jdhutson2006
Active Member
I'm sure this is a touchy subject for some people...i know it is for the friends of ours that'll be mentioned here. But i'm interested in other people's view on how much they let their kids know about their extra curricular activities. I have 4 between the age of 21 and 27...they know pretty much everything i've done in my younger years (edited slightly for the sake of their respect! LOL) and they know mom's a "pothead". I've had this policy with my kids that up until they reach an age where they're exposed to all the things the world has to offer, I "parent" them. but once they reach that age where their exposed to alcohol and drugs it's time to "guide" them. i've always believed that being honest with them encouraged them to be honest with me. and i know from experience what they haven't experienced...my job as a parent is to help them through those experiences...and how can you expect them to believe you when you say it's bad or good if you have no idea, in their mind?
so these friends of ours have a 13 and 16 year old. they smoke in their bedroom closet (which has a window) and they believe this had sheltered the kids from the knowledge of what their doing! REALLY? so one night i'm at their house, i'm high as a kite! and i'm hearing the dad tell about his 16 year old getting drunk and high and getting caught by his friend's parents. so they freak out on their kid and ground him and take his car away. and i tell these parents "did ya think he'd never try it? you gotta know he knows you guys smoke!" they were ADAMANT that there is no way their kids know! i called BULLSHIT!!! so later i'm hanging with the kids...talking about first cars and blah blah and the 16 year old looks at me and says "your high aren't you?!" i was like...what do you know about it? and jazzed him a little bout his currently indiscretion! mind you i get along with kids pretty well...i'm pretty honest with them and treat them with respect so what this kid says next was no surprise to me! "Mom and Dad smoke in their bedroom all the time!"
I knew the first time my oldest son and daughter tried pot. I knew BEFORE my youngest was gonna try it. they ask me about any drug their thinking about trying - acid, shrooms, coke, meth - and i tell them what i think, what i've experienced and above all, whether i approve or not. I tell them "i'm your mom i reserve the right to ALWAYS dissaprove! I have the right to say Do as I say, not as I Do!" they accept this and for the most part have left drugs (except pot) alone. They've all been or are going to college, my oldest is married with a kid, bought a nice house, and they are all kids i'm proud of!
So what do you think? is sharing a good thing? TMI for kids? Do your kids know what your smoking? LOL
so these friends of ours have a 13 and 16 year old. they smoke in their bedroom closet (which has a window) and they believe this had sheltered the kids from the knowledge of what their doing! REALLY? so one night i'm at their house, i'm high as a kite! and i'm hearing the dad tell about his 16 year old getting drunk and high and getting caught by his friend's parents. so they freak out on their kid and ground him and take his car away. and i tell these parents "did ya think he'd never try it? you gotta know he knows you guys smoke!" they were ADAMANT that there is no way their kids know! i called BULLSHIT!!! so later i'm hanging with the kids...talking about first cars and blah blah and the 16 year old looks at me and says "your high aren't you?!" i was like...what do you know about it? and jazzed him a little bout his currently indiscretion! mind you i get along with kids pretty well...i'm pretty honest with them and treat them with respect so what this kid says next was no surprise to me! "Mom and Dad smoke in their bedroom all the time!"
I knew the first time my oldest son and daughter tried pot. I knew BEFORE my youngest was gonna try it. they ask me about any drug their thinking about trying - acid, shrooms, coke, meth - and i tell them what i think, what i've experienced and above all, whether i approve or not. I tell them "i'm your mom i reserve the right to ALWAYS dissaprove! I have the right to say Do as I say, not as I Do!" they accept this and for the most part have left drugs (except pot) alone. They've all been or are going to college, my oldest is married with a kid, bought a nice house, and they are all kids i'm proud of!
So what do you think? is sharing a good thing? TMI for kids? Do your kids know what your smoking? LOL