to "Pay" her? cuz you can just take her out for her bday and not get her shit as friends. js
Bc I have a very easy life (minus the tinnitus) and my money collects dust. I heard a quote a few months back that giving money is the best form of admiration or something... Her Bday is one month before xmas and I want her and her kids to have a better one... I could give her 10k and it wouldn't effect me.
 

Meast21

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Take her out for her bday then, and actually get her something on xmas. If you want "Nothing" ultimately why rush to give 1 person so much?
Stop frontin bruh lol
either that or stop trickin LMAO
What u mean fronting? I don't get it... I don't front
 

HydroKid239

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Bc I have a very easy life (minus the tinnitus) and my money collects dust. I heard a quote a few months back that giving money is the best form of admiration or something... Her Bday is one month before xmas and I want her and her kids to have a better one... I could give her 10k and it wouldn't effect me.
I've heard on here a million times that flushing is for toilets, but there have been times that I just got up and walked away.. where's that leave me?
If you wanna blow all this dusty money on her then why not build something there while you're at it. Maybe that will help influence on how much you want to help her n the kids when you are no longer around. If you do not have "That" person in your life, and want "That" person to be her... then stop frontin' and speak to her man.
1. Go all out to make sure she is happy (PS. Money don't really solve EVERYTHING) Prove it? Ok
If I gave you 10k would you feel better?
Ok then.
2. Talk to her. See if she is on the same level as you are.. communication is key right now. If you keep thinking about you.. you will stay stuck not knowing what to do next.. which is what brought this thread about..

You love her bro. Stop beating around the bush and lying to yourself.
You and her already have that connection.. or at least you do.
Speak up man.. or you will get hurt like any other mf that has the rest of their life to live.. no matter how long.

I'm not even trying to talk down to you, or play you/diss you in any way.. I just Troll it like I see it.
 

ilovereggae

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We went out already by a restaurant 30 miles away bc her kid left her stuffed animal at a campground... I'm giving her a $50 target giftcard and the rest money. Either $300 or $500 more.. Bc money talks and bullshit runs a marathon.
i always have been a fuck what anyone else thinks kind of person. life is too short. do what makes you happy. just make sure you are 100% honest with yourself that you aren't going to be hurt if she doesn't have the same feelings.

if thats all solid then I say give her the $300 and then also find something nice that you put some more thought into. doesnt have to cost much. a book on some topic she likes. or something like that to show you put some thought into it and it's not just about the money.

nothing wrong with spending your money on other people just don't go crazy and get yourself hurt.
 

ilovereggae

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also one of my best friends has tinnitus. I know it can be terrible and sorry you have to deal with it. he is a musician and it pretty much changed his whole life bc he uses his ears to earn a living. his flares up due to anxiety which then causes more stress and makes it worse. he has been able to get some relief from yoga and working out to stay on top of things. I know its an ongoing thing but just saying don't give up hope in life things can get better. peace
 

Relic79

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Does she pay rent somewhere? If she is truly just getting back on her feet, and you don't want to just throw cash at her, and do want to seem like you put some effort in, you could try to contact her landlord and take care of a month's rent?

A month not having to worry about keeping a roof over head could mean a lot?
 

Meast21

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also one of my best friends has tinnitus. I know it can be terrible and sorry you have to deal with it. he is a musician and it pretty much changed his whole life bc he uses his ears to earn a living. his flares up due to anxiety which then causes more stress and makes it worse. he has been able to get some relief from yoga and working out to stay on top of things. I know its an ongoing thing but just saying don't give up hope in life things can get better. peace
Yeah tinnitus is bad. Mine is reactive which means it goes up with the tv being on, furnace, etc... Yeah many people told me to try Yoga.
 

Meast21

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Does she pay rent somewhere? If she is truly just getting back on her feet, and you don't want to just throw cash at her, and do want to seem like you put some effort in, you could try to contact her landlord and take care of a month's rent?

A month not having to worry about keeping a roof over head could mean a lot?
She owns a crappy house...
 

tyler.durden

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Bc I have a very easy life (minus the tinnitus) and my money collects dust. I heard a quote a few months back that giving money is the best form of admiration or something... Her Bday is one month before xmas and I want her and her kids to have a better one... I could give her 10k and it wouldn't effect me.

Dude, don't fuck around with her. Give me the 10k. I'm a sure thing, and my ass is also a B+. I'll treat you so well. I'll suck your dick so hard it will cure your tinnitus. Think about it...
 

J232

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I could give her 10k and it wouldn't effect me.
Change her life, give her 10k, and then go for a drive and hand out some cash to people on the street. Money sucks man, life isn’t about cash and it’s sad we spend or spent most of our time getting it. 10k isn’t “I like you” imo. 300 and a box of chocolates is.
 

moonman33

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Got money and want to ACTUALLY help? Set up 529's for those kids of hers or small investment accounts. Or throw money at her like she's a god damned whore, Im sure that'll go well.

Also, the BEST gift you could give a 40 year old woman with kids? DO NOT FUCK WITH HER MENTALLY. You seem like you are well on your way to being an asshole and ruining her life some more. If you don't have feelings stop hanging out with her, or at least stop hooking up with her. If you want to only be friends make that real fucking clear. Otherwise you're being a huge asshole, just because you're miserable doesn't mean you need to make others that way.

Maybe this is the woman who will give you a kick in your ass so you stop feeling so sorry for yourself and get back to living life. Lot of people have it worse than you bud, buck up and get back out there.

Any women on this forum?
 
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