i Got Hugged at Work Today

Padawanbater2

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While it might have been a little awkward your reaction seemed a bit over the top imo

If it happens again just take a step back and let him know it makes you uncomfortable

After that if it keeps happening, that's when extra steps should be taken to dissolve the situation, but you shouldn't posture up or act aggressive either way, that's definitely not the right way to handle it
 
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fdd2blk

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if this thread had been started by a girl, and it was a creepy dude hugging her, i bet it would have gotten a much different response.

"personal space" is just that. respect it.
 
srh88

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Padawanbater2 said:
While it might have been a little awkward your reaction seemed a bit over the top imo

If it happens again just take a step back and let him know it makes you uncomfortable

After that if it keeps happening, that's when extra steps should be taken to dissolve the situation, but you shouldn't posture up or act aggressive either way, that's definitely not the right way to handle it
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maybe if you try hard enough tomorrow you can get a blow job
 
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fdd2blk

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Carne Seca said:
I am the definition of a chatty Cathy. (Gay stereotype intended) I cannot shut the fuck up. Even in a movie theater. I have a permanent callous on the back of my skull from all the head slaps to shut me up. I can't help it. My sister constantly threatens to buy me a muzzle. I would chew through the straps. My will to speak is too strong. I even talk in my sleep. My brothers call it mouth diarrhea. I call them dumb fucks. They beat me until I lose consciousness. It was worth it. Anyway... what was the topic again?
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"ME, ME, ME!!!!"

lame. :roll:
 
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fdd2blk said:
if this thread had been started by a girl, and it was a creepy dude hugging her, i bet it would have gotten a much different response.

"personal space" is just that. respect it.
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I would've said the same thing, no means no but embarrassing someone oger something that happened once and was comeplely harmless is wrong.
 
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fdd2blk

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I would've said the same thing, no means no but embarrassing someone oger something that happened once and was comeplely harmless is wrong.
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from the sound of it the dude does a pretty good job of embarrassing himself. i doubt it really hurt his image much.
 
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fdd2blk said:
from the sound of it the dude does a pretty good job of embarrassing himself. i doubt it really hurt his image much.
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That depends on who seen it, the doesn't know he embarrassed himself of nobody first pointed it out. That along with how people's brains work differently, you never know how something like this could've affected him.
 
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fdd2blk

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That depends on who seen it, the doesn't know he embarrassed himself of nobody first pointed it out. That along with how people's brains work differently, you never know how something like this could've affected him.
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i'm gonna go grab on some hotties tomorrow. then make myself out to be a victim of my own personality. it should go well. :)
 
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Man I must be more drunk than I thought, keep seeing typos in my responses.


The story here is the opposite tho, like I said too, depends on the person.
 
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Bah, you edited it didn't you lol?

Or maybe I'm more drunk than I think, just saw "of my own personality". Either way, I've hugged girls at work before, never the first to approach it but still, I don't think girls would care about a hug unless the conversation was that creepy in the first place but as Bud said, it was just random and not really sexual, maybe the guy just has anxiety about what people think of him, some people are just weird but in a different sense.
 
The Outdoorsman

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Carne Seca said:
Noooo! My dad said I would turn into a girl... oh wait.. That's if I ever kissed my OWN elbow.

Sure! Do I need to lotion up first? :p
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Nobody likes a dry wenis


(Urban Dictionary; Wenis - the skin that allows the elbows to bend, but it sounds really dirty and funny)
 
budlover13

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cannabineer said:
I have mild Asperger's. I read much nonverbal but not all, and yes; it gets me into awkwardness.

At the same time, a motormouth would be a steady irritant in my world, like a staple in my denim. I thrive on quiet and wilt in noise.

I understand your repulsion, but would suggest that you be patient but consistent. Explain in cool but utterly unambiguous language what your boundaries and expectations are (incl. speaking only when there is something to be said. That's big for me), and mentally tag the situation "gesture and posture won't register". If he isn't removed from the crew, you'll be doing yourself a favor and him a service. But I'm guessing on meager data. Some folks can't be shut up without ... being shut up. I hope this isn't one such. Nonetheless, I recommend making an especial effort to keep it verbal. And document, document, document!! Covers everyone involved. cn
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Problem solved. He wasn't asked to return today :)
 
budlover13

budlover13

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bowlfullofbliss said:
These guys work in a warehouse. It isn't like interacting with co-workers in an office or other more professional place. You speak your mind, and don't have to be nice. Dudes touching each other is unheard of, and dealt with. I think the best way to end it is to embarass him in front of other guys. The art of messing with someone till they stop their behavior, quit, or snap is a good one to perfect.

Call him out in front of people and it will end right then and there.
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That is how i got a pain in my (and most everyone else's) ass to quit. i know the proper channels and catch-words that will make a trained manager take notice. If he's UNtrained, then his bad and he will not fair well.

Love having an HR manager as a wife ;)
 
budlover13

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april said:
So on this persons first day at a new job he was nervous, trying to make friends , this is sad heaven forbid someone is concerned about ur mental state, oh no a half hug... really if i was ur manager I would question ur intentions, not his.
I hug male and female coworkers daily, hell I'll even hug a customer if they seem to need or want one. It's just a hug, ur not being raped or hurt, what hell....
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My manager is of an even more strict mindset when it comes to physical contact between employees since the company paid out a nice settlement for a sexual harassment suit about a year ago. Therefore, i was covering his ass imo.
 
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