i Got Hugged at Work Today

budlover13

budlover13

King Tut
Carne Seca said:
You're preaching to the choir, brother.

Sorry for the confusion. I wasn't saying it was a sexual advance. A bromance is a straight thing. Totally platonic. No homo. :p


(unless alcohol is involved but that's a whooole different story)
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Ahhh, ok. i remember the Bud Light commercials now.

Not too hip on bromance either unless i've known one for quite a while (and most often burned down with him). Kinda a loner by choice. Hermit would describe my ideal lifestyle.
 
budlover13

budlover13

King Tut
Carne Seca said:
You're preaching to the choir, brother.

Sorry for the confusion. I wasn't saying it was a sexual advance. A bromance is a straight thing. Totally platonic. No homo. :p


(unless alcohol is involved but that's a whooole different story)
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And idc HOW drunk one is, my reaction won't be warm. Actually, if i'm drinking the alcohol, i'm MUCH less likely to temper my response. Unlike when i've just smoked a joint.
 
budlover13

budlover13

King Tut
Trolling said:
Did you tell other coworkers?
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Yep, a few. The ones i associate with on a personal basis (i.e. have smoked out with because if i know you PERSONALLY, we're smoking).

Warned my buddies that my red flags were popping up. They know i don't talk shit to talk shit.

You can call it gossip and i can call it giving my buddies a heads-up 'cuz something just ain't right about this dude.

Disseminating facts, if you please.

i clearly stated that i know nothing of this guy before today and the actions of the day (on both sides).
 
Trolling

Trolling

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A lone wolf like myself, that is gossip and does not have work friends. If it was me, I'd brush it off and move on. I've known people to talk about other people at work behind their back and even had suspension back of people talking about me but I never care about what people say, just forget it and move on. Like my mother told me countless times, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all.
 
budlover13

budlover13

King Tut
Trolling said:
A lone wolf like myself, that is gossip and does not have work friends. If it was me, I'd brush it off and move on. I've known people to talk about other people at work behind their back and even had suspension back of people talking about me but I never care about what people say, just forget it and move on. Like my mother told me countless times, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all.
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And tomorrow is a new day after he has had time to sleep on it and decide how to deal with me. i'm not one to talk behind backs, which is why i told him to his face that he shouldn't do that again. i'm also true to those who have proven themselves true to me over someone who hasn't. i give a guy a fair shake but the proof is in the pudding.

As for caring what people say, this is my theme song in that regard.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPgWNuUkuA8

As for dealing with it at work, i went to my supervisor with a concern (even though light-heartedly). That puts me in the legal "right" in the workplace. Technically, i just became a "protected employee" per whistle-blower laws. NEVER a bad thing imo. Cya. NOW, if it continues, i will complain formally and strongly and if it isn't addressed EFFECTIVELY i will be in a "hostile work environment fostered by the employer". You make your discomfort known to enough people and they become witnesses to the truth.

i would NEVER ask anyone to lie for me but if they are privy to the facts and i need them to witness on my behalf then it is in my best interest to shoot straight from the hip with them.

As for "nothing nice to say", i TRY to follow that rule but in the end, the truth is the truth. i'll take truth over "kindness" any day.
 
lokie

lokie

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budlover13 said:
A couple of other co-workers were harping the entire day that he likes my ass. i laughed, for a bit........
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budlover13 said:
THEN i said i can't blame him lol.
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Telling Management is appropriate. Telling the general public and joining in public ridicule
would tilt this into the GOSSIP column.


My thought: it became gossip when you jokingly told the manager.

sooo ima guess this is not an acceptable for of greeting for you?


 
budlover13

budlover13

King Tut
lokie said:
Telling Management is appropriate. Telling the general public and joining in public ridicule
would tilt this into the GOSSIP column.


My thought: it became gossip when you jokingly told the manager.
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i jokingly told him because it made me uncomfortable and having worked with him for a year, i knew it would make him even MORE uncomfortable (he's a fundamentalist Christian). As former management, i would want to know so-as to be informed of my employees concerns and how they brought it to my attention would have little bearing on my response. If them joking with me is the only comfortable way to approach me then me balking at that would create a work environment in which they feel they cannot communicate openly and honestly with management imo.

EDIT: TECHNICALLY, that's battery, not assault.
 
budlover13

budlover13

King Tut
lokie said:
Telling Management is appropriate. Telling the general public and joining in public ridicule
would tilt this into the GOSSIP column.


My thought: it became gossip when you jokingly told the manager.

sooo ima guess this is not an acceptable for of greeting for you?


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From anyone other than my wife, no. Technically, that's assault and could even be construed as sexual assault.

i DON'T like my space invaded.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=437Ld_rKM2s
 
Carne Seca

Carne Seca

Well-Known Member
budlover13 said:
i jokingly told him because it made me uncomfortable and having worked with him for a year, i knew it would make him even MORE uncomfortable (he's a fundamentalist Christian). As former management, i would want to know so-as to be informed of my employees concerns and how they brought it to my attention would have little bearing on my response. If them joking with me is the only comfortable way to approach me then me balking at that would create a work environment in which they feel they cannot communicate openly and honestly with management imo.

EDIT: TECHNICALLY, that's battery, not assault.
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Tell him you're gay. He will never touch you again. You may even have the satisfaction of watching him run screaming from the room.
 
Chiceh

Chiceh

Global Mod, Stoner Chic
This would bother me just as much. Personal space should be respected, especially with strangers.
 
MojoRison

MojoRison

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You don't strike me as a person who judgement, like syrup for pancakes is easily passed on. From your previous posts it seems more likely that your "instincts" were telling you something wasn't right and you acted accordingly. The work place is not a recreational facility and one must act within a certain guide line when there. Common knowledge.

That being said...I'm a hugger and not afraid to admit it, if we were to meet {outside of work} I would shake your hand and probably draw you close for the 1 arm brotherly hug.
 
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