Padawan, I realize you have little comfort in hearing what I have to add here, "alas"....here it goes.
Rick has points you will refuse to acknowledge with even an ounce of credence. Open up to reality.
Coming from someone who has been surrounded by gay men on all too many occassions...he is not lying.
Gay men, in general, are overbearing in exerting every extension of themselves. They do indeed have a deep need to be accepted. We all do. Where general acceptance does not suit them, an everlasting excessive need to draw attention to themselves in an exravagant manner leads to childish temper tantrums......and God help us---in the name of petty lawsuits, if not accordingly balanced.