Privacy, Friends and Your Significant Other

[Padawanbater2]

So I was in an argument earlier with my girlfriend and I got pretty mad so I went outside to smoke and chill out and I started texting a friend about the situation, just getting advice and stuff. So I come in and she wants to know what we were talking about, what my friend said and a million other questions I refused to answer because it was a private conversation between MY friend and I. She got upset and said I'm acting 'shady' about it.

So what do you think, should there be a little bit of privacy in these kinds of situations and should my girlfriend respect that I don't want to disclose private conversations between my friends and I?

 

[Brimi]

In deed - some privacy is needed. Not because it's not for her ears to hear but for the prinip's sake. I always tell her that i was talking to MY friend and it's none of her busines (but with a smile, so she doesn't get paranoia thinking all kinds of things). I want the privacy just because i want it. Another twist to this is, that sometimes my girlfriend will be talking on her phone - talking loud and laughing (you know how they do to provoke a "what was that all about"? question from me) But i don't ask - none of my business (off course she ends up telling the story anyways ;O)

 

[Ella Jean]

even if we are committed in a certain relationship, it does not mean that we will also be depriving ourselves of the privacy that we much deserve. in this situation, i think there will be nothing wrong if you will not tell her all of your moves and conversations. you still have the right to keep that to yourself. this will not be like keeping a secret from her, it is more of like putting some boundaries as to where and what she can step on in your life...

 

[ANC]

Lol, after fucking more years than I care to count, I have never had any secrets from my wife, appart from currently a friend's wife got pregnant, and he told me as we are doing a business venture together, but anyway, they are waiting for the 2 month point before they want people to know... and that would include my wife. My word is my word. I would also never discuss any relationship problems with a mutual aquiantance, it just makes things complicated. bunch of starngers on the internet is probably the most balanced responce you will find anyway.

Someday when you are old and helpless, or maybe while you are still young and become dissabled like happend to mee, you'll see all that privacy stuff between two people who become one, is a crock of shit.

 

[The Cryptkeeper]

Haha. Fuck her. I personally wouldn't give a shit one way or another, but don't tell her if you don't want to. No biggie.

 

[thedoc08]

Typically I leave those emotional conversations about relationship problems to the girl and her friends, and then obviously not care about the context. By manning up, you avert this situation entirely.

 

[Slojo69]

Lol, after fucking more years than I care to count, I have never had any secrets from my wife, appart from currently a friend's wife got pregnant, and he told me as we are doing a business venture together, but anyway, they are waiting for the 2 month point before they want people to know... and that would include my wife. My word is my word. I would also never discuss any relationship problems with a mutual aquiantance, it just makes things complicated. bunch of starngers on the internet is probably the most balanced responce you will find anyway.

Someday when you are old and helpless, or maybe while you are still young and become dissabled like happend to mee, you'll see all that privacy stuff between two people who become one, is a crock of shit.

Agreed, All this "You have the right to your privacy" is horse shit. Yes you do, but look what kinda problems it started? Of course someone is gonna get pissed and suspicious when you won't tell them. If there is a reason, like what ANC mentioned, that you can't tell her, then tell her the reason you can't tell her other than "Fuck off, I need my privacy". There is no privacy in a relationship bro. Everything has to be in the open, she wants to know what you ate that day and what color your shit was afterwords, you tell her. Make sure you tell her she is a nasty ass freak, but you tell her!

 

[Big P]

heres a taste of my night last night

it was my turn to have the kids so they were at my house, im divorced

I got my drunk ex wife texting me all types of crazy shit, i got my phone on silent cuz my g/f just cant handle the baby momma drama,

and i sure as hell aint gonna anwser the phone to talk to my drunk ex actin phsyco

then my ex wife drunk dials the cops and tells them some crazy shit like shes worried about our son,

they come bangin on my front door, asking were my son is, im like aaaaa ya my crazy ex wife is trippin again, just then my little son walks down the stairs and is like,

"hey whos dat"

and the he stops in his tracks and says "huuuh!!!! Da Police!!!!!" and runs behind me for cover lol

so i say, hey little buddy its your friends the police, its ok

and he comes out from behind me they give him a badge sticker and tell me to save all my crazy texts from my exwife

they were cool as shit.


anyway, i didnt even wanna tell my g/f the real reason the cops came so I just told her my friend was parked on the street and they told me to move the car.


i got 1 g/f and 1 ex wife and when they both start triping its insane,

this morning i had to call both of them and set'em straight

I guess its true what they say, nothins free in this world


I think it was a wise man who once said


"bitches be trippin"

 

[420God]

It seems like people that have strong friendships have weak relationships. At least that's what I've observed to be the case most of the time.

Slojo69 said it pretty good, there is no privacy in a meaningful relationship.

 

[Big P]

It seems like people that have strong friendships have weak relationships. At least that's what I've observed to be the case most of the time.

Slojo69 said it pretty good, there is no privacy in a meaningful relationship.

that makes sense, some women and even men are possesive, so if you like to hang with your friends a lot they see it as a threat,

my ex wife was even jealous of my dog, it was fucking nuts,

even my new g/f trips cuz i like to have my friends over a lot, even though she acted like it was all good when we first started dating and I told her that i left the last wench for constatly hatin on me over my friends (amoung other things), they cant stand for you to have any type of close relationship with anyone but themselves,


i guess they will never learn, but im never gonna bow down to anyone


if anything i do more of the things that bother them to bring things to a head and either they learn how to deal with it, or we go our separate ways,


lifes too short to deal with anyones bullshit

 

[Brimi]

It's not because i want to hide anything from my girlfriend - it just doesn't concern her what i'm talking to my friend about. Just like it doesn't concern my friends what i'm talking to my girlfriend about - just none of their businesses. If what i'm talking to my friend about is something my girlfriend would find interesting to know i would tell her myself - i just don't want her to ask "who was that" and "what was that about" every time i'm on the phone.

 

[Big P]

It's not because i want to hide anything from my girlfriend - it just doesn't concern her what i'm talking to my friend about. Just like it doesn't concern my friends what i'm talking to my girlfriend about - just none of their businesses. If what i'm talking to my friend about is something my girlfriend would find interesting to know i would tell her myself - i just don't want her to ask "who was that" and "what was that about" every time i'm on the phone.

ya exactly, that shit is de-masculating, what man wants to have to answer to a women ever 2 seconds, about what they r doing,
not saying men are better than women or anything like that, but its like a boy gets yelled at and harped at by his mom when he is young,
then he becomes a man moves out only to have some bitch move in to harp at him some more, i dont think so

 

[420God]

ya exactly, that shit is de-masculating, what man wants to have to answer to a women ever 2 seconds, about what they r doing,
not saying men are better than women or anything like that, but its like a boy gets yelled at and harped at by his mom when he is young,
then he becomes a man moves out only to have some bitch move in to harp at him some more, i dont think so

It's only "de-masculating" if you let it get to you, besides, it's better than being alone.

 

[Brimi]

It's only "de-masculating" if you let it get to you, besides, it's better than being alone.

If that would cause somebody to be alone i think the person would be better of alone or with somebody else ;O)

 

[420God]

If that would cause somebody to be alone i think the person would be better of alone or with somebody else ;O)

I won't disagree, if you're not happy with the person you're with then end it, it wasn't meant to be.

I've been with my wife for 10 years and there are no secrets, asking questions gives us something to talk about.

It's become part of life for me, as for her, we are one.

 

[Brimi]

I'm with my girlfriend for 11 years and i just laugh when she still ask those questions - and she smiles knowing that it's not because it's a secret but simply because she knows it's none of her business ;O)

 

[Big P]

ya it gets to me a lot for some reason, i cant stand feeling like somebody is telling me what to do in a zone where they have no authority to do so


like at work, ill be the first to do what my boss says and get it done asap, because im being paid, and thats good work ethic,

but if im in my own home, and someone is trying to tell me whats what, that really pisses me off to no end,

I guess thats why my marrige ended

i guess i refuse to comprimise on certain key issues

 

[420God]

I'm with my girlfriend for 11 years and i just laugh when she still ask those questions - and she smiles knowing that it's not because it's a secret but simply because she knows it's none of her business ;O)

Hmm, no wonder marriages are becoming a thing of the past and divorce rates are through the roof.

 

[Big P]

I'm with my girlfriend for 11 years and i just laugh when she still ask those questions - and she smiles knowing that it's not because it's a secret but simply because she knows it's none of her business ;O)

ya damn you been with your g/f longer than I was married,

you guys ever gonna get married you think?


then she will have more controll over you, specially if you make more money.

 

[incognegro999]

funny thread. I actually got into it with the old lady this morning, got woken up because she decided to go through my phone and read what I was texting to a buddy. I didnt say anything crazy buddy of mine is going through a nasty divorce and I wrote "Im so sick of women" and then realizing how gay that sounded I wrote Im so sick of relationships with shady women. Be a man, set boundaries. She learned a valuable lesson today. Moral of the story if there is no trust and you have to know someones every movement and word why would you want to be with that person.