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N0iZ

N0iZ

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ok...so...I don't really know how to start, so I'll just say it. I am having trouble determining weather I am straight or gay, and finding it even harder to talk about it with anyone in my family or friends in fear of what they will think.

I am still technically a virgin, but have messed around with both sexes, and to be honest liked both. It may sound wired but to me, I don't care weather a person is a boy or a girl, all that matters is that they feel the same way about me that I do for them. It is true that later in life i want to settle down with a woman and have a family with her and all that junk, but as for right now I'm very confused.

I mean...I am currently in a situation where I have a choice between a girl and a guy to be in a steady relationship with, and I really feel a lot for both of them. I just don't know what to do...
any advice? comments?


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please don't use this thread as a chance to gay bash me, that is the very reason i am having such a hard time with this Thank you
 
dan catalyst

dan catalyst

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i dont think you have to worry about anyone bashing you here.we are all pretty open.im stright, but i hang out with mostly gay or bi people in the 'rave' comunity.the most important thing is to get with a group of people who are supportave of you no matter what your into.im not sure whre your from, but if its possable try and go to a rave and get in with that crowd.lots of stright and gay people, but everyone is accepting.its looks to me like gay clubs might be a little drmatic you your tast,but dont rule them completely out if you get desperate for acceptance,lol.yeah man,just chill with some buds.fuck the haters their are plenty of other people out there who have something positive to offer you.
 
leeny

leeny

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i feel ya man. bi is less accepted than being gay IMO, but when you do find your true friends and the one you love, it'll be better than you could imagine...... journey on!
 
OregonMeds

OregonMeds

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I'm a bi dude, sounds like you are too. You only have one shot at life and one chance at enjoying being the age you are now so enjoy it. Do what you can to gain the confidence to rise above the bullshit and feel confident in yourself and just go with the flow. If you're an honest monogamous bi guy just be that guy straight up with each person you ever date or whatever, no problems people will accept it or not and it's not that big of a deal if they don't.

Some girls are not ok with it, some are, others are more than ok with it and might want you to play with a guy or be their excuse to try threesomes etc you just never know.

Lots of potential, Enjoy the adventure... If you don't know who you want maybe you just need to be friends longer and see what happens, eventually you'll have more feelings for one and their sex won't be the deciding factor necessarily.
 
what... huh?

what... huh?

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Sounds to me like you just want to be loved, and the sexuality isn't important. Any feelings will feel like strong feelings... which is confusing.

I recommend you work on independence for a while. The rest will come naturally. This feels like a rush to find something to fill a void. I find that dishonest to people who might actually be investing feelings in you.

Unless you are masturbating with images in mind... this isn't about sex. Sex is a hurdle to be conquered for love.



Gotta love you first.


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heathaa

heathaa

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all i know is people choose to be gay they arent born that way. i dont mind hanging out with gays bis les or whatever usually as long as they keep it to themselves
 
hanimmal

hanimmal

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Life is tough. Like What said you need to figure out how to be yourself and just be happy with what you are and have. Trying to decide what relationship to be in shouldn't be different than me trying to decide which girl to date in college. It is a choice between two people, take the notions of what society says you are deciding between out of it.

Besides only one choice I made worked out for me with all the attempts I had at dating. And I don't even have to deal with being someone that has to deal with societies pressures as I am strait. So just go into whatever you are with a good attitude and don't look back, if it works it works. If it doesn't it won't.

It is true that later in life i want to settle down with a woman and have a family with her and all that junk, but as for right now I'm very confused.
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Why? What happens if it turns out you end up in a life that does not make you happy. Family life would not be much fun if you force yourself into a situation that you hate.
 
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