WeedFreak78
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I'm done..can't take it anymore..you can't help those that can't help themselves,..proven to me today, as much as I wanted not to believe it..family..huh..what's that really mean?
And the walls come crumbling down.....
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bu$hleaguer
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What happened dude?
Yessica...
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I have some family I love to bits. And some I don't care for as much...
AND some friends that are family, because I choose them to be.
It means whatever you want it to!
Will Ferrell
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ive been abused my whole life. ive been slowly detaching myself from literally everything. Stopped talking to my friends years ago, now i rarely talk to family, not even on holidays. wife drives me crazy with her fucking shows she watching all day. if i hear the name nene leaks one more time i might snap
Yessica...
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It's kinda sad in here...does anyone want to talk about it?
Or this was a one post to get it off your chest kinda thing?
Either way. I'm listening (reading).
Someone asinine may or may not come in and say "poop" or something...but it's public internets, you get what you pay for.
Or this was a one post to get it off your chest kinda thing?
Either way. I'm listening (reading).
Someone asinine may or may not come in and say "poop" or something...but it's public internets, you get what you pay for.
WeedFreak78
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I've posted a few times about issues with my mother..well she didn't listen to me about shit and lost all her inheritance, $160+K, to multiple scammers. I came home, from the grow shop, to police in the driveway, they were called by her bank. She had locked me out of all financial aspects of her life and I knew there was communication between her and someone in Africa, but whenever I asked she would get aggressively defensive and lock me out. The betrayal to my father , who worked so hard for them to have a decent retirement, only to die in debt, because all she did for the last 5 years was make bad decision after bad decision, after being directly told not to, and losing at least $10 each time she made a bad decision....now this. I've personally spent thousands over the last couple years on updating her house and helping to support her, at one point so they didn't lose the house because she stopped paying the mortgage to have money to hide a loan she cosigned for her coworker who defaulted and stuck her with the $14K loan..and no car. My father loved her and stuck through all the bad times...I'm not so forgiving..I don't think.
Yessica...
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Sounds like she's mentally ill. Can't really help a person like that unless they're willing to admit they have a problem.
Sucks, for sure.
Is she asking for your forgiveness? Does she even recognize she has a problem?
Sounds like you've done a lot already.
P.S. I really like your avatar picture thing.
Carolina Dream'n
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Blood makes you related. Loyalty makes you family.
BarnBuster
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sad to say it sounds like you need to be a financial guardian over her but, unfortunately, not so easy to do. don't know if talking to an attorney (Elder Law) that specializes in this would be worthwhile, but he could at least give you some advice or tell you there's not much you could do. I would start with this.
WeedFreak78
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I don't want that responsibility..It's a long story, been a long road, I'm not abandoning her, but I'm not helping anymore either. She was warned multiple times this was going to happen and refused to listen. She trusted a total stranger over blood, that cut deeps. I've told this woman I'd kill for her, and meant it ..it only would have taken a nod.....
WeedFreak78
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I'm sure she has issues..she went on antidepressants when she F'ed up almost losing the house and was never the same after...me and my father noticed she changed..became aloof and indifferent to many things. When my father died it got even worse. I've noticed manic/depressive cycles she goes through.. I haven't talked to her since yesterday afternoon..so I don't know what's going on with her, don't really care at this point. I think she finally realizes there is a problem..but it's a little late. Forgiveness?..There is no forgiveness this time...just moving forward...
Will Ferrell
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im assuming the guy from africa is a scammer and for people who are vulnerable like your mother are easy targets. not totally her fault.
WeedFreak78
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I found out about one guy( apparently there were multiple scams) over a year ago, explained the scam to her, she continued with the relationship..eight months ago i found out he asked for money, I got mad, told her it's a scam and to break it off...a week before Christmas, she tells me this guy is coming home and wants to see her on xmas eve. I lose my shit that she's still talking to this guy and try finding out if she has sent money...I find a blog post of someone saying they were scammed by the same guy, the story was verbatim for what my mother said, even the guys name and home town.. and read it to her, she gets really defensive and shuts down..yesterday i find out my worst case scenario...It is her fault....she refused to listen to me, friends, experts...
BarnBuster
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confrontation never works. sounds like there's not going to be an easy answer. she needs help.
Yessica...
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WeedFreak78
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well If she can't figure out how before she is destitute she's gotta live with it.. She doesn't know it, but I've pretty much made my decision...everything is going to be same-same..then one day..I'm out. If she wants the help, it's on her..I'm not going to be around anymore..I'm mentally destroyed after what I've been through, I can't take it anymore. I'm numb to everything and there is a darkness closing in....I'm not sure if there is any pulling out of this..I'm ready to ride it to the end..shit I'll make it interesting..maybe get my name in the papers...
Yessica...
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Jesus fuck. Sounds like you might need a little help yourself.
Don't do anything rash. Go to the emerg before you do anything rash.
I know from experience, the worst place to be sick is sometimes your mind...
Will Ferrell
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your mom desperately wants to be loved, like everyone else in the world. Seems like a brush off thing to say, but i think serious professional help is needed for your whole family.
WeedFreak78
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You have no idea. I don't trust hospitals or police..seen it too many times, firsthand, where people went to either one for "help" and ended up institutionalized into that F'ed up healthcare/justice system..I'm all set with that. Rash..lol..I've been the level headed one for years maybe its time to try something different..I don't see how it could make things worse.."
insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results"
I've been doing the "right" things hoping for good results all my life...why....