My Girl Doesn't Want Me Smoke Weed No More

[Anjinsan]

Get another chick. Or quit weed. We cannot decide for you.

Mine tried pot once...hated it...but she doesn't give me crap about it. I soooo fucked up her first time though. 3 foot bong and made her clear it...she was coughing for like 20 minutes. It was a dick move that probably cost me a smoking buddy.

She says though "think of all the weed you saved!" She's not a stupid girl.

 

[krayz211]

LOL!

Yeah I have to agree after hearing about her pops being a cop.

If you stay with her and somehow manage to piss her off big time, she can spill her guts to pops and get you in a load of trouble with the authorities. That is if you don't give up the green and continue to smoke it behind her back.

Don't think she would ever do that?? Man, I've seen and heard of too many chicks flipping their wig and doing some real nasty shit to a guy they were dating/married to.

Never underestimate the amount of hell a scorned woman can rain down upon you.

And once again... at 24 years old, you should be out there playing the field. Hell, you might actually come across a chick you like and enjoy spending time with BETTER than this current one. And she might even blaze up with you.

Whatever you decide to do, best of luck.

thank you guys...you help a lot!...since 99% in here are smoking weed i know this will be the best site to ask advice about my problem....and so far not a bias advice..(it will be different if i go to a non-budsmokers)
if only all people smoke weed there will be no problem in this world hayzz... thanks again..on monday i let her see me high and see whats gonna happen...(i run out of weed thats y i hve to w8 for my stsh this monday) thanks again THANNKKSSSS

 

[Warmonger]

if sam told me 2 stop
i would
i value her love and company
waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more than i do weed

And I'd bet a dollar she values your love and company so much that she wouldn't ask you to give it up.

 

[Green Cross]

thank you guys...you help a lot!...since 99% in here are smoking weed i know this will be the best site to ask advice about my problem....and so far not a bias advice..(it will be different if i go to a non-budsmokers)
if only all people smoke weed there will be no problem in this world hayzz... thanks again..on monday i let her see me high and see whats gonna happen...(i run out of weed thats y i hve to w8 for my stsh this monday) thanks again THANNKKSSSS

If she wanted you to cut your hair differently I would've given you the same advice. She's making excuses about why she's not happy. Maybe she has some growing up to do

 

[Warmonger]

Get another chick. Or quit weed. We cannot decide for you.

Mine tried pot once...hated it...but she doesn't give me crap about it. I soooo fucked up her first time though. 3 foot bong and made her clear it...she was coughing for like 20 minutes. It was a dick move that probably cost me a smoking buddy.

She says though "think of all the weed you saved!" She's not a stupid girl.

That's a good girl you have there!

And shame on you for jacking up her first experience with the green. hahah!

That's a dick move you would pull on your little brother, not your hunny.

Sounds like she was a great sport about it.

Anyhow I got a chuckle out of your story, I appreciate the laugh!

 

[krayz211]

If she wanted you to cut your hair differently I would've given you the same advice. She's making excuses about why she's not happy. Maybe she has some growing up to do

i dont understand this ahm...you think shes cheating?..(hope not) but i know shes not that kind of girl...i kinda agree in she needs to grow up

 

[stonurse]

i dont understand this ahm...you think shes cheating?..(hope not) but i know shes not that kind of girl...i kinda agree in she needs to grow up

lol pulis pala tatay nya...sibat na pre!!!

 

[Johnnyorganic]

i really have a problem with my girlfriend...weve been together for about 4yrs now...i just dnt understand why she doesnt want me smoking weed no more when im smoking weed since the first time she met me(she actually saw me smoking weed the first time we met,then i court her)first 2yrs was all good she dont mind if i smoke weed..then in 3 yrs we broke up coz she has problem with my mj...we sitll keep in touch(talkin about the problem)since the break up...i know my girl loves me and i really do love her..so what i did was...i told her i'll quit smoking weed if she comes back...now wer back together but im cheating on her i always hide my mj so she wont caught me and all she know i totally quit smoking weed....
my problem is...i really dont want to lie on her..i dont know how will i talk to her about it and say i lie...i dont want to lose her again and i dnt want to stop smoking weed...
can somebody help me of my problem how will i talk to her about her problem of me smoking weed...
we live in the philippines and so you guys know we really have a different culture here.. filipinos see weed as a devil..
pls sumbody help me i dont want to lose her and my mj..
how will i talk to her?
tnx in advance and sorry for my bad english

Your English is fine.

You have a choice to make.

In the beginning, weed was okay. Eventually she changed her views and left you over it. In order to win her back you told her you changed your views and left weed, temporarily. Now you are deceiving both her and yourself.

You do not have a choice to make after all. You've already made it.

Now you must man up and follow through with your choice because it is the kindest and most honest thing to do in terms of someone you care about. Otherwise she will catch you eventually, and it will be ugly.

Good luck.

 

[Xeno420]

You don't love her as much as you think you do because if you did, then you would leave everything for her. If you can't then move on and smoke your life away. If your lucky, you might forget about her and if your not lucky, you will kick yourself on the ass for the rest of your life... untill you find someone new and she might not be as precious as the girl you have now. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.

 

[tip top toker]

first if she truly loves you then why does she give a damn about what her parents think, i certainly wouldn't not be with someone because their habbits clashed with my parents beliefs or jobs or whatnot.

work out what each mean to you, she's obviously pretty important, and i can't say how important MJ is in your life, but if you're having to ask these questions online etc, then chances are, pretty important, so you've got to think if she's gonna dominate you on this subject, what irritating habbit is she gonna stamp down on next? why not find something that she really likes and tell her it really bothers you for a valid reason, like fucking ugg boots!

i'd persoanlly be outta there.

 

[Stealthhydrosucks]

No woman is worth giving up your fun for. Long as you aren't cheating on her she has no right to bitch. If she loved you, she would want you to be happy and to have your medicine.

Find a new girl. Plenty of fish in the sea dude. I more or less divorced a chic recently over this very issue. Well a few other issues too, but ganja and her bullshit attitude about it was a major one.

 

[stanklin420]

shit man i know about it. Most of my good girlfriends didnt smoke weed. but we got past it eventually. girls just dont want to be put second before weed. she wants to b ur one and only thing that makes u happy. she sees it as the weed is what makes u happy and not her. like ud rather go smoke than be with her. its all a bunch of bull shit if u ask me. but thats how girls think. The only thing u can really do is explain to her all passionately or whatever that she is more important to u than weed is but u still need to have it in ur life because it helped u quit gangbangin. xplain that u wont smoke when u are around her and that u will just smoke before or after seeing her. and if she still wont accept that, then i really dont know what to tell u. you will just have to move along. try and find a girl that does smoke or something if all else fails. hope this helps

 

[crazygetup]

1/2 of the humans on this little planet of ours are female. I'm guessing you won't have too much trouble finding someone who enjoys cannabis. GL bro

 

[morgentaler]

If she thinks you smoke it too much, is there a compromise you can reach where you don't smoke it as much?

Aren't the drug laws also extremely strict in the Phillipines? As in life sentences for marijuana possession?
If that's the case she's in a difficult position, caring for you and having a father in the police force.

If he were to find out, and didn't like you much, that could mean a lot of trouble for you.

If you can talk it out without a fight, good luck. But you've got a couple of counts against you because of the laws and her father.

 

[brainwarp]

You have to realize, that a woman's success is based on her man's success. Doesn't matter how she measures it, financial, social, etc.

It's actually a good thing though, and an important part of relationships. You should both be steering each other toward success and growth as a person.

She probably thinks weed is holding you back in some way. Here's what I would do, but you know her better, and can adjust this as you see fit.

Tell her you understand why she wants you to quit, but you really like it, so you'll cut down to just on weekends, etc. to please her. If you want to smoke more than that, you'll have to do it on the sly, just don't get caught. If you're not doing shit behind your woman's back, you're not trying hard enough....or your a pussy....lol.

The other thing I'd do is get her to like it. Take her somewhere special for a romantic evening. Get her (and you) good and drunk. Not too drunk, not just buzzed, just right. Then get out some good weed, and get her stoned too. If she doesn't want any, convince her to have some anyway. It will make her lose her inhibitions. Then fuck her real good. Bring your A game and make her come over and over.

I guarantee that will change her mind about weed.

 

[sarah22]

dude. i'd never choose a guy over my beloved mary jane. as far as im concerned, i'll find a guy who loves weed as much as i do, and be happy with him. my theory, is that stoners belong in relationships with other stoners. because for a lot of people weed is more of a lifestyle thing. i need the pot just to not go crazy. its such a big part of my life, almost like a religion! lol. yep. i worship the goddess that is mary jane.

if she truly cares about you she'll learn to get over it and accept you and love you for exactly who you are and what you do. its not like weed is hurting anything. now if you were addicted to say, meth or heroin i could understand, because that would be about your safety. but weed isnt going to hurt anyone. if she has a problem with it, thats her issue to deal with on her own and its not fair for her to put that issue onto you. if you sacrifice your weed for a girl, what else are you willing to sacrifice? i would almost worry that she would think she can get you to change and sacrifice other things by threatening to leave you, which is manipulative. talk to her, tell her that you love her and you want to be with her, but you are not going to sacrifice who you are and the things in life that you value to make her happy. shes supposed to be with you because YOU make her happy, exactly the way you are.

 

[qptyqpty]

Yeah, i hate to say it but your mj smoking is probably a problem. If she is saying you need to get off your ass and do something, IMHExp it has been true. Usually I had gotten apathetic in not being able to find a job and as such just spent a lot of time smoking weed and sitting on the computer. Thats no way to live with someone. So you probably need to get out, do something different. Living in the phillippines, I would say if she truly doesnt want you smoking pot and you had pot before her and you dot want to quit smoking, why should you change what you enjoy for someone else. However if it is actually a problem such as substance abuse, thats totally different. If youre going thru an ounce then pass out for 12 hours, and dont work, then eat up all the shit in the crib, thats a problem. (sorry folks, yes, I have been there, done that too.) Give it up for a while to clean your shit up then get your act together and only smoke to the point its enjoyable, not enslaving you dude. =)

You should never have to sacrifice. Sometimes it is important that you compromise but theres a big difference. You can tell her look, I cant deal with your shit (because i have been to the phillippines and I know that a fili can be a fucking bitch sometimes. A real holy fuckin nightmare... ) I cant deal with your shit and I cant deal with your fucking mother without this ganja. Its been with me since before you and I think it is wrong of you to ask me to quit something I enjoy. However, I realize (insert her argument here) and I have decided to cut back on my marijuana consumption by 50% starting today, then gradually reduce my consumption to (desired agreeable minimum amount) by next week, so long as you can (desired compromise she needs to do, IE: quit bitching 25% starting today (I dont know if 25% is reasonable in your situation. lol you might get lucky with 5% haha) with an increase to 50% over a few months, and dont try to get rid of the mother, you couldnt get so lucky =)

 

[biggun]

You will never have a trusting relationship if you lie about the things you love... She either loves you for who you are or she doesn't.. If smoking weed is not hurting you financially or preventing you from doing what you are suppose to do then she will find something else for you to give up once she has taken that from you.. She just wants to see if she has the power... Hope it all works out for you PEACE

 

[sarah22]

You will never have a trusting relationship if you lie about the things you love... She either loves you for who you are or she doesn't.. If smoking weed is not hurting you financially or preventing you from doing what you are suppose to do then she will find something else for you to give up once she has taken that from you.. She just wants to see if she has the power... Hope it all works out for you PEACE

yep thats exactly what i was saying too she wants to see how much power over you she actually does have. i'd make her some brownies to get her to hush up!

 

[Woodstock.Hippie]

"thanks again..on monday i let her see me high and see whats gonna happen"

The Dude's In Jail.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
You called ITWarmonger.

" . . . and my family wont accept you if they knew about it" - Bingo

Things are differently in the Philippines.

"filipinos see weed as a devil.."

Which One?