mentally stable

[see4]

How are your parent's making you do anything? You are of legal age to be on this site right?

I know at age 18 I wasn't listening to my parent's and they couldn't force me to do anything.

Just don't take the damn things and smoke some weed, do some research on what strains are good for your symptoms. I'll never take pharmacuticals again in my life. Cannabis all the way

You took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[Carne Seca]

I don't mean to dredge this up, but from what I've read, you believe that you have some issues to deal with as well. As you said, "it is worth a try", so sessions could help too even though they don't make sense now.

To be honest, all I can say is that it sounds like you have a good support group that knows you well and that you know well - one you interact with face to face every day. This is one case where, if it were me, I think going with their advice over random Internet strangers and "friends" is a good thing.

Of course, now that you've explained all this, some people will still read your first post and respond about the "forced" thing.

p.s. This doesn't just mean accept what other's say. It sounds like you can talk to your support group too.

Having a history with substance abuse counseling I can tell you that forcing someone to seek treatment is counter-productive. Most of the time the client is resentful and combative and rarely does treatment go well. That's why I was concerned about his being "forced" into therapy.

 

[mike.hotel]

The good thing is that you realize the anger issues. I feel you, I have been there man. You can control it, and you need to learn to realize at the onset. Then you can choose to remove yourself from the situation.

 

[Hepheastus420]

Op, I was in the same situation... Only I didn't lose a GF, but a good friend killed herself. Series of events lead to me going to a psychiatric hospital for a little while. I was 16 at the time, so not like anybody would hear me out, so I was "forced" to go. But whatever, I went, told them everything, came out with nothing different lol. They prescribed me anti-depressants.. I never took a single one, and now I'm not depresed? Of course not, I don't have depression and I told them that.. I was just going through a rough time. But doctors just want to charge you for pills that you don't need then kick you out. So unless you always feel depressed or were really depressed even before she left you, I wouldn't take the pills. Because if the depression just suddenly came after that, it means you're fine and just need self time to heal.. It doesn't mean you have manic depression and you have to pop pills the rest of your life.

As for the girl, damn 4 years? Ooooh that must be rough. But people go through divorces and such after many years after that. Take your lesson from the relationship and apply it to a new one. Fix the problems that you had in the past (whether they were from you or her). Time will heal all.. Get out and talk to people, it'll help a ton. FLIRT LIKE HELL.. Nothing makes your day like making a cute girl smile. Of course you're gonna hurt, that's normal, but you HAVE to move through it. Good luck bud

 

[kr4x]

why do you have to take it? because a doctor wrote on a piece of a paper some prescription and you feel you need to take it? how old are you? Im guessing you're under 18? if you aren't then its sad you cant make your own decisions!

 

[Hepheastus420]

why do you have to take it? because a doctor wrote on a piece of a paper some prescription and you feel you need to take it? how old are you? Im guessing you're under 18? if you aren't then its sad you cant make your own decisions!

Exactly, everybody that goes to something like that ends up prescribed 1-3 different meds.. why? They were fine before and they can be fine after. And what I found HILARIOUS about the people there is that they all had JUST gone through a rough time and ended up there. I'm pretty sure they didn't need pills to heal.

Also, I thought anti-depressants were pills to cure a chemical inbalance in the brain, right? I could be way off on that one. But I'm pretty sure it adds or takes certain chemicals in your brain that make you feel certain emotions. I know they didn't test anybody's blood or did any kind of test, yet they KNOW many of these people had manic depression just based off a few questions? Bullshit.

A good example (maybe metaphor?.. doubt it).. At the time I smoked a pack of cigs like every other month.. And I told the doctor that since they asked and wanted me to tell the truth. I did, told them every other month I smoked a pack. Then BAM, they started giving me nicotine patches LOLOL. Seriously, doctors just want to prescribe you shit then kick you out

 

[guy incognito]

my mental stability reaches it's bitter end, all my senses are coming unglued

 

[ThE sAtIvA hIgH]

do not take the meds dude im serious , i was on anti depresents for a couple years and they turned me into a walking, eating ,sleeping emotionless zombie , they changed my high metabolism to an extremely low one wich made me gain a massive amount of weight over a short period of time , this was 6 years ago and im still fighting the weight , getting off of those tablets was horrendous, much much worse than coming off a 3 year amphetamine addiction , i had out of body experiences , electric shots throughout my body , dizzy spells, blackouts and many more shitty side effects , somehow i got through the withdrawal.... cold turkey , and its something i dont ever wanna mess with again .
these doctors now a days will subscribe this shit to people so fuckin easy , i think its criminal.they dont even know what they are prescribing half the time . my doctor said they had never heard of any side effects from the drugs and basically accused me of making this shit up lol he should of come around my house and watched how fucked up i was , just like my familly had to.
i hope you find the strenght to pull through the bad times without those shitty meds my friend , i damn wish i had done .

 

[ANC]

xanex fucked me over in just 2 weeks...

 

[cheechako]

Having a history with substance abuse counseling I can tell you that forcing someone to seek treatment is counter-productive. Most of the time the client is resentful and combative and rarely does treatment go well. That's why I was concerned about his being "forced" into therapy.

I just thought he really wanted to do something too - all the other posts imply that. That is why I said to keep talking it out and don't rule out sessions.

If you can work with the support group you have (and the OP gave me the impression he can), great. I didn't mean to succumb to their demands whatever they are, but it didn't sound like the OP was against trying something.

 

[ultraviolet pirate]

nothing gets your mind of a woman like another woman OP. tell your family youre okay, you love them, you dont need the pill crutch, and go find yourself another girl.

 

[pothead18]

Like o said its not her. Ive been changing for the worse. An I wont let it happen, iys changing. Hell I might even get lunch with her tomorrow. That eould be nice

 

[The Outdoorsman]

How so are you changing for the worse? Smoking too much? Personality? Lifestyle?
My opinion and experience
I don't believe anti depressants are for most people. Doctors can't know what your going through in one sit down session so why let them prescribe you a pill so easily. I went through it in my teens. Luckily I knew it was my current situation in life that was making me depressed, not something wrong with my brain. I refused the pills and am glad I knew better

Simple rule of thumb I like to do is ask yourself what did people do 100 years ago? Back then they just waited for the snow to melt. That's putting it simply but straight to the point.
Everyone's different though...


A counselor can be very helpful but for me it only works if I can relate to the person I'm speaking with.

For example I've been to two

Had a counselor in highschool that went through a lot of similar shit(alcoholism in the family mostly). He helped me through a tough time in my life and I'm glad he was available to me. I knew that he actually cared what I was talking about because he had experienced it.

Now just this past year when my mom was in her final days the hospital offers you a counselor to help you deal with the situation. My brother felt the session helped. I didn't feel a shared connection with this lady and felt it a waste of time trying to explain my emotions to someone who hasn't experienced it themselves. It was probably too soon.
Again everyone different.

My .02 hope you get something out of it.